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Originally posted by: sushan

To Msfrootie -I am sorry to reply like this I do not know how to copy your post here believe it or not but once I have personally met a 70+ old women about 3years back we were just talking casually at a bus stop and we started talking about children and she said she has none I said "sorry about that" to that she replied "i am not as I never wanted any in first place because I have always been other woman all my life since last 50 years and I do not regret it I made that choice" so when I was watching the first seen between rudra and laila where she admits that she is happy that she is not his wife and states "ghatr,bartan or bacchae sambhalti to tujhe kab sambhalti" instantly reminded me of that woman of bus stop.

I do not live in India and this woman was not an Indian but the point is there are females out there with this thinking, or mind set

I hope this clarifies my previous post.

I am sorry if I sounded too blunt or harsh in red as I am not very good in expressing my thoughts in words I am learning and trust me I have come a long way through India forum by reading lot of FFs by some wonderful writers

Originally posted by: Semanti

Oooh, I do like your post.

My answer actually questions the founding assumption of your question-- that Rudra is in love with Paro.

I don't believe he is. Anymore than I believe that Paro is in love with him.

Unpopular opinion though this may be, I feel Laila is the closest to harbouring something akin to 'love' in her heart.

Rudra's obsessive protection of Paro feels just that...obsessive. He is probably attracted to her. And he has been established as her protector very early on the show. But what does he really know about Paro? The person she is? I can probably count on my fingers the number of meaningful conversations he's had with her. I am highly skeptical of 'preordained, divine love stories'.

Paro's obsessive devotion also feels...obsessive. He saved her life on multiple counts, and by force of circumstance, she's had to rely on him for various things after her life fell apart. He is just about all she has left. Paro looks like she's latched on to Rudra by virtue of various delusions, more than any genuine feeling. We know that Paro is blindly superstitious and religious. His being named Rudra was half the battle won in her head. The doll incident clinched the deal. Oh, and his brawny self and fab hair also helped.

Laila, unfortunately, has now gone the easy-psychotic-vamp way, but I had always found her one of the most interesting characters on the show. I point-blank refuse to believe that you can sleep with one woman every night for EIGHT years, share various parts of your life with her, work with her, eat with her, and yet feel nothing for her. He may not have loved her, but if he felt no attachment/affection at all, it doesn't look very good, I'm afraid. Laila clearly is very, very attached to him. One may argue themselves blue in the face about 'just sex' and things being 'different for men', but I'm not buying it. Men, even men like Rudra, aren't ALL that different from women. And that degree of intimacy for such a prolonged period is bound to leave its mark.

I'm not interested in arguing about what promises he may have made or not made to Laila. What I am interested in his how they feel about each other. I resent the implication I've seen in many other posts that Laila's love isn't 'love' because it is selfish and Paro's is true love because it is 'divine'. That is bullshit. ALL love is selfish. Even a mother's love (closest thing we come to selfless love) has shades of self-interest. Paro's obsessive 'you-must-marry-me' stance is just about as psychotic as Laila's 'I-own-you' stance. Paro, being the heroine, didn't try to kill anyone, but looking at this story objectively, I'd sympathize far more with Laila's cause than with Paro's. Of course, we've been told that we must ship Paro-Rudra and therefore Laila doesn't stand a chance-- and normally I'd be okay with that. Desi TV is enormously regressive that way, and I know what I signed up for.

My problem is that logic aside, I just don't buy the PaRud love story. I don't believe in it, it doesn't touch me or make me root for them. I don't believe that Rudra loves Paro anymore than I believe Paro loves Rudra. On the other show that must not be named, the hero would probably have made more sense with his first fiance, and she probably had greater claim to him as well. But I still shipped the lead couple because that was the faith they inspired in me. I felt bad for ditched-fiance, but I BELIEVED that the lead couple were in love and meant to be. That is the difference, I guess.

P.S. Sorry for going ape-shit on your post; I got excited because I saw a post I agree with/understand after so long! 😆

Originally posted by: Semanti

Oooh, I do like your post.

My answer actually questions the founding assumption of your question-- that Rudra is in love with Paro.

I don't believe he is. Anymore than I believe that Paro is in love with him.

Unpopular opinion though this may be, I feel Laila is the closest to harbouring something akin to 'love' in her heart.

Rudra's obsessive protection of Paro feels just that...obsessive. He is probably attracted to her. And he has been established as her protector very early on the show. But what does he really know about Paro? The person she is? I can probably count on my fingers the number of meaningful conversations he's had with her. I am highly skeptical of 'preordained, divine love stories'.

Paro's obsessive devotion also feels...obsessive. He saved her life on multiple counts, and by force of circumstance, she's had to rely on him for various things after her life fell apart. He is just about all she has left. Paro looks like she's latched on to Rudra by virtue of various delusions, more than any genuine feeling. We know that Paro is blindly superstitious and religious. His being named Rudra was half the battle won in her head. The doll incident clinched the deal. Oh, and his brawny self and fab hair also helped.

Laila, unfortunately, has now gone the easy-psychotic-vamp way, but I had always found her one of the most interesting characters on the show. I point-blank refuse to believe that you can sleep with one woman every night for EIGHT years, share various parts of your life with her, work with her, eat with her, and yet feel nothing for her. He may not have loved her, but if he felt no attachment/affection at all, it doesn't look very good, I'm afraid. Laila clearly is very, very attached to him. One may argue themselves blue in the face about 'just sex' and things being 'different for men', but I'm not buying it. Men, even men like Rudra, aren't ALL that different from women. And that degree of intimacy for such a prolonged period is bound to leave its mark.

I'm not interested in arguing about what promises he may have made or not made to Laila. What I am interested in his how they feel about each other. I resent the implication I've seen in many other posts that Laila's love isn't 'love' because it is selfish and Paro's is true love because it is 'divine'. That is bullshit. ALL love is selfish. Even a mother's love (closest thing we come to selfless love) has shades of self-interest. Paro's obsessive 'you-must-marry-me' stance is just about as psychotic as Laila's 'I-own-you' stance. Paro, being the heroine, didn't try to kill anyone, but looking at this story objectively, I'd sympathize far more with Laila's cause than with Paro's. Of course, we've been told that we must ship Paro-Rudra and therefore Laila doesn't stand a chance-- and normally I'd be okay with that. Desi TV is enormously regressive that way, and I know what I signed up for.

My problem is that logic aside, I just don't buy the PaRud love story. I don't believe in it, it doesn't touch me or make me root for them. I don't believe that Rudra loves Paro anymore than I believe Paro loves Rudra. On the other show that must not be named, the hero would probably have made more sense with his first fiance, and she probably had greater claim to him as well. But I still shipped the lead couple because that was the faith they inspired in me. I felt bad for ditched-fiance, but I BELIEVED that the lead couple were in love and meant to be. That is the difference, I guess.

P.S. Sorry for going ape-shit on your post; I got excited because I saw a post I agree with/understand after so long! 😆

Originally posted by: neet2407

Hey Deeps

great question and some great answers on this thread - working our Rudra and his feelings is no easy task!

well my twopence worth is that I think that Paro loves Rudra for who he really is and Laila loves him for who he was pretending to be.

Somehow Paro saw through his exterior and refused to take his 24hr gussa and believe it. She challenges him about his pretence and sees what the real Rudra is like and needs ( now how she does this maybe a diving thing or a soul-mate thing I do not know) Paro too has had a hard life - but she deals with it very differently from Laila and Rudra- maybe due to her close family

Laila also loves him - but just the side he showed her- maybe if he had opened up she would love the rest of him too - but then again that might make him the 'mamma's boy' she's not too fond of/. The way he treats her seems to confirm her thoughts about herself in a way - can she allow herself to be loved in a more than NSA kind of way?

Does Rudra have any feelings for Laila - I am sure he does but those feelings are not love, maybe more attachment and as he said habit. I think the habit and liking speech was significant - it's hard to break a habit but nearly impossible to change a liking, and as for soul-mate connection true love - now there's no way you can change that- once it happens that's it

Originally posted by: goguma

Hi Deeps..!
good to see u back .. 🤗


i do not have any answer to this question, cz i do not know ... 😳
but it is interesting to see the answers provided...



but i doubt that rudra feels nothing for laila thru'out the 8 years they've been together...
is that possible...? 😕

Originally posted by: sushan

I so agree with you Laila chose to be with Rudras condition, no strings attached from Rudra point of view it could be Laila or Sheils or XYZ it was her assumption that Rudra will be with her always like this you put my thoughts in words so much better there are others too I really like their analysis too.Thanks for the question and getting involved so many of us, get to learn so many different point of views.

Originally posted by: ACTywm

Firstly great question...gets one thinking...ok here is what I think:

edit: if you want to read the surmise of my response scroll down to the green bit at the bottom...and if you're interested in reading my long-winded thoughts, continue on...

Why does Rudra who remained emotionally detached from Laila for eight years fall for Paro in, say, eight weeks?

Firstly why he falls in love with Paaro, or if not love then at least become attached in away he never was with Laila

See, with Laila he choses the relationship and therefore it is on his own terms and hers'...for like he says she agreed to his terms and therefore was a mutual agreement...to have a physical relationship...but with Paaro it is a forced relationship.

Circumstance forces them together and makes him her protector, he wants nothing to do with her and she with him, they both hate each other...she because he kills her husband n baraat, plus she has been poisoned against BSD just the way Rudra has been poisoned against females...so neither want to be together but neither have a choice, circumstance throws them together, for she becomes his prime and only witness...because of this not