Dear Rudra... - Page 5

Originally posted by: PhoenixRising

He went and fix the dori himself she didn't called him for help. That was uncanceled her. 👎🏼

Originally posted by: napstermonster

Completely agree with you. I think (and predicting something on RangRasiya seems to be a fool's game--but I cant help it!) I hope the CVs have a game plan, where they remember that this girl has no RIGHT to fall in love so quickly and so completely. Maybe they are working towards some maturity of Paro. He will ask for her forgiveness--and she wont give it to him, like she once said, back when she had a spine and working neurons in her brain.

Someone posted how the Shiv-Parvati story has three parts--Sati (the fiery one, who opposed him), Gauri (the disguise Parvati adopted to get close to him) and then Parvati herself (the companion, the other half). Until he is "normal" with her, and accepts her as Parvati and not the dasi/jogan Gauri I think the CVs will make Paro do these ridiculous things. Basically her identity got revealed, but her atitude of Gauri is still there. And until she gets her forgiveness, and he gets his brain back and realizes she is too simple to be devious--she is acting as the symbolic Gauri.

In another post I said something I'd like to repeat here ttt1: I dont actually buy her "love" for Rudra yet---her realization that he is her Hero--Absolutely. But to love Rudra, she needs to KNOW Rudra. Not the image of the God she has in her head, or even the Jallad he is projecting to her. And he needs to be a "godsend" as you say, and not God himself.


I repost: Rudra needs to stop being her eternal protector--maybe even become the one she needs protection, at least emotionally, from. He needs to be wrong. And THEN if she loves him--it will be a love tested through that fire she fears, but walks through, for him. And she will love him, then, as a man she has to judge, and then forgive. Not a God she has to worship, and never judge.

If her love in not based on awareness of his flaws, and the compassion to overcome them, it will be useless to them both. I believe that he will still be the one to love first, and love deeply. She will have to actually see him as a man, and not a god, before she can love him-and first, he will have to fall far below the protector, and become the villain, in a way, before he gets her love.

PS --HE is on the way to the villain role, Baisa--to mock her for what he himself did--the dori tying thing. It was very hot, but during it, I was cringing at what he would react and say later. Doris for some reason short circuit Indian males' bhejas. Real AND reel life. I've never known a non-desi guy LOSE it over two pieces of untied/tied string.

And to call her besharam for her chunri flapping in the wind--Rudra kabhi ghoos nahi gaya, iss ladki ki flying chunri ke andar? Tab Paro se invitation card mila tha? Abb aya virgin ka king... Typical male douche.

Originally posted by: napstermonster

There is an excellent reason you are not a Birpuri Village Girl with exactly 5th standard levels of education, a passive life that allowed you to drift along with no say and no voice for 18 years, and then Fate suddenly gave you--not just a say--but the only say--- in your choices. You are a smart woman who has a reaction to the abusive words being thrown at that village girl, and you would be right. You feel for her, extrapolate his cruel words as a slap to her pride, as something to protest. All right. Even Rudra, in his asking her---what is WRONG with you...he is right.

But from Paro's perspective, everything that is happening to her parallels the God narrative she has heard growing up--believing it, honestly worshiping it, leaving all decisions to it. She thinks she is going through the trials of Parvati, and sees literally nothing wrong with the comparison. When he says those horrible things--to her mind, he is just causing her additional "tapassya" that she must live through. It becomes penance. You don't take penance personally--especially when you know you are not guilty. You do the "praschith," What other think of her, judging her-- its irrelevant to Paro.


She is not guilty of being besharam--she is not even guilty, I think, of being controlling or rude. She is following the path she believes in, and has no one she listens to (Mamisa, Thakurain, Dilsher, even) right now to tell her "no." She is doing manmaani--but thinks its blessed by her Bholenath--the signs say so. It must be so. I love her character--and I understand why the CVs spent the first one month giving us NO voice for Parvati--she needed to be alone to even find it. NOW, Paro is someone who pleases me purely because she is so--NOT us-- Not you, not me.


She has no inner motivation, no layers, no ego, no pride. I think we feel protective of Paro because it would not even occur to her to protect herself . Ego, pride, self esteem--all these are inner-monologue concepts--ideals that come from a secondary self. She has none--and there ARE people like this--and BTW, they are hugely dangerous, because the are so straightforward, no one can believe it.

That completely linear thinking where she LITERALLY answers things that are asked of her, and has no depth beyond what she is saying and feeling--no inner monologue--she is beautifully simple. Not stupid--but because she has always been led, passively, now that she is leading her own choices, nothing will sway her, or move her. It is this simplicity, this straight forwardness, literally not understanding how the other person might be finding her behavior odd--that is Paro.

Loving it...!

Originally posted by: napstermonster

There is an excellent reason you are not a Birpuri Village Girl with exactly 5th standard levels of education, a passive life that allowed you to drift along with no say and no voice for 18 years, and then Fate suddenly gave you--not just a say--but the only say--- in your choices. You are a smart woman who has a reaction to the abusive words being thrown at that village girl, and you would be right. You feel for her, extrapolate his cruel words as a slap to her pride, as something to protest. All right. Even Rudra, in his asking her---what is WRONG with you...he is right.

But from Paro's perspective, everything that is happening to her parallels the God narrative she has heard growing up--believing it, honestly worshiping it, leaving all decisions to it. She thinks she is going through the trials of Parvati, and sees literally nothing wrong with the comparison. When he says those horrible things--to her mind, he is just causing her additional "tapassya" that she must live through. It becomes penance. You don't take penance personally--especially when you know you are not guilty. You do the "praschith," What other think of her, judging her-- its irrelevant to Paro.


She is not guilty of being besharam--she is not even guilty, I think, of being controlling or rude. She is following the path she believes in, and has no one she listens to (Mamisa, Thakurain, Dilsher, even) right now to tell her "no." She is doing manmaani--but thinks its blessed by her Bholenath--the signs say so. It must be so. I love her character--and I understand why the CVs spent the first one month giving us NO voice for Parvati--she needed to be alone to even find it. NOW, Paro is someone who pleases me purely because she is so--NOT us-- Not you, not me.


She has no inner motivation, no layers, no ego, no pride. I think we feel protective of Paro because it would not even occur to her to protect herself . Ego, pride, self esteem--all these are inner-monologue concepts--ideals that come from a secondary self. She has none--and there ARE people like this--and BTW, they are hugely dangerous, because the are so straightforward, no one can believe it.

That completely linear thinking where she LITERALLY answers things that are asked of her, and has no depth beyond what she is saying and feeling--no inner monologue--she is beautifully simple. Not stupid--but because she has always been led, passively, now that she is leading her own choices, nothing will sway her, or move her. It is this simplicity, this straight forwardness, literally not understanding how the other person might be finding her behavior odd--that is Paro.

Loving it...!