Dear Rudra... - Page 4

Originally posted by: napstermonster

There is an excellent reason you are not a Birpuri Village Girl with exactly 5th standard levels of education, a passive life that allowed you to drift along with no say and no voice for 18 years, and then Fate suddenly gave you--not just a say--but the only say--- in your choices. You are a smart woman who has a reaction to the abusive words being thrown at that village girl, and you would be right. You feel for her, extrapolate his cruel words as a slap to her pride, as something to protest. All right. Even Rudra, in his asking her---what is WRONG with you...he is right.

But from Paro's perspective, everything that is happening to her parallels the God narrative she has heard growing up--believing it, honestly worshiping it, leaving all decisions to it. She thinks she is going through the trials of Parvati, and sees literally nothing wrong with the comparison. When he says those horrible things--to her mind, he is just causing her additional "tapassya" that she must live through. It becomes penance. You don't take penance personally--especially when you know you are not guilty. You do the "praschith," What other think of her, judging her-- its irrelevant to Paro.


She is not guilty of being besharam--she is not even guilty, I think, of being controlling or rude. She is following the path she believes in, and has no one she listens to (Mamisa, Thakurain, Dilsher, even) right now to tell her "no." She is doing manmaani--but thinks its blessed by her Bholenath--the signs say so. It must be so. I love her character--and I understand why the CVs spent the first one month giving us NO voice for Parvati--she needed to be alone to even find it. NOW, Paro is someone who pleases me purely because she is so--NOT us-- Not you, not me.


She has no inner motivation, no layers, no ego, no pride. I think we feel protective of Paro because it would not even occur to her to protect herself . Ego, pride, self esteem--all these are inner-monologue concepts--ideals that come from a secondary self. She has none--and there ARE people like this--and BTW, they are hugely dangerous, because the are so straightforward, no one can believe it.

That completely linear thinking where she LITERALLY answers things that are asked of her, and has no depth beyond what she is saying and feeling--no inner monologue--she is beautifully simple. Not stupid--but because she has always been led, passively, now that she is leading her own choices, nothing will sway her, or move her. It is this simplicity, this straight forwardness, literally not understanding how the other person might be finding her behavior odd--that is Paro.

Loving it...!

Originally posted by: napstermonster

in short if they want to represent or have any tiny winy symbolism of shiv parvati story , i think what they should do is make paro the protector

slowly turn her into his shield from the world , not let any ,insecurity , hatred pain loneliness reach him

not turn her into a punching bag to take his insecurity , hatred and wrath

that is not parvati , that is daily soap heroine

Edited by tttttt1 - 11 years ago

Originally posted by: napstermonster

There is an excellent reason you are not a Birpuri Village Girl with exactly 5th standard levels of education, a passive life that allowed you to drift along with no say and no voice for 18 years, and then Fate suddenly gave you--not just a say--but the only say--- in your choices. You are a smart woman who has a reaction to the abusive words being thrown at that village girl, and you would be right. You feel for her, extrapolate his cruel words as a slap to her pride, as something to protest. All right. Even Rudra, in his asking her---what is WRONG with you...he is right.

But from Paro's perspective, everything that is happening to her parallels the God narrative she has heard growing up--believing it, honestly worshiping it, leaving all decisions to it. She thinks she is going through the trials of Parvati, and sees literally nothing wrong with the comparison. When he says those horrible things--to her mind, he is just causing her additional "tapassya" that she must live through. It becomes penance. You don't take penance personally--especially when you know you are not guilty. You do the "praschith," What other think of her, judging her-- its irrelevant to Paro.


She is not guilty of being besharam--she is not even guilty, I think, of being controlling or rude. She is following the path she believes in, and has no one she listens to (Mamisa, Thakurain, Dilsher, even) right now to tell her "no." She is doing manmaani--but thinks its blessed by her Bholenath--the signs say so. It must be so. I love her character--and I understand why the CVs spent the first one month giving us NO voice for Parvati--she needed to be alone to even find it. NOW, Paro is someone who pleases me purely because she is so--NOT us-- Not you, not me.


She has no inner motivation, no layers, no ego, no pride. I think we feel protective of Paro because it would not even occur to her to protect herself . Ego, pride, self esteem--all these are inner-monologue concepts--ideals that come from a secondary self. She has none--and there ARE people like this--and BTW, they are hugely dangerous, because the are so straightforward, no one can believe it.

That completely linear thinking where she LITERALLY answers things that are asked of her, and has no depth beyond what she is saying and feeling--no inner monologue--she is beautifully simple. Not stupid--but because she has always been led, passively, now that she is leading her own choices, nothing will sway her, or move her. It is this simplicity, this straight forwardness, literally not understanding how the other person might be finding her behavior odd--that is Paro.

Loving it...!