Dear Rudra... - Page 3

Originally posted by: surabi

Without taking any sides, can I try to answer this-

Rudra- "because when I was pouncing her and invading her personal space, she was being bewakoof and was blindly trusting a terrorist. she did not want to do anything with me. Now that she has realized her folly, she is trying to cling to me and marry me claiming to be in love and trying every trick to achieve that"

Jokes apart, I had no problem when he was invading her personal space then and when she is turning all obsessive about him now because I have figured out that is how the soap world works.. That is how they move things forward.. we should not think too much.!!!! I have held the naari mukthi morcha flag too long (since 2009 as u can see) and have decided its not worth it!!!!! I am just going to look what is attractive to me and go with the flow!

ps: Always read you posts and enjoy reading them. Funny/sarcastic touch is a treat!

Originally posted by: Naach_Basanti

P.S- More than the jibe it is the lack of reaction from Paro that was infuriating. They should have at least shown some anger.

Originally posted by: napstermonster

There is an excellent reason you are not a Birpuri Village Girl with exactly 5th standard levels of education, a passive life that allowed you to drift along with no say and no voice for 18 years, and then Fate suddenly gave you--not just a say--but the only say--- in your choices. You are a smart woman who has a reaction to the abusive words being thrown at that village girl, and you would be right. You feel for her, extrapolate his cruel words as a slap to her pride, as something to protest. All right. Even Rudra, in his asking her---what is WRONG with you...he is right.

But from Paro's perspective, everything that is happening to her parallels the God narrative she has heard growing up--believing it, honestly worshiping it, leaving all decisions to it. She thinks she is going through the trials of Parvati, and sees literally nothing wrong with the comparison. When he says those horrible things--to her mind, he is just causing her additional "tapassya" that she must live through. It becomes penance. You don't take penance personally--especially when you know you are not guilty. You do the "praschith," What other think of her, judging her-- its irrelevant to Paro.


She is not guilty of being besharam--she is not even guilty, I think, of being controlling or rude. She is following the path she believes in, and has no one she listens to (Mamisa, Thakurain, Dilsher, even) right now to tell her "no." She is doing manmaani--but thinks its blessed by her Bholenath--the signs say so. It must be so. I love her character--and I understand why the CVs spent the first one month giving us NO voice for Parvati--she needed to be alone to even find it. NOW, Paro is someone who pleases me purely because she is so--NOT us-- Not you, not me.


She has no inner motivation, no layers, no ego, no pride. I think we feel protective of Paro because it would not even occur to her to protect herself . Ego, pride, self esteem--all these are inner-monologue concepts--ideals that come from a secondary self. She has none--and there ARE people like this--and BTW, they are hugely dangerous, because the are so straightforward, no one can believe it.

That completely linear thinking where she LITERALLY answers things that are asked of her, and has no depth beyond what she is saying and feeling--no inner monologue--she is beautifully simple. Not stupid--but because she has always been led, passively, now that she is leading her own choices, nothing will sway her, or move her. It is this simplicity, this straight forwardness, literally not understanding how the other person might be finding her behavior odd--that is Paro.

Loving it...!

Originally posted by: napstermonster

There is an excellent reason you are not a Birpuri Village Girl with exactly 5th standard levels of education, a passive life that allowed you to drift along with no say and no voice for 18 years, and then Fate suddenly gave you--not just a say--but the only say--- in your choices. You are a smart woman who has a reaction to the abusive words being thrown at that village girl, and you would be right. You feel for her, extrapolate his cruel words as a slap to her pride, as something to protest. All right. Even Rudra, in his asking her---what is WRONG with you...he is right.

But from Paro's perspective, everything that is happening to her parallels the God narrative she has heard growing up--believing it, honestly worshiping it, leaving all decisions to it. She thinks she is going through the trials of Parvati, and sees literally nothing wrong with the comparison. When he says those horrible things--to her mind, he is just causing her additional "tapassya" that she must live through. It becomes penance. You don't take penance personally--especially when you know you are not guilty. You do the "praschith," What other think of her, judging her-- its irrelevant to Paro.


She is not guilty of being besharam--she is not even guilty, I think, of being controlling or rude. She is following the path she believes in, and has no one she listens to (Mamisa, Thakurain, Dilsher, even) right now to tell her "no." She is doing manmaani--but thinks its blessed by her Bholenath--the signs say so. It must be so. I love her character--and I understand why the CVs spent the first one month giving us NO voice for Parvati--she needed to be alone to even find it. NOW, Paro is someone who pleases me purely because she is so--NOT us-- Not you, not me.


She has no inner motivation, no layers, no ego, no pride. I think we feel protective of Paro because it would not even occur to her to protect herself . Ego, pride, self esteem--all these are inner-monologue concepts--ideals that come from a secondary self. She has none--and there ARE people like this--and BTW, they are hugely dangerous, because the are so straightforward, no one can believe it.

That completely linear thinking where she LITERALLY answers things that are asked of her, and has no depth beyond what she is saying and feeling--no inner monologue--she is beautifully simple. Not stupid--but because she has always been led, passively, now that she is leading her own choices, nothing will sway her, or move her. It is this simplicity, this straight forwardness, literally not understanding how the other person might be finding her behavior odd--that is Paro.

Loving it...!

Originally posted by: ishta345

first the army , now parvati , !

Ditto, that's what I felt too. It's all being made a matter of convenience, to get some "intense" love story. Look at how contrived the dori scene and the other face-hiding scene was today. 😒

A village girl idolizing her pati to be shiv , this is not the way to show it

herethe cvs clearly they are drawing similarities and try to reason action taken example of shiv and parvati to show rudra and paro are meant to be together like shiv and parvati is , so parvati undergoing all this torture is fine

wrong reasoning , completely random comparison

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parvati is the strongest form of woman , she is considered to have the strength and power of all the women put together , and she is infamous or famous for her anger

shiv ji also has been victim of her extreme wrath

paro is looking dreamy and stupid ,because she is not having a thought process of her own , she is blindly obeying rudra

And here's this Parvati parallel taking in all of this modern Rudra's "tests". Where was that Parvati anger of at least, indignation when Rudra proposed marriage to Sumer? And now we wait for Monday to see how she reacts to these new accusations

standing on one foot really , does she really think rudra is shiv ,and from when is rudra her pati

Standing on one foot - was it Parvati who did that? @ttt1, awaiting your confirmation on this.

As far as I know it was Raavan who did that to appease Shiva. Am blank on Parvati doing that, but I believe that DKDM would have shown it that way

Originally posted by: Exprimere

@Napster, can't quote because my phone messes up forum codes.

I'm all for the Parvati you've described. I support her, to an extent. But the lack of reaction was strange. I'm not suggesting Paro should have given it back to Rudra, because I'm still grappling with her character, and dunno what she should have done and all of that jazz. Maybe if the time span between the characterless comment, and the dragging out in the courtyard scene was a little more spaced out, it would have made more sense to me. She's steadfast and stubborn, but she's also sensitive. That didn't show today.

Anyway, let's just hope they bring down the symbolism. I shall never forget the Shiv-Parvati story in my life while watching RR. They need to move on.

Originally posted by: ttt1

it was god send initially , today her reaction was different

and rudra is not shiv ji

god send match is all fine , here she is behaving like he is shiv himself , her god

i cant disobey him even if it makes no sense , he cannot be wrong , he gets angry , blaaah

i find that wrong

@ishta

sumer issue also there was a huge disconnect oscillation between god send and god , she handled it like he is god and god has to be pleased

paro should decide whether he is god or god send