A conundrum..... - Page 3

Very good question! Looks,undoubtedly play a major role. When an angry young man twists d heroine's hand and brings her closer to him,do we really care for the twisting? No. V are more enamoured by the sight of a smoldering hero breathing on the heroine. If a sweet looking guy,for example, suraj of dabh does the same,m damn sure it won't evoke the same reactions in us 😃 But at the same time,I always wondered why an anuj sachdeva,who in my opinion has been the most handsome costar of sanaya,could not evoke the same feelings as BS or ashish. So I feel that it is also a case of lust for the forbidden fruit. In our real lives,v get nice partners on the lines of samrat(mjht) and manav(CC). Angry young men just don't exist. That's y they fascinate us when they come onscreen,specially their possessiveness and mad concern. If I can be a bit more blunt,many of us who are accustomed to erotica and Mills and boons kinda novels,prefer these rough heroes over the sugary ones. A part is also played by the way characters r depicted onscreen. In real life,if a man manhandles us,v get angry or scared. On the other hand,a heroine hyperventilates and that completely changes our way of looking at the manhandling hero,v suddenly start finding him romantic. Another thing that I've noticed is that v like it when the hero dominates the heroine but love it when he bows down to her which shows that v like these men being rough with their ladies initially so that their ultimate regret and shame for their actions is amplified...in short,as u said,seeing these mighty men coming down to their knees gives us a high,lol

Originally posted by: msin

We have been conditioned to it..not all of the girls find it romantic..a lot of my close friends don't gush about RR..nor they did about ipk...

Most of us who have read romantic novels in our teens.. Read as in devour romantic novels like mills and boon, regency romance avon romances.. Will find heroes build to this type of character..

I must have read thousand romantic novels..I have yet to read a male character build like Suraj..though he is an ideal hubby in indian sense... a logical girl will be happier with such a cring and supportive guy..

We always read about dark disturbed heroes.. With a checquered past..if the next generation of girls stop reading these flame and flower kind of novels..we will see a stop on the popularity of such characters in tv..

ASR was a typical mills and boon hero.. Built on mr Darcy..prototype..

rudra..has a lot of characteristics from novels from Kathleen E woodiwiss, Johanna Lindsey novels.

I think it's because underneath the hard, sometimes cruel shell we see the little boy who was hurt and developed the defensive exterior. I think we see past all that and are drawn to the vulnerable side which most of these characters have.

Because all the characters you mentioned are hot looking guys 😉and we know that when they love it will be with all passion ⭐️ and these characters take u to lala land. in real life MCP,s do not change.

Very Interesting Thoughts ladies...I guess I agree with all of you...I have been nodding my head while reading this...I think people at work think I have a neck problem 😆

I absolutely agree with the Thought that Jerks in Fiction are so much more delicious and acceptable then in real life...maybe its living vicariously 😆

Another point that resonates with me is, how Pretty these men are!!!! I mean if there was some creepy looking guy Hulking over Paro or some sleeze ball seducing her with the soft buttery Paro, I would be cringing in my skin🤢...so yes Good Looks do matter...Damn you Evolution...here I thought I had moved on to Sense of Humor 😳😆


And most Importantly I really want to see how the Mighty have fallen...maybe it gives me sadistic pleasure to see our Angry Young men loosing from their own heart😈😆


I guess if I had waited another day, I would have gotten my answer about why I am loving Rudra...the complete disregard he showed for any decency in taking that Haldi off of Paro😆...as if it wasnt her who would burn, but him...in that Instant it felt like nothing and no one mattered...he wiped the Haldi with his own bare hands rather then using a cloth or some protection for himself...this disregard for even himself...its gratifying to watch, how his life started to revolve around her rather then his job...He, who never thought anything about respect and care towards women before...today he was all gentleness and care, not only that he couldnt stand the fact that Laila would say anything derogatory in front of Paro...let alone talk about their (R-L)non relationship...Poor Rudra he is sooo screwed!!!! 😆 Paro has truamatized him by using the word Jallad constantly...to the extent that he wasnt even particularly Jallad-ish with Laila 😆

Felt terrible for Laila though...yes its her fault to sell herself short...yes its her fault to try to find some meaning in their 8 years of monogamous relationship...but the human heart is such that it will build hope where there is none

On a random note...I ❤️ Rudra's Chachi 🤣 the woman has a tongue of a serpent and a brain of a Psychopath ❤️

Love
J

Good Post Jaded.

I'd like to add one final point, though of course I agree with all the thoughtful ladies posting here.


Alpha males, be it Heathcliff of Wuthering Heights or Mr Darcy of Pride and Prejudice have one additional thing in common--protectiveness, and the sense that they CAN if needed, go into a very dark pace to take care of their loved ones. I would argue its not money, that attracts us women to these men--though of course ASR and MSK were both shown as rich tycoons. But that I think is more an offshoot of the fact that aggressive men go very far in business, and they typically end up making money because of their natural alpha drive--OR they end up in "protective" professions which channel their drive, like in the army, fire-fighting or in law enforcement.

Originally posted by: napstermonster

I'd like to add one final point, though of course I agree with all the thoughtful ladies posting here.


Alpha males, be it Heathcliff of Wuthering Heights or Mr Darcy of Pride and Prejudice have one additional thing in common--protectiveness, and the sense that they CAN if needed, go into a very dark pace to take care of their loved ones. I would argue its not money, that attracts us women to these men--though of course ASR and MSK were both shown as rich tycoons. But that I think is more an offshoot of the fact that aggressive men go very far in business, and they typically end up making money because of their natural alpha drive--OR they end up in "protective" professions which channel their drive, like in the army, fire-fighting or in law enforcement.

The notion of power, and being sheltered behind that power is very seductive for any woman. In real life, you will be more likely give your phone number to the guy who you know protects his own--who takes care of his kid sister, who helps a random woman carry her bags, or who steps up and defends you when you are getting eve-teased on a bus.


Us modern women of the world might not need this protection, we might be able to fight our own battles, and do so in stilettos, no less--but the sense of having someone in your world who would do a fantastic job of slaying your dragons is also an atavistic, primal thing we look for in mates.

The primitive woman you used to be eons ago was good at recognizing the "signs" of the alpha male--and this is also hardwired into the feminine DNA. The Alpha will know how to fight danger, to steal/hunt the best food, to guard the cave where you are living. The "good boy" Suraj/Ahem types would have already been brained to death by the alpha male in the fight to get you to be his woman. And you TOTALLY would not have missed their softness.

We have evolved. But the roots of what we find attractive in a man have not. And as you observed, "pretty" boys displaying these characteristics would have simply not worked for us. We need the alpha character to be unabashedly male looking---dark, intense eyes, strong features, big build, powerful. Threatening, even. Again, traits that indicate the man will be a good protector/provider.. Evolution!!---but man, I have to say our cave-women ancestors sure knew how to pick the right physical male features to focus on to light MY fire in the here and now!

I think deep down inside all females have an innate desire to be loved truly, madly and deeply. These (anti?) heroes appeal to our sense of romance because when they fall on love, they move heaven and earth for their beloved. And it is due to the power of their live that they eventually reform from anti-heroes to heroes.

Because its fiction and in fiction you know the alpha male will reform, change for the better and fall head over heels in love with the heroine. So we wait for that day and enjoy the reformation every step of the way.[/Too true!Fictional characters can be manipulated to do our bidding but in reality we seek the loving caring soul who will treat you as an equal and understand our inner most feelings.I am lucky to find such a man even if I am insisting that he grow his moonch to rajasthani proportions.He is obliging bless him!QUOTE]