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Hi everyone
So, they finally talked! Communication- the antidote for all misunderstandings made its appearance today. We have to remember, Asad is not a great communicator and once he has made up his mind, it takes a lot to convince him otherwise. Remember- mere ghaav itni jaldi nahin bharte hain dialogue? He is not a good listener either. Given this background, I was happy that he made an attempt to talk and listen today. Asad and Zoya both value their relationships but the difference is- Asad cannot get out of the chains of his own broken relationships. He wallows in his own grief and prefers to ignore others sorrows ( eg Mariam, zoya etc). Zoya, on the other hand makes others sorrows her own. This is her way of dealing with her own grief. By suppressing her own issues, she tries to fix everyone's issues and that's why gets into messy situations many times. Yes, Asad is a bit too selfish and zoya a bit too selfless. Once they reach a meeting point, they will both probably attain a happy medium. That will happen when they start respecting and understanding each other.
I think both have issues with respecting each other- not only Asad. Asad as we have seen, has insulted her time and again but even Zoya, should learn to give him space. She knows he is a private person and doesn't like anyone interfering into his space. She keeps forgetting and just like today, tries to reach out to him when he is not ready. She needs to learn to be a bit tactful when dealing with him.
Today, they both took baby steps towards trying to understand each other. I am happy they talked and despite what people might say on the forum, I felt Asad's apology was quite heartfelt and genuine. I wouldn't expect him to bring roses or cards to manaofy her. His gesture of reaching out to her, making coffee for her and giving her a chance to speak is a big step for Mr. Akdu.
Zoya does have self respect but she is too kind hearted to hold a grudge against anyone. She understood his fear about losing his mom and that's why she accepted his apology and coffee. Zoya is a great human being and Asad will definitely learn to appreciate that one day. Till then, these baby steps will help them become friends if not lovers yet.
CID
