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Posted: 13 years ago
#31
Hi Nishi,
I haven't watched the episode yet, but have read the live update. So, here are my comments in general on the episodes I have seen so far -

Zoya - To be honest, I like her at times, but most of the time I find her a wee bit irritating (may be a bit too loud for me). I believe that if you are a guest in someone's house, you have to respect the rules of the house. She has been lacking in that respect. Yes, she shares a beautiful relationship with her phupi and Najma, yet, I feel she goes a bit over board, and seems to take things for granted. I thought she went a bit overboard with that "I am sorry Zoya" password thing. Also, I know she is messy, but it wouldn't hurt to pay a little bit more attention, especially if you are in someone's house. I can relate to Asad here when he minds it. If someone did that in my house, I would mind it too😊

I do however believe that somewhere deep inside is a more sensitive and emotional Zoya. Her conversation with Dilshaad yesterday was beautiful. I would love to see more of this side of Zoya.

Asad - I like his personality. He is a self-made man. That is always a plus. He is also a bit too traditional when it comes to his thoughts on women. If he thinks that women wearing pants, or women who are outspoken are "loose" characters, then it is definitely his own problem. However, beneath this superficiality, I see a very caring man, who feels extra responsible towards his sister, since their father left them at a very tender age.

He also believes that Zoya is his responsibility when she is in their house. So, if he thinks it is unsafe for them to go to the match alone, he is justified in getting angry. But may instead of sounding like a tyrant, he might have tried to reason it out with a little bit of "pyaar". The outcome might have been different then😊

From Zoya's point of view, yes, she can do what she likes. She has always done that. However, she is a guest in their home. So, on that account, she should have respected his wishes. And even if she went for the cricket match, she shouldn't have involved Najma, simply because here Asad has the higher authority.

More on Asad - I love his caring attitude towards his step-siblings. It is interesting that he wants nothing to do with his father, but at the same time has embraced Ayan, and loves his two step-sisters in his own way. I wonder if this is a way of holding on to his father in some way??

I love Dilshaad/Rashid/Shireen angle. No matter what Rashid does, he will end up hurting the other woman! I guess he never could get over Dilshaad, but then who knows why he was coerced into marrying Shireen. Was he simply a weak man, or is there more to the story?

Finally, a question to you, that my hubby asked after watching 5 mins of one of the episodes, and getting the story from me in a nutshell. If Rashid married Shireen 17 years ago, how on earth is Ayan and Nikhat older than 16?? Is there a major gap in story telling here??

Anyways, this became too long. But these were my two cents...

Edited by bidz - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
#32

Originally posted by: chochu15

One imp point here is ...not just about being male chauvinism. ..but it is about a protective sibling...he had been over protective about his sister..now some one is challenging this protectiveness ...and he is reacting to this.

I am a woman...and I have put curfew on my younger sister...and she had no options than abiding to it...it is more abt being protective snd being stubborn about your belief thsn being male or female.


Wow shishma un rock. Just the sibling point I wanted to convey u did that beautifully

@an-k I think Zoya is just carefree, she is sensitive and it's important that she gets her oersinal space like going for a match was a personal opinion ..also, Asad' could have taken her..howbere m yes she has also, irked him and it's about time he snaps back ..thanks for sharing ur opinion dear .

@ bidz so nice to see u here ...great going dear U have nailed the characters beautifully , i am so glad that u could take time out to post here ,.,really beautifully written stuff ..and thanks
Edited by varma.nishi1 - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
#33
He didn't directly say that na, I mean when he scolded Z"s parents Z asked wether she should leave n stuff then gusse me he said yeah. It's bout najma"s safety also na so he can be a bit justified.
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Posted: 13 years ago
#34
Hate him hate him hate him :/ Zoya did what she did, Asad had to scold her, fine. Why did he have to get personal?! Idiot, monkey, MCP :O
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Posted: 13 years ago
#35

Originally posted by: Savage



Discussing your whereabouts with your spouse should be made mandatory to avoid divorce rates to hike, y'know? But discussing, not asking for permission. That way you're making em your master while I take marriage is two people equally invested into a rather huge relationship. I'm sorry if I sound offensive, but a man, if not your father has no right to grant you permissions. And if you do ask for their permission anyway, shouldn't they ask for your permission too, outta equality's sake?🤔



According to me...equality does not mean tit for tat...if I seek permission of my husband on certain matters...then I take liberty too in many matters...and I do put restrictions on him on many things...but it does not have to be...that if I seek permission to go out he needs to seek permission to go out too...he just might need permission on much more imp matters.
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Posted: 13 years ago
#36
One more point that everyone is forgetting is that Najma is not a kid, Zoya didn't drag her, she is an adult and could have very well refused!!!!
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Posted: 13 years ago
#37
Hi Nishi

My 2 cents..

Zoya is Zoya and no one can stop her from doing what she wants (running away from her wedding, staying back in India and now this cricket match) She is an adult and very much capable of making her own decisions, so Asad shouldn't try to impose his decisions on her. We all know, no one can win against Zoya (se even won the cricket quiz bet and managed to hand over Asad's broken phone back to him)

Najma on the other hand, although an adult, is still child like especially when it comes to standing up for herself and making decisions. Even though she admires Zoya's guts, she doesn't have the courage to stand up against her bhaijaan. I think Najma should have informed Asad that she was going for the match. If she had been firm about her decision, I am sure Asad would have accompanied her or given her permission (like the hair scene in the closet) Najma is Asad's weakness and if she were to stand her ground, he would bend his rules for her. I blame Najma more that Asad or Zoya. Najma knows her brother well, and even though subconsciously, she wants to break free like Zoya, she is fearful of stepping over her brother's rules.

If anyone, Najma should intervene and try to clear the air. There is no reason for Zoya to leave the house but let's see what the writers have in store.
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Posted: 13 years ago
#38
Here comes My Take...
According to me he is 50-50 Justified...
First of all...Zoya shouldn't have go there...even if she is going..what was the point of taking Najma with her? Asad clearly said He doesnt want Najma to go..still zoya did this...Ok Fine u want to go..but u just cant take najma with u...asad is over protective about najma..she knows..but she still did this...by doing this she disrespect Asad's decision... actually I think Because of zoya Najma is going away from Asad...najma started lying, started hiding things from asad..which she never did before...so practically zoya ruining najma... u r living in Asad's house..atleast show some respect... so i think asad's gussa is justified...
Now comes another thing..that Asad shouldnt have talk about Zoya's parents..may be he doesnt know Her pain and all..but still he should have do that..normal scolding was fine...But i hope he will realise his mistake when he will get to know that Zoya has a bitter past too...
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Posted: 13 years ago
#39
Also, who is the parent in the Khan household?
is it Dilshaad or Asad?
I mean, prove me wrong but at times it appears even Dilshad fears Asad's anger. Example- Dilshad's reaction to Najma's hair and Asad finding out about the wig.

My best friend has to ask her older brother (who is just a year or so older to her) if she could go out...when she asks her mother the mother tells her to check with her older brother. And this family has a father...
I mean, Asad is the man of the house ...so is that why he makes decisions on behalf of his sister?

Is it okay for a girl to seek her brother's permission before her parents?

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Posted: 13 years ago
#40
hmm let me think ... i think u an justify asad's behaviour because he is the owner of the house she is currently living in zoya thodo to lihaaz kar sakti hai na no guest would be like her i mean who woul live in some1'shouse and dont even obey the rules of the owner and would actually make her room very messy whereas she knows that the OWNER OF THE HOUSE DOSNT LIKE IT

HER GOING TO THE MATCH IS COMPLETLY OK BUT SHE CAN NOT TAKE NAJMA WITH HER WITH ASAD'S PERMISSION

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