22/3 Analysis Unit :Aarti's Real Identity.. - Page 11

Originally posted by: jyoti06

@All :After late night ,when all r tired of serious discussions ,all let loose and censorship goes for a toss 😆

With bachelar party tomorrow ,I can already imagine the condition of tomorrow's thread right from the start 😆😆😆

Originally posted by: Samanalyse

I don't think I have ever had such an emotionally charged half an hour in all my years! 😳
First off i want to say thank you...your post from yest really gave me a whole new perspective on what was trying to be shown...i must say my utter rage at the adacity of having a woman take on a dead woman's name for the sake of rivaj really got my blood boiling, but reading your take on it helped me see i guess the bigger pic and for that i wnated to say thanks 😃


What struck me is that Arpita's mother made sense, solely from her perspective, in a really warped way. She believed that with this new wife and mother for Yash and his children, Arpita would be gradually forgotten and as she is their child, she was not only hers but her parents' identity as well. So in a way they are trying to preserve their identity and their relationship to Yash, Payal and Palak by preserving Arpita's name. But what they don't understand is that Yash truly will never forget Arpita. She will always be alive to him as his first love and the mother of his children. It broke my heart when he tried to convince them of this saying that Arpita was in his every breath so how could he separate her form them? GC was simply outstanding in today's episode and this scene was just the beginning. I love how when they told him he would forget her there was denial but there was also fear. This was such a genuine reaction from someone grieving for a person they swore to love for all eternity but whom they lost before eternity could even begin!

I totally agree with what you have written, and the bold i think sums up perfectly...i get it...arpita's mom has every reason to worry that her daughter will one day be erased from not only the one man who loves her as unconditionally as them, but from the little pari's who were much too young to hold onto memories on their own. And it's valid, i mean it happens over and over. And it was heartbreaking for yash to get that hard of a reality check so soon. He has lived in his cloud of stubborness that this marriage will change NOTHING except that his girls will have a mom. (in fact, i wonder if he has even digested the fact that he will gain a son) But today he was told flat out that there is nothing he can do, he will forget the one woman he has vowed to never forget. I love the last sentence you wrote so apt.

It was so wonderful to see the Shobha of the first episode back in action. I loved her strong speech to Aarti and her withering looks to her husband's protests. She silenced him with merely a look because I think with the whole divorce lie she has taken on something that was very hard for her in the form of this lie and though she does convince herself that they are doing right by Aarti by telling this lie, she doesn't believe it deep down in her heart. This lie and the fact that she thinks Aarti found out about it by proxy has already upset her for all the damage it could have done to their relationship and I feel like she will take it no more. They have already hidden part of Aarti's identity with the widow lie and now again, she is losing more of herself with the name change. Come to think of it, her name is probably the only thing Aarti has from her birth parents.

Yup Shobha is back, and thank god. She truly is the only chamion aarti has for her father is simply too pressured by the holds of society to realize what a unique gem his daughter really is. And Yup the lie has been eating away at shobha and who can blame her for she is not only a woman, but a mother. And she knows that if this truth should ever come out to the Sindhiyas then the life her daughter and grandson have builty will literally explode. And that is the LAST thign she ever wants. She has said it before, aarti has gone through enough for one woman. And the dad simply can not see the long run he is...i guess being a guy. he thinks that once hte marriage is done that if the turth comes out then it wont matter, they'll be married. Little does he know the horrors of having to live in a hosue filled with hatred...i will simply piont out bitter bua. And your last line, i hadnt even thought of that.THis is why I love reading your posts. You are prolly right, Aarti IS prollythe only connection she has to her birht parents and to take the only connection of an orphan from her unknown past, is well like amnesia taking away a persons memories...


BUT then there is Scindia Sr. who seems to like seeing the world his way and his way alone and telling people what they ought to do and think. For the first time today we saw his true colours. And be does believe in all this ladkiwale/ladkewale stuff and by no means considers them equal. How Aarti stayed silent is beyond me as I would have told him that my zindagi was plenty full of rang and even if it wasn't I wouldn't want his oppressive, second hand rang in it anyway!

Yup. I had seen how most were sayin they liked sr that he seemed good. But it was always clear to me that there was more going on inside that head of his. He is a man of a few words, but when he does speak they are words of finality. And i honestly think a lot of this is for public appearance. I think he could care less what aarti is called, but since the announcement has already been made in front of every he can not back down, and wont. After all he's ladkewala and hell thats the way it should be. As for Aarti. I'm with ya. It showed extreme control for her to stand there and stay silent. I would pulled the ghetto out on him and todl him flat out, that i didnt need him or his risthaa.. that i was actually quite happy living life as is...and htat i'd find a father for my son without an annoying MIL or FIL...i did once 😆...

But I was impressed with Shobha. She exuded class in this sequence. She knows she couldn't go in all guns blazing because this is the sensitive issue of a rishta and the marriage had already come so far. She does still want this to work and so is the picture of poise and politeness. But the Scindias are not over their own egos and Scindia doesn't even let Shobha get a word in edgewise! 😡😡 This is the mark of coward who leaves the field before his opponent can respond and uses his power without responsibility. Why the hypocrisy? Aren't Arpita's parents ladkiwale too? Why are the Scindias trying to hard to make them happy. This brings us back to yesterday's discussion. And Shobha hit the nail on the creepy head when she said it is not about

Word. But i still think alot of this was b/c it had already been announced in public and sr cant back away now even if he thinks/knows is wrong

BUT neither of them have agreed to this name change. That is the comfort. Also, Vidhi brought up an excellent point. Is it more important for Aarti/Shobha to drive the principle in or is it important for Aarti to just keep her name in the long run? Can Aarti forgo the principle for the eventual result to be what she wanted anyway? In any case Vidhi said the magic word for Shobha, Yash, which can convince her of anything just like "Ansh" works magic (like the Imperious Curse!) on Aarti.

Hoo boy and now to the brothers. This was the most touching and emotional scene of the show yet. Like I said, I balled my eyes out starting from when Prateek was talking about how Arpita and Yash had planned to dance at his wedding (oh crap I am tearing up again!). This was so emotional for me because it spoke of all the tiny little dreams, let alone the big ones, that Yash and Arpita had together that would never come true. I love the storywriters, the screenplay writers, the director and GC for making me feel the intense pain of this character and his situation.

And I also loved Pankaj's lecture. It really gave Yash a different perspective on Aarti and made this not just about him and protecting Arpita but about the girl who was sacrificing so much just by agreeing to marry him. And then Prateek sort of lived up to my very early analysis about him that he didn't want to get married before Yash because he couldn't stand being happy in the face of his brother's loneliness. Deep down he knows that he is all that Yash has as far as companionship goes and it was very considerate of him not to make any changes to the family after Arpita's death so Yash didn't have to lose anything else. I love the contrast we see when we get glimpses into Prateek's character. Deep down he is a sensitive and mature man who can't stand to see his brother in this permanent state of grief. (here come the water works again!)

And Yash, responds in turn, not being able to see HIS brother unhappy and puts on a smile just for him, even though that is the hardest thing for him to do at this moment. And then just as I was descending from dignified tears into outright sobbing, Prateek said "BACHELOR PARTY!" with that huge mischievous grin and the look on Yash's face made me burst out laughing! My mom thought I had gone absolutely crazy, which, well, I had. 😃 I love that congruous flow between them talking so seriously about matters of such depth to joking around about bhabhi's reaction to the BP. It shows they have really strong understanding where they can just switch lanes and the other two will understand.

I loved that hand grab at the end as well. Yash hesitates but also made the promise to try and be happy, if only for others at this moment.

Now excuse my while I go off cry another river. 😭😭😭
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