Friendship !! W Pg.6

But Ovi herself wanted that divorce, didnt she? She sent the divorce papers to Arjun, who didnt want to sign so Archu convinced him to sign on Ovi's behalf. Remember how Ovi called and was crying on the phone to Archu that she wanted this divorce?

So why would she be mad at her parents for organizing ArVi marriage? She had moved past all that then! ArMaan had every right to know abt Pia...and Ovi wasnt angry at them for doing ArVi wedding.

She just kept Pia a secret from everybody! 😕

I didn't condone Ovi's behaviour when she put forward the deal. But I don't think she was entirely to blame for the way she has reacted. If the truth was brought to her properly and they had allowed her time, she wouldn't have reacted this way. The deal was the biggest mistake in the lives of the three, and while Ovi did put the deal forward, the other two are as much to blame for accepting it. Now even after marriage, sure Arjun couldn't accept Ovi as a wife readily but according to me he didn't even respect her as a woman, which is very apparent by how he slapped her in front of everyone in the party. So just because she yells at Purvi, means he gets the license to slap her in front of her parents, and siblings? Her husband yells in a party that he loves someone else, slaps her because of it, during the time of her pregnancy he keeps daydreaming about his ex. I think that is pretty much enough to make a girl feel insecure. he can be physical with her, but have no emotional connection at all? She had good reason to be insecure, because Arjun never let her feel otherwise. Forget love, he couldn't even be a friend to her in their marriage. If he had committed to marrying her, shouldn't he have atleast been a friend to her? I never even saw him being a friend in their marriage to her, he just made her feel like nothing because he was still running after Purvi, and remembering about their one month anniversaries and halwa. Initially, Ovi had started the marriage trying to work it out as friends, but she gave up on that when she saw that he was not adhering to his word of staying away from Purvi. Even after the pregnancy, when things between them were getting better again Arjun ruined it by hiding Pari's truth. As a wife and a friend, she stayed back hoping he would come clean to her even after finding out. What was Arjun doing? Coming up with a muhurat with Purvi to disclose this information, not because Ovi needed to know but because Punni was blackmailing Purvi. Again not the trait of a good husband, and definitely not a good friend. Again Ovi was hurt, but when she saw reason that things could not be fixed she made the right choice and left Arjun. It probably took her so long because somewhere she had the hope that Arjun was her friend and he would accept her someday and understand her love. But he was a lousy friend, the entire time. Neither did he ever understand how much he hurt her, nor how much she loved him. He tried getting her back after she left him not because he truly wanted her back, but it was because Purvi had told him to fix stuff with Ovi and his famiyl was expecting the same. He had no intention of ever reciprocating her love, which is clear when he tells Purvi he could have never made it work with Ovi as he never loved her, but he still wanted to trap her in a life with him, why? I think Arjun-Ovi's friendship is always on and off, but not due to Ovi's convenience, it is more according to Arjun's convenience.

As for the 20 year thing, friendships can only go so far, there is a boundary which friendship cannot pass. And I for one don't think anyone should interfere in other's marriages, no matter how close friends they are. Why should she step into Arjun's married life, when she herself knows that another person's meddling only makes matters worse. If Arjun would have asked her to clear the air 20 years ago, she may have obliged but he didn't so she stayed away. He and Purvi weren't the only ones lonely, she was lonely as well. And so far we don't even know if she tried to get in contact with the D's regarding this, and even if she didn't I don't blame her seeing as even now they are much more concerned with ArVi reunion than finding Ovi. Arjun has been a pretty lousy friend, and also seems an unconcerned father when Pia is concerned [as he seemed more interested about how his life with Purvi would be affected by Pia's arrival rather than asking first how she was doing] so she shouldn't be judged for why she didn't jump to aid him in his marriage. Right now he asked of her help and that why she is here. I feel she is helping him right now not because he is a friend, but because they have gone through so much that she can't ignore him in the time when he is asking her to do him a last favour. This man regardless of everything else, was once important to her and gave her Pia, whether the friendship between them still exists is for us to see in the upcoming episodes. Anyways, sorry about the long rant it is only my opinion, to each their own.

edit: Wasn't Purvi always praised for her noble intentions for keeping Pari a secret, and even switching her child with the stillborn. Whether her actions created havoc in the lives of other several times, she was always hailed for thinking about everyone's bhalaayi. So why is Ovi being critized about keeping Pia a secret? Her intentions are noble as well. She didn't want to bring Pia in to ruin ArVi life. She didn't even need Pia, she could have simply refused divorce and gone back to Arjun and the two wouldn't have been able to reunite. What Ovi did is nowhere as severe as what Purvi did. She orchestrated the plan to switch her baby with Ovi's, denying a mother the first and last oppurtunity to see her child and do the last rites. A criminal act is ok as long as intentions are noble, but Ovi's hiding the truth with good intentions is bad because it lead to the eventual separation of Arjun-Purvi?

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@ muaaz as TM : I think you are right. I think Ovi's friendship is arbitrary, often for her own benefit. But there are very few truly sacrificial people in the world so she's no different on that point. Ovi was always very immature and independent at the same time. She never really was close to anyone in an enduring way. I think she was the worst damaged by the ArMan years of separation. She never really connected with anyone at a deep level for very long. She had moments of closeness then by her own actions cut them off. She was far then close then far to Archana. Back and forth. It's unfair to say that Archana nor Manav didn't care about her . They did very much. But Ovi herself kept them at arm's length when she wanted to. I remember many scenes where Archana was holding Ovi in her arms. Loving her, comforting her. It was pretty much Ovi who said, I will do my own thing. From the beginning.

I think it made no sense for her to hide Pia after the Arvi marriage. I don't think it had to do with Purvi or Arjun at all, more likely she wasn't sure if she really wanted the baby.. That whole thing was screwy and perhaps an added after the fact by the CV's .. Most appalling to me was that Ovi just left this little premature baby alone for 2-3 months. Her baby is hovering between life and death and she is shopping and cavorting about in India? I still haven't gotten over that one. More shocking to me than drinking when pregnant. I mean now the baby was visible in front of her. She lost one baby, wouldn't one think she would move heaven and earth to be by her side, to touch her, to hover over her in love??. I think it was only after she learned that Purvi was pregnant that she remembered oh wait i have a baby in an incubator somewhere in Canada. So out of jealousy she decided she wanted finally to mother this baby.

But the topic is friendship. Ovi probably doesn't understand either friendship or attachment..which makes her actions unpredictable..and dysfunctional...

which makes her no different than all the rest of the characters in PR>

I guess i'll stop now as my post is getting too long too !! 😆