I don't understand Shiv now - Page 8

@Sheets

Last line of your post is problematic. How does Shiv KNOW for HIMSELF what was there in hospital records? He only saw a torned page! The rest of the stuff is agreeable about his thought process.

@Tinoo

I am not scientific. Rather I'd be emotional! I'd be in denial even if my parents themselves told me. First reaction is denial. Who readily believes parents aren't his own?

Though I admit when I was little and I'd get angry or my parents would be angry with me then I'd feel if I was their own kid or not. Often if I'd feel parents and family are on one side and I am isolated then also I'd feel that way. Sometimes we compare features also.

Feeling or suspecting is something else. But believing it for sure as a fact is different IMO.

I have to put myself in shiv's shoes.

Originally posted by: Skepblun

@Sheets

Last line of your post is problematic. How does Shiv KNOW for HIMSELF what was there in hospital records? He only saw a torned page! The rest of the stuff is agreeable about his thought process.

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If family told Shiv that he is adopted, I think Shiv would not have become this curious. In this case, he doesn't know anything, except there is a mismatch in his birth records and there is an attempt to cover up. So he is determined to find the truth.

@Tinoo

I feel believing a blood test report and believing that you're not your parents' own kid are not comparable. Over some matters you can easily believe and follow a trusted person. But was issue of parentage so casual and easy to conclude?

Now Brick-red has talked about intuition. I don't think it is intuition. Intuition comes naturally. Shiv's behaviour is induced (by Anandi). What has he seen or observed that contributed to his intuition? He didn't see or sense Alok in hospital, he has never experienced any discrimination from Shekhars, he did not see or hear what Anandi did, he didn't see expressions or reactions of CM then how suddenly he had an intuition? Due to Anandi and a torned page?

I consider it hard to believe. BV CVs failed here IMO.

Originally posted by: Skepblun

@Tinoo

Now Brick-red has talked about intuition. I don't think it is intuition. Intuition comes naturally. Shiv's behaviour is induced (by Anandi). What has he seen or observed that contributed to his intuition? He didn't see or sense Alok in hospital, he has never experienced any discrimination from Shekhars, he did not see or hear what Anandi did, he didn't see expressions or reactions of CM then how suddenly he had an intuition? Due to Anandi and a torned page?

I consider it hard to believe. BV CVs failed here IMO.

Originally posted by: Skepblun

@Tinoo

I feel believing a blood test report and believing that you're not your parents' own kid are not comparable. Over some matters you can easily believe and follow a trusted person. But was issue of parentage so casual and easy to conclude?
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Originally posted by: tinoo

I have to put myself in shiv's shoes.

And quite frankly - this is just me- I simply wouldn't be bothered or affected unless it was a question of me about to die and needing a genetic match for some tissue or bone marrow transplant or some sort of kidney donor required.

If I was presented with a shiv like situation, I would just shrug my shoulders, and go about my business.

I would appreciate that whoever these shekhars were, they had still brought me up with love and were still loving me.

And I would forgive my biological parents, bless them and send them on their way.

I really don't know that I would have ANY interest in finding out about them.

Either they couldnt take care of me the way they wanted to which is why they put me up for adoption OR they didnt want me ... so either way they did me a favour by giving me away!! They released me into a better life than I would otherwise have had.

For me, shiv wanting to know the truth is really odd. (My point of view and personal bent).

I would also find it quite insulting to my adoptive parents who have been very good to me to go looking for my biological parents - I mean come on !! seriously??

Let me tell you one thing. The first, very first thing comes to your mind when you come to know that you are not your parents child, your first question will be, "Who am I?" Its sad, but you feel like your whole existence is doubtful. It has nothing to do with me being unreasonable, coz I am sad, angry, hurt and feel betrayed. So, we really can't judge Shiv now. It is very natural. Don't ask me why BUT I do know that feeling.