IS THIS WEIRD OR IS IT ME?? - Page 6

Originally posted by: showviewer

What you said is a ideal, which probably exists in varying degrees in different places. Gender biases and prejudices exists everywhere, it is a matter of degree, how much or how little, is it overt or subtle. Though most of us focus on subjugation of women, there is also the other side of coin which is definition of masculinity and how cultures define how man should behave or react to situations. This latter side also impacts gender relations, but not always focused on.

Originally posted by: Guinea

The issue my dear is not wheather it is right or wrong , ofcourse it is wrong for women not to have the option to live life on their own terms ...the real issue is , does this happen ...ofcourse this happens and these type of joint families are quiet comman in india . This serial is based in ahemedabad and beleive me in gujju culture ( ahemedabad is a city in the state of gujarat ) such families are comman. Ofcourse serials exaggerate a lot and over dramatise things but they take inspiration from reality ... This exists ...it is changing slowly but it still exists in various households in india.

Originally posted by: Ngurudatha

It is sad, but yes, even in these day and age, they do exist in some families in smaller towns. The DIL's cannot even move a muscle without MIL's permission.

Originally posted by: looser01

I beg the writers and CVS to show Chan Chan doing every thing so all MIL in India learn from it let this serial and Sanaya be a model they have to show how world has changed instead of Ekta type MIL Some one has to begin some where...

Originally posted by: kbtr

Thank God it's not like that! I'm against anyone doing anything against their will. If the DIL don't mind (and are not doing it out of fear, or force) then I guess it should be OK.

Originally posted by: .Sonya.

Even these girls' parents don't have their priorities straight. You hear of every daughter's father in India marrying her off based on the how much property the guy's family has or what kind of a job he has. When the real question should be how will you be treating my daughter after the two days of honeymoon period is over.

I know that for myself and my future kids, I would prefer to live on rent my whole life in a one-room house with my husband and live and love freely, rather than live a worse life than a prisoner's in a luxurious mansion.

People in India need to realize what's more important. Money comes and goes. It can be earned as long as you are happy.

I think it all comes down to financial independence. Even if I live on a dollar a day, I wouldn't take a penny from my in-laws ever.

All these Indian Bahus that we are feeling pity for, should get up and go get a job even if you are cleaning toilets it's better than living off someone else's money. Then all these problems wouldn't arise.

Originally posted by: GodhuliLogon

its not done like this in urban families as UB .. can be found may be in villages .. so it is really exaggerated here ..

so dont worry 😃

Originally posted by: Guinea

They do exist ...in a lot of non metro towns where joint families do exist , a lot of this is the norm. In a serial of course its shown in a more extreme way but trust me its a reality.