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vittoriA Giardano

@kbtr

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Posted: 12 years ago

So,

can't go out
can't go for honeymoon
can't have friends over
can't wear clothes that you want
can't eat with your hubby
can't talk unless given permission
be subservient to MIL and hubby and his family
can't breathe unless MIL says so
have no jovial interactions with family just for the sake of
take permission from mommy dearest in spite of being an adult (pls don't use the respect angle here, irrelevant)
...

Is this what being married (in India) means??

I'm pretty sure this is an extreme case and things like these do not exist anymore???

Please enlighten me!

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Guinea

@Guinea

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Posted: 12 years ago

They do exist ...in a lot of non metro towns where joint families do exist , a lot of this is the norm. In a serial ofcourse its shown in a more extreme way but trust me its a reality.

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@SizzlingPaRud-

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Posted: 12 years ago

I've been wanting to make a post on this but you did so thank you. Someone who is from India and knows their culture can help us better. Does such extremism actually exist even now? Isn't this going a bit too far, especially the honeymoon bit? According to them, bahus going out alone is wrong. Fine. Why not with their husbands on their honeymoon?

And what's wrong with going to your maayka?! 😲

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Aurin

@AdorableDevil

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Posted: 12 years ago

Its really weird, I think CVs exaggerate the matter

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vittoriA Giardano

@kbtr

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: Guinea
They do exist ...in a lot of non metro towns where joint families do exist , a lot of this is the norm. In a serial ofcourse its shown in a more extreme way but trust me its a reality.

OMG! You are kidding. How can anyone live like that? It would be like living in a prison. Or even worse!!

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vittoriA Giardano

@kbtr

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: DramaQueen.
I've been wanting to make a post on this but you did so thank you. Someone who is from India and knows their culture can help us better. Does such extremism actually exist even now? Isn't this going a bit too far, especially the honeymoon bit? According to them, bahus going out alone is wrong. Fine. Why not with their husbands on their honeymoon?

And what's wrong with going to your maayka?! 😲

Exactly! I don't know why they are treated as less than their own beings. Just because they are married! They still have their own personalities, hopes, dreams... Their own identity.

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vittoriA Giardano

@kbtr

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: CrazyAmie
Its really weird, I think CVs exaggerate the matter

Yeah, that's what I thought, too. But apparently not. But for sure this is an exaggeration, eh?

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Guinea

@Guinea

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: kbtr

OMG! You are kidding. How can anyone live like that? It would be like living in a prison. Or even worse!!

Nopes , i call it living in a golden cage , you have everything in terms of material comforts but no freedom ...serials show a slice of life , though ofcourse more dramatised and exaggerated , out of all your pts the below ones are very comman , especially in joint families ---

can't have friends over
can't wear clothes that you want
can't eat with your hubby
be subservient to MIL and hubby and his family
have no jovial interactions with family just for the sake of
take permission from mommy dearest in spite of being an adult (pls don't use the respect angle here, irrelevant)
...

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vittoriA Giardano

@kbtr

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Posted: 12 years ago

Originally posted by: Guinea

Nopes , i call it living in a golden cage , you have everything in terms of material comforts but no freedom ...serials show a slice of life , though ofcourse more dramatised and exaggerated , out of all your pts the below ones are very comman , especially in joint families ---
can't have friends over
can't wear clothes that you want
can't eat with your hubby
be subservient to MIL and hubby and his family
have no jovial interactions with family just for the sake of
take permission from mommy dearest in spite of being an adult (pls don't use the respect angle here, irrelevant)
...

I cannot even imagine living like that! I would die!

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Guinea

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Posted: 12 years ago

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Originally posted by: kbtr

I cannot even imagine living like that! I would die!

Most of the girls who marry into such households are conditioned for this as come from similar households ...they know no different , the real probelms happen when you come from a free thinking household and then marry into such a family ...that is when disaster strikes , i guess the crux of our show channchann.

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