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vittoriA Giardano

@kbtr

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+ 3

Posted: 12 years ago

#11

Originally posted by: Guinea

Most of the girls who marry into such households are conditioned for this as come from similar households ...they know no different , the real probelms happen when you come from a free thinking household and then marry into such a family ...that is when disaster strikes , i guess the crux of our show channchann.

I understand what you are saying. But there is no way I would lose my identity just because I got married. And why would I get married and not eat with my husband. All of the points I have made are not improper. Or just because someone does that, does not mean they are being disrespectful. Why are the girls being conditioned to behave in such a manner. In fact, I would say, that, that is being disrespectful. When one thinks they are better than others, and their thoughts and ideas are not important. In fact, I would even go as far as to say that that is discrimination and perhaps bullying in it's purest form!! And yeah, I guess that's what Chhan Chhan is trying to show.

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Guinea

@Guinea

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+ 4

Posted: 12 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: kbtr

I understand what you are saying. But there is no way I would lose my identity just because I got married. And why would I get married and not eat with my husband. All of the points I have made are not improper. Or just because someone does that, does not mean they are being disrespectful. Why are the girls being conditioned to behave in such a manner. In fact, I would say, that, that is being disrespectful. When one thinks they are better than others, and their thoughts and ideas are not important. In fact, I would even go as far as to say that that is discrimination and perhaps bullying in it's purest form!! And yeah, I guess that's what Chhan Chhan is trying to show.

I get your pt. ... I too come from a free thinking open minded family and now live with my husband where we both do what we wish to do ...so all's good . What I was trying to say is that the above is also a reality ...its not a distant thing which happens in villages etc , i have seen it in my extended family.

You are right , it is discrimination ...

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shillu.arshi

@shillu.arshi

Sparkler

+ 2

Posted: 12 years ago

#13

Originally posted by: Guinea
They do exist ...in a lot of non metro towns where joint families do exist , a lot of this is the norm. In a serial ofcourse its shown in a more extreme way but trust me its a reality.

I TOT AGREE WITH U

yup tht families do liv in our country especially in villages but not in towns metro cities

coz I have seen these type of typical gujju fam too...

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Sunara

@princessunara

Trailblazer

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Posted: 12 years ago

#14

Originally posted by: Guinea
They do exist ...in a lot of non metro towns where joint families do exist , a lot of this is the norm. In a serial ofcourse its shown in a more extreme way but trust me its a reality.

Hell are u freaking serious? i just might kill them all while they r sleeping if half this is forced on me by inlaws!!😆 what is even the use of living like this? 😲 i mean why bother marrying?

@Vittoria- i seriously wanted to make this topic too!! good u made it! for me too it seems utterly ridiculous! my mom will go anytime she pleases to my nani's place..n sometimes we r not even aware she has gone there in the morning when all of us r out for school/uni/office..its just freaking stupid and cruel if this is true!! 😡

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SanzforSush

@SanzforSush

Dazzler

Posted: 12 years ago

#15

I m from India but havent come across such a family where u cant even breathe without your in laws permission! But may be such families do exist! I hv heard dat d DILs r not allowed to wear western clothes in some households! Yesterday while watching d epi I was thinking about d same thing! All I can say is Thank God I dont belong to such a family

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incandescent

@incandescent

Sparkler

+ 6

Posted: 12 years ago

#16

I have one question, I can understand that it might be happening in villages or small towns but here the Borisagar's live in a big city and they are all educated, including the bhabhis. Considering that, isn't it a little strange what's happening in the Borisagar household? 😕

The older generation may hold such views, since they are very conservative but younger generation seems to be quite unaware of their rights.

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Meera

@MeeraHK

Stunner

+ 5

Posted: 12 years ago

#17

So,

can't go out
can't go for honeymoon
can't have friends over
can't wear clothes that you want
can't eat with your hubby
can't talk unless given permission
be subservient to MIL and hubby and his family
can't breathe unless MIL says so
have no jovial interactions with family just for the sake of
take permission from mommy dearest in spite of being an adult (pls don't use the respect angle here, irrelevant)
...

Is this what being married (in India) means??

I'm pretty sure this is an extreme case and things like these do not exist anymore???

Please enlighten me!

Agree with whatever u say..in india still at few households people are sceptical inb allowing their dil to be free bird after marriage..thy have their pown reasons...and u cant really dop anything..atlleast nw things are changing as we find couples staying all alone..

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GodhuliLogon

@GodhuliLogon

Inactive

+ 5

Posted: 12 years ago

#18

no its not like that .. 😃

Its only shown in here ..

but some family like their DIL with Ghunghat .. or saari .. sometimes .. yeah ..

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Jungli Billi

@MesmerizingSanz

Sparkler

+ 3

Posted: 12 years ago

#19

when you live in joint and conservative families, its common

i think it also depends on the environment and country you are living

in sub continent these things matter

Edited by khoshidarling - 12 years ago

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sindhu

@misscrazyfan

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 12 years ago

#20

i think non indians never have idea of indian joint family rules and culture..
another scary thing is even husbands will support and talk along with mom with out helping their wives,,,,
thank god atleast to some extent manav is behaving like human but i guess soon the plates will turn down wen uaben will showcase chhan chhan in a wrong way...
but i know chan willl sort...and to say all the ladies in real life willl not be like chan chan right???
it is the fate of some indian girls..

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