When will Sandhya find her Sooraj?? - Page 7

I am a professionally educated woman with a career and 2 children. It is not always black and white what is better for the family and even the woman in the long run. The traditional setup where the man earned and the woman stayed back to take care of home and children or the modern one where both work outside of the home and juggle other responsibilities. That is a whole another debate I would not mind having on this forum.

As for SurYa, it is indeed a novel relationship that makes us root for the couple. There is no doubt that Sandhya is very young and deserves to study and follow her dreams. Suraj realizes that and has given her the space she needs to grow. Their unlikely love story is also the USP of the show. To me, when that is sidelined, when Sandhya is shown excessively immune to Suraj, it is not a comfortable feeling. I don't feel assured that she will not walk away when she achieves her dream. One can argue that she is too noble to do such a thing. But I don't want her staying back for her sense of duty but because she has found her Suraj. I would like to see it as a slow evolvement of her feelings but cvs seem to be going for the final dramatic moment at the end of the show perhaps that she finally realizes that she cannot live without him and that she loves him with her body and soul. We already see that in Suraj. So the romantic in me cannot help but root for him.

P.S. - I guess a few people here have misunderstood my original post. It was not about SoorYa relation at all. I was referring to SAndhya as an example and throughout, I never even treated Sooraj as the man in our show. I was talking in very general terms where by Sandhya , I meant every woman out there in the real world and I used Sooraj to signify her rights, self-respect and every other thing dear to a woman,

1. The four ashrams as stated in the Vedas are not a part of the Rig Vedic culture. They are a later addition. Sandhya call it fate call it her luck is no longer in Brahmacharya ashram. She is a Grihasta as we cannot deny the fact she is married. Marriage in all our shastras entails physical relationship, if we go by our religious texts. What they show in the serial is unrealistic. Nobody is suggesting they show vulgar display of affection. It is only an implied physical relationship with SurYa moments which is suggested.

2. The profession they have chosen is IPS not anything else. I come from a family of civil servants. I have grown up in that atmosphere and can give you a first hand account. It is impossible in the civil services for the husband and wife to stay together unless one of them decides to give up their profession and stays at home or keeps changing jobs as and when husband gets posted. The job is transferable and after every 3 to 5 yrs she will be posted to a different district. Even if both are civil servants they get posted in nearby districts and mostly are away from each other. Kiran Bedi has never lived with her husband. He lived in Punjab and she went around. A story which has been developed as a love story as viewers, we will not be able to digest the separation if post IPS the serial continues.

3.The argument that it is their personal affair and let them decide does not hold any standing. Here we are talking about Suraj and Sandhya not Anas and Deepika. Just like we comment on all aspects of the serial we comment on this as well. Serials are for public consumption and there is no private space in them.

4.Yes it can be argued that why should Suraj not become a house husband. Why should a woman give up her dreams ?They can show that happening but I some how feel it will dip the TRPS as India to my mind is not ready for that revolution. Since she will be posted in remote districts realistically speaking he cannot run his business, in the serial they can however show. Had the CVs wanted to show a revolution, they would not have shown a submissive Sandhya. (to Bhabo).

5.That is why I suggested politics that is being an MLA as that not only satisfies Sandhya's zeal for social work but also keeps her with her family. All police officers work under politicians and what I suggested was more in the nature of promotion.

Relationships vary, emotions vary and I was just trying to telling that a relationship in this form is also possible.

Just like you all I am also frustrated that college track is not shown. Deebz if you ask I want Sandhya to persuade Sooraj to take up his education. Complete it. Maybe because of the confidence level he is not inclined towards it. Bhabasa telling that Sooraj was a bright student. I want Sandhya to take up that role of supporting him. He also can be professionally qualified like an MBA. . Then they become the real Diya Aur Baati.

Degree can bring a lot of confidence to Sooraj's character. Sooraj's character is shown much more educated than the actual degree holders. So for me deserves so that this so called educated people dont make fun of him.

Umaji one more thing about Grihasthasrama. Many a times marriage happens in our society not when girl actually wants, but when society thinks she has to married. Also teachings are given that after marriage she has to do certain things which she likes or not. It is considered her duty.

I will tell you a true story of my friend to clarify why I am telling it. She is also an IT professional like me and it was her dream to go to US. She was married and they were having family planning as her US Visa was getting processed , but she became pregnant. Family was against abortion and so crashed her onsite dreams. Today she loves her 2 yr daughter , but everytime she hears someone going onsite she is pained and one time even she told me "wish we hadnt consummated our marriage, it was only a matter of a year or two. I would have gone and come back"

For a woman with childbirth certain responsibilities come which affects her life atleast for the initial 2-3yrs and maybe beyond if she doesnt have proper family support. A dream that remains a pain is not good for her or anyone concerned.

Will the marriage survive with a guilty Sooraj, as he tells multiple times if your dream doesnt happen " I will not be able to look at myself"

Her being a politician is always a possibility that can be explored, which can b done post IPS also. 😊