Sandhya's dilemma-- Country vs Family - Page 4

Originally posted by: udnis

just now read ur post and all comments...all are bade bade comments...

u said clearly about family or country's priority...

as in police or other related jobs,the country is their 1st priority...

but for the selfish and who thinks about them and their family is always concerned about them only...

sandhya always think about others eventhough she mentioned to ankur she now learned to live for other happiness not mine...

she want become ips officer since childhood that means she is living for others only from chilhood till now...

ONLY ONE THING I WANT SAY IS WHO THINKS FOR OTHER HAPPINESS AND LIVE 4 OTHERS,FOR THEM THE WHOLE WORLD IS LIKE FAMILY...

in that point family or country is all in one name as FAMILY...

note sorry if any mistakes in typing

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Nicely written.
The thing is, Sandhya's in-laws is a family that is of a very backward thinking. While they mean well, they do not expect the women to be well-educated, independent or dominant. It is true that Bhabho is a dominant member of the family but then also, the DIL's are expected to be submissive.
While any profession might have been objectionable in that family, IPS is even more for them to accept, I feel.
I think even in very modern families, it is not taken well if the wife is more successful than the husband. So will Bhabho accept her DIL gaining such a high post wherein she will have so many serving her. With Sandhya's academic achievements, I feel she will start out earning more that Suraj.
Suraj is too pure at heart to care or feel jealous but I think that will be a big issue to others.
This is where Diya aur baati steps in!

Originally posted by: maddy311

Hahahahahahahahaha😆
This looks like sandy ka bhabo avatar😆
I can't imagine her with this much anger but she is looking smart👍🏼

Originally posted by: Shreya_94

Nicely written.
The thing is, Sandhya's in-laws is a family that is of a very backward thinking. While they mean well, they do not expect the women to be well-educated, independent or dominant. It is true that Bhabho is a dominant member of the family but then also, the DIL's are expected to be submissive.
While any profession might have been objectionable in that family, IPS is even more for them to accept, I feel.
I think even in very modern families, it is not taken well if the wife is more successful than the husband. So will Bhabho accept her DIL gaining such a high post wherein she will have so many serving her. With Sandhya's academic achievements, I feel she will start out earning more that Suraj.
Suraj is too pure at heart to care or feel jealous but I think that will be a big issue to others.
This is where Diya aur baati steps in!

Loved your views Shreya, and it is true that most families detest seeing wife more successful than husband, though the scenario is slowly changing. Suraj's pure, selfless & unconditional love and support will allow Sandhya to be successful in achieving her dreams 😳 😃 😃

Originally posted by: SAIBALROUTH

With Bhabo making her intentions clear that she wanted a Maa Lakshmi as her daughter-in law (DIL), not Maa Durga, Sandhya will surely be in a dilemma to state her dreams to Suraj. The dilemma is whether she will give family the prior importance, or the country as top priority.

actually i want ankur to reveal it to suraj , he is the one who ruined her dreams ... now he knows suraj is very supportive and how much he loves his wife so this is the right time for ankur to do expiation then he can leave the decision to suraj ... otherwise i have no idea how sandhya will herself reveal her dreams to suraj especially after what bhabho said 🤔 since we know how much she respects bhabho...

now comes the general discussion..

When a family sends their DIL (like the Rathis will eventually do) out to IPS force to serve this great country, as few have done here and in other countries, knowing they may get killed, it seems that the family is putting country above family. Now, we can argue that the country we serve is ultimately there to serve our family, but still there are times when country comes first. 😊


i dnt think being a IPS officer brings that much risk to our lives , it is a very dignified post indeed n highest civil rank after IAS , people love to pursue such careers and prepare for exams for 2 or 3 yrs sacrificing their small small enjoyments ... and earn lot of respect , power , popularity once they achieve it ... and any parents would love to see their child as ips officer ...it is not a sacrifice actually , we hear of bomb blasts n everything but how many do we heard an ips officer also lost his life , it is very rare case may be 1 in 1000 ..so for such rare tragedies i dnt hink anybody would be hesitant towards such careers after all danger is everywhere , death can be at any place at any time ... it is not like sending their family member to a war field on olden days where there is 80% chance of death 😆 , if they return then it is a miracle 😆 ... in a country like india even a soldier's job is not that risky since our nation maintains peace with other countries, many people finish their services without a single war...

ips officers also have family n live happily with them but having a family with a saas like bhabho n live upto her expectations is impossible i would say 😆 unless bhabho changes her attitude for some remote reasons ...

Many people put their careers above their families, opting not to have a family,

😆 i dnt think anybody would opt not to have family for their careers unless there is some other underlying reason which they dnt reveal hence say this reason 😆

to curtail their families, or to work all week or for weeks on end without seeing their families. But then again, we work, ostensibly so that we can provide for our families. Yet do we sometimes put money and success above family? Do we sometimes overwork for someone supposedly so committed to family?

of course people work for themselves for their dignity , respect in the society etc eventually family will also be happy with this and get its benefits ...
even people who dont have family also work for their life ...

Then we have to ask, when we say that family is important to us, do we mean that the mere fact that we are related to such and such individuals is of paramount importance to us, or is it the relationship which we have with them which is so important? Do we mean that our time with our family is what is most important to us, or do we mean that we love our family very much?

depends on whom we have in our family ...

And what is family? Is family a place where we and those related to us eat and live together, or is family a social group which shares some values? If anyone's brother is a murderer, a thief or an immoral individual, is he still part of that family? Is a family only about love or is a family also about shared values?

differs for each family ...

So, Sandhya is still at the crossroads--> whether to serve her family full-time or to sacrifice a larger part of family life for serving the police force efficiently, and we all know, she will settle for the cause of police force & country in general, and Suraj will play a big role in helping her to achieve her dreams which she had been dreaming of since childhood. 😳

yeah we know suraj will help her ..waiting for that track 😳

overall a good discussion and a nice topic ⭐️

Originally posted by: Shreya_94

Nicely written.
The thing is, Sandhya's in-laws is a family that is of a very backward thinking. While they mean well, they do not expect the women to be well-educated, independent or dominant. It is true that Bhabho is a dominant member of the family but then also, the DIL's are expected to be submissive.
While any profession might have been objectionable in that family, IPS is even more for them to accept, I feel.
I think even in very modern families, it is not taken well if the wife is more successful than the husband. So will Bhabho accept her DIL gaining such a high post wherein she will have so many serving her. With Sandhya's academic achievements, I feel she will start out earning more that Suraj.
Suraj is too pure at heart to care or feel jealous but I think that will be a big issue to others.
This is where Diya aur baati steps in!