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JJKN has started on it's new trek...will Jassi and Armaan be able to survive their parents? I can relate to this story. I know the show should end, but this track is hopefully a little bit more logical than the previous one. I think it might make some sense to some of us who have entered marriage through love....it holds some weight for me.
Ok, so parent involvement...sticky territory. š¤¢ I always go back and forth with this issue. I don't want to hurt my parents so I should do what they ask, but my husband's parents want something else. My husband wants something else all together. My parents are important and my husband is important and his parents are just as important. Everyone's opinion is pertinent and you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings so who do you lash out at...your significant other....it is damn tough!
I guess this sort of goes back to Peach's Proposal Topic
So our parent's liked us...I think...I know my parents liked him...but his parents were upset that I made him migrate to the US from Canada, but now they are ok. They kept telling me that usually the girl goes where the husband goes...which would be all good and dandy, but his parents live in Calgary...there is nothing to do there and it is bloody cold!!! I made an informed decision that we should live in California, thereby looking like a big meany, cuz my parents, family and friends are close by and my husband travels way too much for me to stay in Calgary. š¤¢
Oh, my gosh, I can remember when my husband's parents came down from Calgary...oh, my gosh...what a nightmare...my dad was hell bent on having our ceremony the traditional way and he said it to my husband's parents thereby insulting them! If Billoo existed, my dad would have to be his brother. Then my dad goes on to insult my husband! He wanted him to change his occupation...omg! I was so upset and I just want to push him down the throat of Crusty the Clown. My husband gets into it with my dad....the whole situation was a bed of roses and of course somehow we missed the roses and landed in the thorns.
Then, the triple, whammy, bammy...my husband's parents are upset cuz we cooked vegetarian food for guests that they decided to bring over with them without informing us. We thought they were coming home the next day, they decided to come home same day. OMG! My husband was like, I have never seen anyone so cheap that they would cook veggie food...oh, no this wasn't happening! He was so engulfed in what his parents said that he didn't realize that 3 out of 5 people in our house are vegetarian. There is no point in cooking meat when the majority of us don't eat it and we are quite fine with and food is food. Anyway, this one issue divided the both of us...cuz I felt my parents were right in cooking vegetarian for the right reasons....which I won't go into. My husband felt his parents were right in their...whatever their problem was (just kidding)
Anyway, eventually, 3 years later, we are all good (knocking wood...knocking wood again). I learned that I don't care how nice your parents are or aren't...I don't listen to either of them if it is going to create problems between my husband and I. What may or may not create the problems that doesn't matter...I can take my parents advice, request or complaint, but I don't think it gives me the right to hammer it over my husband's head, like Jassi is doing to Armaan. This conspiracy to make Jassi choose her love over her family may just work if she doesn't smarten up and see what Armaan wants and what Jassi wants. She is just looking at the wants and needs of her family and it is creating conflict.
I understand that Bebe's request to go to Amritsar is important, but Bebe has agreed to work with the Seths, because she seems to understand what kind of people they are. I think Bebe is taking the right steps to avoid conflict EVEN though they may not agree. In fact it seems with today's episode that all the Walia's have stepped back for their daughter's happiness...and on the contrary Armaan's parents are working very hard to break them up.
I just shared a really interesting part about my life, but I did learn from it, but I learned is that I don't care if my parents are right or wrong, I can't let them interfere to the point where it may affect my relationship. Don't get me wrong, our parents have interfered before to make things better and they do what is best for their children, but like I said it is sticky territory.
I don't know whether I have opened up a whole can of worms or what, but this is my two rupees from my experience.
Ok, so parent involvement...sticky territory. š¤¢ I always go back and forth with this issue. I don't want to hurt my parents so I should do what they ask, but my husband's parents want something else. My husband wants something else all together. My parents are important and my husband is important and his parents are just as important. Everyone's opinion is pertinent and you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings so who do you lash out at...your significant other....it is damn tough!
I guess this sort of goes back to Peach's Proposal Topic
So our parent's liked us...I think...I know my parents liked him...but his parents were upset that I made him migrate to the US from Canada, but now they are ok. They kept telling me that usually the girl goes where the husband goes...which would be all good and dandy, but his parents live in Calgary...there is nothing to do there and it is bloody cold!!! I made an informed decision that we should live in California, thereby looking like a big meany, cuz my parents, family and friends are close by and my husband travels way too much for me to stay in Calgary. š¤¢
Oh, my gosh, I can remember when my husband's parents came down from Calgary...oh, my gosh...what a nightmare...my dad was hell bent on having our ceremony the traditional way and he said it to my husband's parents thereby insulting them! If Billoo existed, my dad would have to be his brother. Then my dad goes on to insult my husband! He wanted him to change his occupation...omg! I was so upset and I just want to push him down the throat of Crusty the Clown. My husband gets into it with my dad....the whole situation was a bed of roses and of course somehow we missed the roses and landed in the thorns.
Then, the triple, whammy, bammy...my husband's parents are upset cuz we cooked vegetarian food for guests that they decided to bring over with them without informing us. We thought they were coming home the next day, they decided to come home same day. OMG! My husband was like, I have never seen anyone so cheap that they would cook veggie food...oh, no this wasn't happening! He was so engulfed in what his parents said that he didn't realize that 3 out of 5 people in our house are vegetarian. There is no point in cooking meat when the majority of us don't eat it and we are quite fine with and food is food. Anyway, this one issue divided the both of us...cuz I felt my parents were right in cooking vegetarian for the right reasons....which I won't go into. My husband felt his parents were right in their...whatever their problem was (just kidding)
Anyway, eventually, 3 years later, we are all good (knocking wood...knocking wood again). I learned that I don't care how nice your parents are or aren't...I don't listen to either of them if it is going to create problems between my husband and I. What may or may not create the problems that doesn't matter...I can take my parents advice, request or complaint, but I don't think it gives me the right to hammer it over my husband's head, like Jassi is doing to Armaan. This conspiracy to make Jassi choose her love over her family may just work if she doesn't smarten up and see what Armaan wants and what Jassi wants. She is just looking at the wants and needs of her family and it is creating conflict.
I understand that Bebe's request to go to Amritsar is important, but Bebe has agreed to work with the Seths, because she seems to understand what kind of people they are. I think Bebe is taking the right steps to avoid conflict EVEN though they may not agree. In fact it seems with today's episode that all the Walia's have stepped back for their daughter's happiness...and on the contrary Armaan's parents are working very hard to break them up.
I just shared a really interesting part about my life, but I did learn from it, but I learned is that I don't care if my parents are right or wrong, I can't let them interfere to the point where it may affect my relationship. Don't get me wrong, our parents have interfered before to make things better and they do what is best for their children, but like I said it is sticky territory.
I don't know whether I have opened up a whole can of worms or what, but this is my two rupees from my experience.
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