My take on what might happen... - Page 2

Originally posted by: Laila2009

I ask that question of you.

Laila, you're hired. Good post. I liked your post. CV's are you listening? Reading? Show Abhi as a mature person and not some irrational vigilante type fool.

Originally posted by: SValeCalGal

OK Laila - since you asked 😃

I cannot gush over this outcome of yours ...

First: EVERYTHING of late the unthinking Sunshiners have done vis-a-vis our man Abhi is outrageous!! They should correct that forthwith!! He was NEVER an insanely angry, jealous fellow!! He's also long known Simi's shortcomings including the fact that she's neither immediately forthcoming nor truthful to herself. They can dispense with this 'how could you hide it from me yadda yadda yadda' garbage - it cuts no mustard with me! She's even admitted to the BBB being given a hiding at her hands - armed with the red-hot iron rod! So, for Abhi to even go to the extent of thinking that his wife could ever contemplate any kind of physical relationship with the BBB is bizarre! As is his wondering what she might have done had rape been on the BBB's mind - given that she was fairly resourceful the last time he attempted to force himself on her. Questioning her along those lines in simply not in keeping with his character.

I still vote for their marriage to be the rock of Gibraltar (just as I said in my last version of KB - eons ago)! I think Abhi should go to the damn Chowki melee and he can be cold, cold, cold towards his very own (not so) dear Simi. We can then have fireworks back at home (no help from Mili this time - thankee verry much!!) where she wonders what's up with him and he tells her in no uncertain terms that her keeping info. from him is for the birds and he ain't havin' any of it ... when she bawls, he can give her my STFUPA notice and ask her to act her age!

The BBB needs to be out-maneuvered and sent packing! I cannot see how he could have managed to inveigle himself into the Chowki & any interaction with Anita is just as unthinkable.

Originally posted by: Bana

I really like your storyline Laila - a good sensible way to take the story forward while explaining things that have already happened.

What I think Abhi should do:

When Simi sobs and asks him to take her along for the outstation project, he should tell her you (Simi) are asking me (Abhi) now in the heat of the moment, but do you really think you can sustain yourself for a week out of 12/24 and devote yourself to our marriage, leaving your family problems behind? I don't think so. I am going ahead alone for my project. If after a couple of days you still feel the same and can bring yourself to leave 12/24 issues aside for some time and concentrate on our marriage, you can come and join me. But the initiative will have to come from you this time.

That way, he won't be entirely conceding to her and nor will he close all doors for her. Simi will get a chance to work this out for herself and make the effort alone to leave her family behind and join Abhi.

Btw Calgal has made a good point - knowing Simi's history of hiding things from her beneficiaries and making stupid assumptions and decisions on behalf of others, Abhi couldn't have been that shocked at her latest boo-boo, nor can he think she might have accepted. So Abhi can be mad with Simi for not trusting him but not for putting up with RB's advances.

Originally posted by: Laila2009

Thanks Bana for your commments. I was kind of thinking along the same lines as well. I also noted your feedback regarding Simi's behavior which is contrary to what I have been reading on the posts here and I am looking at the possiblity of what evidence there is in the show to support this avenue - much appreciated. Thanks again.

Originally posted by: Bana

1. When RB was blackmailing that he would get RS's shop sealed, that (apart from promise to Mr T) was her main reason for marrying RB. But she did not reveal this threat to anyone and took a unilateral decision to marry RB to save the shop. She only revealed it to RS in the park finally, never to Abhi who could have helped by somehow neutralising RB's threat.

2. When she got to know RB routinely trapped women, she hid that as well but Abhi anyway came to know.

3. She did not reveal about Neetu's pregnancy and Vicky not taking responsibility - Abhi could have helped by finding Vicky, talking to him etc. Even when she took money from Abhi for abortion she did not tell him.

4. She hid her relationship with Abhi from her dad assuming that he would not accept it, even though RS has always been a reasonable man and liked Abhi.

Given this pattern it is frustrating but not really surprising that she has done it again - so while Abhi can be angry why is he so shocked and asking her repeatedly why she hid it and handled it on her own. Doesn't he know she has being doing such things all along?

Originally posted by: Bana

1. When RB was blackmailing that he would get RS's shop sealed, that (apart from promise to Mr T) was her main reason for marrying RB. But she did not reveal this threat to anyone and took a unilateral decision to marry RB to save the shop. She only revealed it to RS in the park finally, never to Abhi who could have helped by somehow neutralising RB's threat.

2. When she got to know RB routinely trapped women, she hid that as well but Abhi anyway came to know.

3. She did not reveal about Neetu's pregnancy and Vicky not taking responsibility - Abhi could have helped by finding Vicky, talking to him etc. Even when she took money from Abhi for abortion she did not tell him.

4. She hid her relationship with Abhi from her dad assuming that he would not accept it, even though RS has always been a reasonable man and liked Abhi.

Given this pattern it is frustrating but not really surprising that she has done it again - so while Abhi can be angry why is he so shocked and asking her repeatedly why she hid it and handled it on her own. Doesn't he know she has being doing such things all along?

Thanks Bana... for these details about the neetu's pregnancy. SO HER HIGHNESS has a pattern to show this behavior and hide them from not just Abhi but from those who love her the most e.i ..R.S.
I remember one incident when she did tell him about nakul as the suitable match for her on the confession night but then what?? changed after Mr. Nakul's entrance.
Now with the pattern like I said the separation is a must for Abhi to cool down and highness to think it through and come to a decision for her behavior and the narcissistic personality to change.

I am not at all trying to psycho analyze it ...but far from it... just to find out why her behavior is what it is.
Simi Sethi is a highly qualified lecturer in the Delhi University
My question is? DOES THIS NATURE TO UNDERSTAND ANOTHER PERSON FROM THEIR PROSPECTIVE COMES WITH EDUCATION OR NOT? OR IT SOMETHING INNATE... OR IS IT SOMETHING TAUGHT TO US BY OUR SURROUNDING....,BY OUR UPBRINGING ..OR CULTURE OR MAY BE OUR LIFESTYLE??? does the sibling's behavior play a part in your actions later in life? part in it .???does one needs considerable amount of knowledge ..or wisdom that may only be offered with higher education to know and accept ,to understand the human race and the people as they are.
In Simi's case she does have these faults ..being the older child and having a very much dependent mother for her decisions and participation, A dad even though he loved her may never was their to deal with her emotional issues and he even admitted to her that he failed her in that respect.
She just was never taught how to open up to anyone or even to communicate with another human being. It has always been Milli who initiated and taken the steps to open up to her and vise verse. Even after the wedding it was Milli who wanted her to call the dream boy** and talk to him. Just something to think about
MY point is that to a certain extent education broadens ones thinking but only if you let it be!!!You could have studied in the best of colleges and done 2or 3 majors but still never have touched the depth and the hearts of the people you came across. It is your upbringing that changes you and the circumstances play a major part in it too and with Simi's upbringing we know the loving family and all but looking back now the only sane person in this family left is MILLI. Even when she called him betcha it was Milli who convinced her to go and talk to him. she listened...
And this crucial and more critical change now in Simi's life will and can change her forever. Abhi has tried many a times to bring her out of this cocoon but has failed miserably and longer separation between the two of them may will only widen the gaps

Yes Simi may miss him or even after few weeks decide to go join him.. but that is not the solution of the problem here. It is just a quick fix for Simi to give in and say sorry. If her upbringing is an issue here it should be dealt and nursed before the two of them get together again. Why we never see any of her friends... I started the show in Nov. and have never seen her childhood friends to call and come by. The Sethi's lived all their lives in Karol-bagh and this Simi having no friends in that neighborhood is not only unbelievable but insane considering this is Karol-Bagh we are talking. So what is the depth of the syndrome Simi is suffering for hiding the truth from everyone .😲

Till we know this secret the rest is all a temporary fix and this narcissistic personality will bring Abhi on the streets of karol-bagh again.