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ramas

@ramas

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Posted: 15 years ago

Let us see when simi is insulted badly and thrown out by her mom and others. Should abhi reach there and comfort her and wipe her tears? or may be when she comes back crying he do the same?.

Or should he be upset saying that this is our new beginning and you left without any note or telling me whereare you going and you go back to your maika where you are not welcome and you promised not to do that.

I think he should turn away and say simi lets us make some ground rules here simi you know I love you so much and want to give you everything and I can not see you going somewhere and get hurt and cry or be sad so from now on

1,when you decide to leave unannounced leave me a note or tell some one where you are going so I won;t worry.

2. please do not go somewhere where you are not welcome and get yourself and me insulted and thrown out and then come back crying here ruining your day and my day and give example of sati leaving shivji and going her dad's house univited getting her huby insulted and ended up loosing her life. I know it is true extreme. But married daughter should not go to their maika where they are not welcome.

3. They have enough to worry for now and she should know this and help him and support him not create new problems.

This is the first time so I am overlooking it. Now plz stop crying and start acting like a mature grown up. I am also kicked out by my dad Do u see me going there? I miss my mom too? Who do I go to complain?

Simi I am a human being just like you and my feelings get hurt too but do you have time or even think about me for a change. I need you as much as you need me in bad times to help each other. But every time you disappear scaring me. Should I worry about you or concentrate on getting us out of this mess created by our parents?.

Tali do haath se bajati hai You are my better half and we can get out of this together helping and supporting each other. Besides I told you before you have to lead me since I am younger. So tell me how do we get out of this now..

Tumhari najro me mai baccha hun so this badmash baccha need your love support and guidance. Can you give me your undivided attention and help me out for once please?

I like them to have heart to heart and you can add to this. rather than abhi letting her do this to herself adn him.

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KBfanNo1

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Posted: 15 years ago

Well Timed Question Rama Di... I will put my 2 cents here.

As per me, Abhi should not support her this time.. he has been doing this since the day he confessed her love to her and everytime he only was after her.. even though she too expressed that she loves him but she was always overshadowed by her family love and responsibilities.

Infact the entire wedding episode happened just because of Abhi.. Simi was almost about to marry Nakul infact shadi ho hi jati agar Abhi wahan na pahunchti.

She did not do any efforts to avoid the wedding and now when everything Abhi has done and finally she is married, she has no courtesy to inform him.

Imagine you love someone so deeply and then on your first night you donot even Kiss Hug... Unrealistic creatives.

then again morning she goes there. Abhi needs to take a call now..

He has to find a job and Simi too go back to her job now as first thing.. She should be more worried as how to meet the daily needs than crying and running back to her mom who does not care....

Pata nahi kuin aisa dekha rahe hain. i have lost all hopes on this serial. agar ab phir se kuch panga dekhaya and Simi Abhi have a fight then it will be too much.

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neetu

@_Neetu_

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Posted: 15 years ago

according to me,

keeping in mind the concern of abhi 2wards simi, before marriage was indefinable....simi really dragged abhi with her foolish stuffs ,gratuitous...bt now as they both had married with each other then i think it will be apt. for abhi to help simi as now there is none of her apne behind inspite of abhi...simi is a human and she too wants the help of someone to live her life and abhi is only left now...therefore,abhi should and have to help her,he is her husband now...all that kasame and waade he have to follow as its his kartavya..!!!

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Dhabu89

@Dhabu89

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: sahanaya

according to me,

keeping in mind the concern of abhi 2wards simi, before marriage was indefinable....simi really dragged abhi with her foolish stuffs ,gratuitous...bt now as they both had married with each other then i think it will be apt. for abhi to help simi as now there is none of her apne behind inspite of abhi...simi is a human and she too wants the help of someone to live her life and abhi is only left now...therefore,abhi should and have to help her,he is her husband now...all that kasame and waade he have to follow as its his kartavya..!!!

I agree with you about Abhi's responsibilities! But what about the kartavya Simi has towards Abhi? Does she need to take care of her family after marriage or is Abhi her priority? He has been doing all his kartavya since before marriage........When is it Simi's turn? I used to cry for Simi now it is too much... Espically after Manju announced her dead to her.

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neetu

@_Neetu_

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Posted: 15 years ago

yes,u r right ...and now simi had approved that it would be our foolishness to expect something from simi as she is only a daughter of manjuji none of others...simi should be concern about abhi atleast a bit as he is her husband..!!!!

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Malini

@Rumii

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Posted: 15 years ago

Only if was That easy & Practical to forget n tear-off ties with your Mayka!😵

And Why Abhi ,No Husband has no right to impose such rules on Simmi as She should not go to her Mayka etc.....

If Bahus do that to their husbands We say she's evil Witch-Bahu {What would Viewers Say if simmi says Abhi NOT To meet his Dad because he has thrown him out?)So why n hiw can we support Abhi here if He asks simmi to sever ties with Her maayka😲

It should be Simmi's choice n I would say SIMMI's doing the RIGHT thing by trying to improve her relation with her Mother n Mayka because- relationships DO change and Who knows What might happen in the long run..??

Husband might turn into Ex-Husbands BUt have we ever heard of EX-parents🤣??

Parents might be rude,Angry with Children But that's because They love them too much n have great Expectations and with time Parents eventually forgive all mistakes done by children but the Child also has to make effort to improve his/her relationship with His/her parent{S}.... So,Siimi's doing the Right thing.... after all too much Ego never does any good to any relationship....someone has to give in otherwise distance keeps on increasing....

A Girl might get a good Husband bUT thinking Practically - it's Never Ever Wise to sever ties with One's Roots,One's Own Family....what we call Mayka for married Women!!!!!😲

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Laila Banu

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: iamindian
Only if was That easy to forget n tear-off ties with your Mayka!😵
And Why Abhi ,No Husband has no right to impose such rules on Simmi as She should not go to her Mayka etc.....

If Bahus do that to their husbands We say she's evil Witch-Bahu {What would Viewers Say if simmi says Abhi NOT To meet his Dad because he has thrown him out?)So why n hiw can we support Abhi here if He asks simmi to sever ties with Her maayka😲

It should be Simmi's choice n I would say SIMMI's doing the RIGHT thing by trying to improve her relation with her Mother.....A Girl might get a good Husbband bUT it's Never Ever Wise to sever ties with One's Roots,One's Own Family....what we call Mayka for married Women!!!!!

Ramas didn't say anything about bringing ties with her mother. She is talking about setting boundaries. If someone says I don't want a relationship with you, then why try to make one possible. It gives that person permission to say what they want and they will never think of what they say as hurtful because the other person will always forgive them. Since Simi left without letting Abhi know of her intentions, that was not fair on Abhi. Let us hope he was a good guesser when he saw he "note" of the kheer as another person here mentioned on another thread.

Some argue that Abhi should put a limit on her, but I don't think he should. I do think he should talk to her about it, let her know what he thinks but ultimately leave the decision in her hands. She is an adult and he wants her to have that choice. Abhi's decision to discourage her from going is her mother is the one who wanted to severe ties with her. If she keeps going back it will show she needs them. They need to have the chance to need her and for the right reason. Going back again and again will never give them that opportunity.

On Simi's good side, when Simi went to the house she didn't go inside. She stood outside of the house (how she got there I don't know - did she walk the entire distance? That is an awful lot of walking). Simi desperately wants her mother's love, but the question is will she sacrficie her love for Abhi after marriage for this love (and approval). She would not have been married to Abhi if it was not for his hard work, so let us see her want to stay married to Abhi despite all the odds against her. Poor guy keeps promising her the moon and stars (he thinks of her) and she's thinking about her mother. Will he ever win??

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neetu

@_Neetu_

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Posted: 15 years ago

laila,i fully agrees with u...i think the lady mistaken the concept...thanks for ur explaination to her..!!!!

Edited by sahanaya - 15 years ago

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ramas

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: iamindian
Only if was That easy & Practical to forget n tear-off ties with your Mayka!😵
And Why Abhi ,No Husband has no right to impose such rules on Simmi as She should not go to her Mayka etc.....

If Bahus do that to their husbands We say she's evil Witch-Bahu {What would Viewers Say if simmi says Abhi NOT To meet his Dad because he has thrown him out?)So why n hiw can we support Abhi here if He asks simmi to sever ties with Her maayka😲

It should be Simmi's choice n I would say SIMMI's doing the RIGHT thing by trying to improve her relation with her Mother n Mayka because- relationships DO change and Who knows What might happen in the long run..??

Husband might turn into Ex-Husbands BUt have we ever heard of EX-parents🤣??

Parents might be rude,Angry with Children But that's because They love them too much n have great Expectations and with time Parents eventually forgive all mistakes done by children but the Child also has to make effort to improve his/her relationship with His/her parent{S}....

A Girl might get a good Husband bUT it's Never Ever Wise to sever ties with One's Roots,One's Own Family....what we call Mayka for married Women!!!!!😲

I agree with you 100% it is not easy to forget your roots or sever ties. But It is not simi who did that her own mother siblings does not want that. Simi is not given that choice.

Do u think it is wise to cry about her mom's birhtday who announced her dead especailly when they should be thinking about getting out of that dhaba, getting clothes and shelter and makinng earning.Is this what woman;s suppose to do when they have nothing they can call their own.

Woman is called ardhangini who supports her husband in eerything in good times and bad. Simi is only interested in making bad time even worst.

A true loving wife will put everything behind her and encourage her husband and not turn her back what simi did and crying about her mother increasing more sadness and worries at this point.

as a married women many of us know that we go thru times in life when sasural take precednece over maika.

I will give you my own example which happned many years ago My dad has passed away 15 days ago and my FIL asked me to go to my SIL's sasural and ask them to perform her wedding in a week . They they had expected me to be a part of it in grand style and I had to do that since they wanted to use my presence as an excuse.

Imagine How I must have felt then . But I did that bcos that was my duty. Luckily that wedding did not happen that time as boy's mamu has passed away a month before my dad did. So they refused to have the wedding then.

But for simi it is her utmost duty to be by abhi and help and support him.

Abhi will never force or ask simi to severe ties with her maika when he himself love manju despite all she did to him.

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Malini

@Rumii

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Posted: 15 years ago

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LAILA- I Meant This line - please do not go somewhere where you are not welcome {Line fRom Ramas' Post} To me This means that Abhi's telling Him NOT to go To her Mayka n that is what My Post is about..... after all it's about Practical thinking about a Woman's future...It's Not practical to feel OverConfident because You've got a 'GoOD' Husband..... because we all know in Practicality Good Husbands change.... Who knows what's in store for Simmi..????????????

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