should abhi be angry with simi or support her?

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Shanti

@shanti05

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Posted: 15 years ago

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I never thought this topic wud come up since the aftermath of todays episode there was no kinda annoying situation Abhi showed towards Simi since she left to her 12/24 residence.

I hope she now concertrates on her family ( herself and Abhi ) for a while and do'nt think abt anything else
I want them to develop their relationship and Abhi should make it clear to her and make her think abt it herself

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ramas

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Posted: 15 years ago

#22

So abhi decided to go and support her just in case her mom and family throws her out and he made manju realize how simi got up early to make kheer for her and bring to her.

Way to go abhi. kaash her huby is like this who stand by his wife even though she makes mistake after mistake.

He is always there to rescue her and I hope simi does the same for him when the time comes. Eventually simi has to choose between abhi and her family.

Mean while let us hope for the best that they are settled soon and living happily some where away from all these troubles.

I want them to start their married life soon.

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Laila Banu

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Posted: 15 years ago

#23

Originally posted by: iamindian
LAILA- I Meant This line - please do not go somewhere where you are not welcome {Line fRom Ramas' Post} To me This means that Abhi's telling Him NOT to go To her Mayka n that is what My Post is about..... after all it's about Practical thinking about a Woman's future...It's Not practical to feel OverConfident because You've got a 'GoOD' Husband..... because we all know in Practicality Good Husbands change.... Who knows what's in store for Simmi..????????????

Doesn't seem as though he's asking her severe ties to me. If anything he's just asking her to have some dignity for herself. And a good husband never changes IamIndian. I don't know about your experience with husbands, but I have seen so many good ones out there. A good husband stays a good husband and a bad one who changes was never good from teh start.

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Laila Banu

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Posted: 15 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: iamindian
Yes Ramas- I agree 100% that
as a married women many of us know that we go thru times in life when sasural take precednece over maika. BUT here in Simmi's life since she doesn't have saas-Sasur-Nanad to 'deal with ' at tHis Moment,She can at least utilise the time to set things right before it's toooooooo late??!! And I Don't think abhi thinks that Simmi's ignoring Him because as it's true that Women DONOt get good support or understanding from their Saas-Sasur,it's also true that life for a Woman after marriage Becomes a LOT EASIER If she only has her Husband in her 'sasural'.... So is the case with Simmi and Abhi needs to Understand (& I'm Very Sure he Surely Understands that too!) that simmi needs both her hubby as well as her Maayka's Support as ALL other women as many rules are pretty different for Men & Women..!! Women NEED their Mayka's Support as Women leave their home,have a 'New ' family n lots of other-different types of Struggles n challenges that MEN DON't NEED TO FACE So Women DO need the support of their mAyka For ever!!

IamIndian, you come from a different value systems. For you a sasural and husband come in a package deal. The need for the maika is there as you do not believe that a husband can be loyal to a woman or supportive. I come from a world that when you enter into a relationshi it is you and the husband. If there is someone in the relationship be that your maika or his family, that marriage is doomed for failure. Eventually as a couple you will start your own family and that is a priority. If you cannot rely on your husband for the no. 1 support, then that is never a happy marriage.

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

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Posted: 15 years ago

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Originally posted by: iamindian
She has declared Simi dead afterall.

ManjujI is Simmi's Own Mother after all......Mothers and fathers say LOTS OF RUDE THINGS But They necessarily Don't Mean them!! The Only people by whose Insult we Do Not Or Should not feel insulted are our parents..... yeah-If ManjuJi has told Abhi,their Son-in-Law something,He should take it very seriously But not Simmi... ManjuJi has told that my 1st child is dead out of sheer frustration n anger that her daughter disobeyed her but as some other mother ManjuJi is also pining to meet her daughter though her Ego is stopping her from calling Simmi inside the house!! That's it....This is Not So serious As Simmi should forget her mother,Hate her Mother,Not try to makeup with her etc etc.... after all Manjuji is her Mother...it cannot ever be that Other People r more concerned or their heart aches for us more than our Mother's It Can NEVER Be so......

Of course It's just My point Of View....

O boy, I so disagree with your viewpoints. Being parents does not give us the right to be rude, cruel, and disrespectful to our children. And then disown them? Our children have feelings and it is our responsibility to raise them with confidence and self-worth not abuse and destroy their morale. As parents we have no right to be that way to them. An insult is an insult and being a parent does not make it less of one. Manju might have been hurt and frustrated but to disown your child? Does she not forget this child was willing to marry a man on two occasions against her own will just to please her.

No-one has said that Simi should forget her mother or hate her. But why should she make the effort to make-up with her when she has done nothing wrong? She made the effort and what did she get in return? Another insult? If you really love your child and care for them, you let these things go and not threaten to disown them or perform their funeral rites.

I have seen the outcome for a girls who have parents like Manju. Those girls are a mess and they don't end up with guys like Abhi.

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Shanti

@shanti05

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Posted: 15 years ago

#26

Soo true Laila !!! I loved the way you described it !! Truly awesome and I think this is exactly what manju should realise

I would'nt be surprised that she will blame Simi someday saying agar mainay yeah saab Kaha tu gussay mai kaha lekin Mera yeah matlab nahi tha !!

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Bana

@Bana

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Posted: 15 years ago

#27

Originally posted by: Laila2009

when you enter into a relationshi it is you and the husband. If there is someone in the relationship be that your maika or his family, that marriage is doomed for failure. Eventually as a couple you will start your own family and that is a priority. If you cannot rely on your husband for the no. 1 support, then that is never a happy marriage.

Nicely put Laila. I have to agree strongly here - marriage is a single unit of only the two people in it. If aaal izz well between the two of them, then good/bad maika, good/bad sasural, job/ no job, ghar/ no ghar, shifting priorities, cunning enemies - everything can be faced together by this unit. Help can be taken from others but without sidelining each other.

I believe the Hindu tradition also prescribes the married couple as the primary unit of family with first claim on each other. The parents, in-laws and siblings form the secondary layer, towards which also we have filial duties.

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