should abhi be angry with simi or support her? - Page 2

Originally posted by: iamindian

LAILA- I Meant This line - please do not go somewhere where you are not welcome {Line fRom Ramas' Post} To me This means that Abhi's telling Him NOT to go To her Mayka n that is what My Post is about..... after all it's about Practical thinking about a Woman's future...It's Not practical to feel OverConfident because You've got a 'GoOD' Husband..... because we all know in Practicality Good Husbands change.... Who knows what's in store for Simmi..????????????

Originally posted by: iamindian

Well Ramas..U know What Opinions N Point Of Views are very Natural to be different as Everybody's Thinking is Different... To ME Mayka IS and Will be My Mayyka NO Matter How good My Husband is.... because To Me A Woman's Mayka's Support is woman's Power....Very Similar to a Woman having security from a good job that she holds..... Women who go for jobs also have great loving Husbands n don't need their jobs to run the household BUT they keep the job Not Only because they need it while they stay married,.... But Because they MIGHt NEED It..... anyyyyytime- and also the background that She Holds a job gives her a good prestige n position in her Sasural.... I've seen this a lottttttttttttt in practical lives!!

I Know Simmi can get a Job anytime n she will but my point was NOT Job but I wrote the Job point to explain my 'Maayka' Point- Both JOB & Mayyka are important.... it gives Women more security which they obviously need as History says!!!!!

Originally posted by: iamindian

Well Ramas..U know What Opinions N Point Of Views are very Natural to be different as Everybody's Thinking is Different... To ME Mayka IS and Will be My Mayyka NO Matter How good My Husband is.... because To Me A Woman's Mayka's Support is woman's Power....Very Similar to a Woman having security from a good job that she holds..... Women who go for jobs also have great loving Husbands n don't need their jobs to run the household BUT they keep the job Not Only because they need it while they stay married,.... But Because they MIGHt NEED It..... anyyyyytime- and also the background that She Holds a job gives her a good prestige n position in her Sasural.... I've seen this a lottttttttttttt in practical lives!!

I Know Simmi can get a Job anytime n she will but my point was NOT Job but I wrote the Job point to explain my 'Maayka' Point- Both JOB & Mayyka are important.... it gives Women more security which they obviously need as History says!!!!!

Originally posted by: ramas

I agree with you 100% it is not easy to forget your roots or sever ties. But It is not simi who did that her own mother siblings does not want that. Simi is not given that choice.

Do u think it is wise to cry about her mom's birhtday who announced her dead especailly when they should be thinking about getting out of that dhaba, getting clothes and shelter and makinng earning.Is this what woman;s suppose to do when they have nothing they can call their own.

Woman is called ardhangini who supports her husband in eerything in good times and bad. Simi is only interested in making bad time even worst.

A true loving wife will put everything behind her and encourage her husband and not turn her back what simi did and crying about her mother increasing more sadness and worries at this point.

as a married women many of us know that we go thru times in life when sasural take precednece over maika.

I will give you my own example which happned many years ago My dad has passed away 15 days ago and my FIL asked me to go to my SIL's sasural and ask them to perform her wedding in a week . They they had expected me to be a part of it in grand style and I had to do that since they wanted to use my presence as an excuse.

Imagine How I must have felt then . But I did that bcos that was my duty. Luckily that wedding did not happen that time as boy's mamu has passed away a month before my dad did. So they refused to have the wedding then.

But for simi it is her utmost duty to be by abhi and help and support him.

Abhi will never force or ask simi to severe ties with her maika when he himself love manju despite all she did to him.

Exactly Ramas. Simi needs to be thinking of where she is going to live, food, clothes etc instead of crying over Manji Ji. She has declared Simi dead afterall. Simi needs to pick up the pieces of her life, be a good woman, a good wife, and rise from the ashes like Abhi's love.

I don't think Abhi will be angry with her. I think he will be a little hurt but this sweet Abhi. He knows her better than she knows herself. Simi has to be more considerate of Abhi. He has given up everything for her. All they have now is each other. But you are right Abhi has to set some limits for Simi. If he doesn't show up at the Seethi home, he will welcome her with open arms when she comes back. Simi you are a married woman now and your main responsibility is to keep Abhi happy.

Originally posted by: daboo89

I agree with you about Abhi's responsibilities! But what about the kartavya Simi has towards Abhi? Does she need to take care of her family after marriage or is Abhi her priority? He has been doing all his kartavya since before marriage........When is it Simi's turn? I used to cry for Simi now it is too much... Espically after Manju announced her dead to her.