NOV19 Anger and regrets!! - Page 29

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Posted: 15 years ago

Originally posted by: ammoos

His skin too is as thick as his skull

Hmm, if his skin was too thick then he would not be hurting like he is right now.

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Posted: 15 years ago
It's a good thing that DM is a soap character, if he was real, everybody is ready to throw rotten tomatoes and hit him with chappals for his mistreatment of Santu😆
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Posted: 15 years ago

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Have you? Why? How can you forgive him all of the things he did previously? They weren't motivated by any intense emotion or reaction - they were due to his being an inhumane person. To treat someone who has done you no wrong that horrendously is a mark of a really repulsive person. He has never apologised, has done stupidly small unintentional gestures (the way everyone swooned when he looks at her or gives her a hug like his pet cat makes we want to pull my hair out). When has he ever apologised for everything he has done? When has he shown he really loves her? When has he ever shown value for her as a person in her own right and not cos she been throwing herself on the sacrificial altar left right and centre for him?

CAN ANYONE POINT TO A SINGLE SCENE WHERE YOU CAN SEE HIS APPRECIATION OF HER AS A HUMAN BEING IN HER OWN RIGHT?

I couldn't believe she agreed to marry him again and for me the whole ceremony, romantic episodes after and the SR were vomit inducing. I'm sick to death of every being like 'ok look, she's from a village, she doesn't know any better, she's a child' but then 'she's being wise beyond her years and has mystical -proportions of insight and is the most wonderful person ever in existence'. If she was a relative i would be ashamed of her hysterics.

In comparison in KS (this is only to illustrate a point Soap-Critic) the pair fell in love with each other as people (with all their faults and charms) while maintaining their integrity and self respect. There were real emotions.
DM DOES NOT NOR HAS HE EVER LOVED SANTU AS A PERSON. SANTU IS OBSESSED BEYOND ALL NORMAL REASON OUT OF AN INFANTILE CRUSH.

The creatives have salughtered this story beyond all limits - i thought with the divorce they would pull it out of the bag, make him realised her value as a person and her that she needed to fight for what was right. what did we get? She displayed no self-respect (living in his house as what? his personal bitch?) is constantly thrown in his face with no regard for her feelings (dressing her up as a dead woman and getting her to dance for him) and he accepts her only so she won't kill herself.

I officially give up. I stopped watching a few weeks back. If she gets a spine and stops crying i could stomach watching it again so could someone let me know when that happens. thanks. x


I say we have forgiven him because if we hadn't I don't see how anyone could have been raving about the SanRaj romantic scenes and seen it over and over again and been looking forward to their SR and HM the past few weeks......anyone who hasn't been doing that would be in a minority here. If all of us really despised DM, would we really have been rooting for SanRaj.

One instance that comes to my mind that he apologized to Santu was after he screamed at her for removing Subhi's portrait....and even though he might not have apologized in so many words for everything he did, he has been repentant as they showed repeatedly during the second wedding ceremony. He has appreciated her, maybe not to her face but we know he admires her qualities, he said so himself to Subhi's portrait and then to Kaddu-Shanky during the divorce track, so we know he appreciates her as a human being.

I don't really want to discuss any other show on this forum and it generally annoys me when people compare Bandini to KS or KZK or any other show....they were different shows, different settings, have nothing to do with Bandini and had many flaws of their own. But since you have brought it up, I don't care how much J-B loved each other......I would any day take being screamed at by my husband because I hid something so big from him than finding out that he had a ONS with my sister which produced a child, no matter what the circumstances and then live with him while he was married to another woman......these things I can't swallow. Plus KS had an urban setting...we shouldn't expect people from a rural setting to behave the same way as people in a high-society urban setting......and Bani was an educated, modern woman, a very different character, so don't expect Santu to behave the same way as Bani did.......within her value and beleif system, Santu is behaving as someone in her situation would.....and the reason we see Santu not reacting angrily to DM' s anger is because she feels guilty for having hidden the truth from DM and helping Moti hide it, she blames herself.....or have we all forgotten that she did leave DM when she really felt he had wronged her after he raised his hand on her after the Subhi payal incident.

I maintain that DM values Santu as a person and admires her qualities, he is extremely fond of her and before this incident wanted to do right by her and give her all the rights and happiness a wife deserves......but I am not convinced that he loves her yet, not the same way a man loves a woman, like he loved Subhadra, not yet anyways....it will happen eventually but hasn't happened yet. I don't know how, but I beleive this track will make SanRaj stronger......couples who go through hardships, misunderstandings, strife and overcome them are the ones who stay together in the longer run.
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Posted: 15 years ago
This def is a good test of their relationship. If they can pass this hurdle, then SanRaj is in for a smooth ride. No other future problems can compare to this one.
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Posted: 15 years ago

Santu should seriously tell DM, " you promised me that you will hold my hand and be with me no matter what the problem, but you are already letting me go. How do you explain that? Now you are letting Benbaa's secret come between our relationship! You gave me a promise when Ana left that you will be with me always. Have you forgotten that vachan already?"

DM should answer that question honestly.

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Posted: 15 years ago
He might answer that she said now no Anamika can come in between them.. here its not any Ana but a bitter truth of his past.
But here too HIS past should not be a reason fo his behaviour toward her present and future.. Now he too is doing the same by hiding the truth of a son from the father KAnji.. why is he not revealing the truth to KAnji the very moment he entered the mansion.. thats what he is expecting from Santu.. his reasoning is that Santu should have told him the truth the moment she knew it.. what is he doing here to Kanji then.

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