Shocked with Alekh! Sadhna needs to be tougher now - Page 8

Originally posted by: sadhanaM

Well, it seems like a real turn in Alekh's character. It is truly heart breaking to see Sadhana's sadness resulting from Alekh's behavior.

Sadhana is an orphan, lonely and alone. Orphans futhermore, tend to have a poor self view, afterall, they have been constantly abandoned!. Sadhana has survived and lived her life thus far by being of service to others, Mamaji, Ragini, Alekh, etc. Though she has also received a great deal of selfless love from them.

The other side to the coin, however, is that Sadhana has never expected anything in return. Thus, being all giving and no receiving is angelic, but seldom human. Alekh's current behavior may propel her in introspective direction, i.e. fundamentally questioning why she is such a doormat and has taken abuse from Kaushi, sometimes Vasu in not too distant past, Dadibua and now Alekh. Sadhana needs to ask herself as to what about her allows others to bully her and misbehave with her, despite her selfless intentions and general goodwill. The insight will help her grow and become a real person, thus demanding what is rightfully hers, in this case, respect.

Sadhana needs to stop caring so much about Alekh, especially when he is rude and abusive. She needs to see her real worth and realize that Alekh is not worthy of her praise at this time. Be that she leaves the house for now and become an independent woman for a while.

Ragini gives her a lot of love and support. The pain in Ragini's eyes towards Alekh's abusive behavior to Sadhana is clearly visible. She tries to console in her own way, but Ragini is looking at the situation with her own lenses, i.e., love will eventually win. While the latter may be true, it will not offer psychological growth for Sadhana, who needs to see herself as a complete person with the same rights and claims as everyone else around her. We all need to go after our own happiness, it does not necessarily gets generated automatically.

Vasu probably needs to step in. She is very capable of understanding Sadhana's pain, having gone through it herslf not long ago. She knows the real importance of Sadhana in Alekh's life as she went through hooks and crooks to get Sadhana into Alekh's life. She should talk to Alekh about being insensitive towards Sadhana's needs. However, she is less aware of Sadhana's pain at this time as she is in awe of Alekh's progress and his increased ammends towards her.

My last point is not necessarily related with Sadhana/Alekh, but I think ties in well with the theme of growth. A few episodes ago, Vasu had challenged Dadibua that history will not repeat at Rajvansh house. In that context, she needs to understand her own relationship with her sister who is an absent character now. This will lead Vasu in providing support to Sadhana and Ragini and prevent a "projected" rift between them. Sadhana and Ragini should remain loving sisters despite being married into the same family and Vasu should change the history by being a good, supportive, understanding mother in law.

since when do we call love for our near and dear ones a service ??

What she did for Mamaji, Ragini or Alekh is called "LOVE".


This is a copy-paste from my other post :

How could Sadhana stood-up against Kaushi when she was at their mercy in Sharma house before she got married to Alekh. Sadhana's father left her with them, so what could she have done as a child ? She was so dependent on them. If Kaushi is so mean and inconsiderate then it does not mean Sadhana has to go to that low level as well. Mamaji's and Ragini's love and affection gave her strength to survive and she just ignored Kaushi's crap.

She got married to Alekh under very special circumstances. Her husband is not normal and she has no Maayka. Where can she go ? For any woman, her husband or parents are her biggest strength. She has no support at all. The only thing she could have done was to leave the Rajvansh house. But is that the right answer ? She had to stay there for Ragini and later on she was so attached to Alekh.

She is a very optimistic person who looks at the bright side. This is her biggest strength.

^ Anu please try not to argue with SadhanaM, she seems to have rigid sort of views on Sadhna.

Check out this post which was made sometime ago in the Bidaai Forum, and there also similar type of views were stated, so please ignore rather than argue.

https://www.indiaforums.com/forum/post/25339272

Originally posted by: --Pinky--

^ Anu please try not to argue with SadhanaM, she seems to have rigid sort of views on Sadhna.

Check out this post which was made sometime ago in the Bidaai Forum, and there also similar type of views were stated, so please ignore rather than argue.

http://www.india-forums.com/forum_posts.asp?TID=1277407&PID=25339272&#25339272

Pinky, I remember her earlier post. I am really surprised to see "Service" being used for "Love". I am not sure if its a new terminology for love.

And leaving the house ....for what ?? Is that the right option ? It does sound very adventurous but whats the net gain.....so called self respect. Does becoming independent make anyone more happier ? Will Alekh be happy by being so independent ? Everyone needs love and affection to be happy. Alekh will also realize that his life is so incomplete without his dear wife. He is not normal yet and going through tremendous changes. How can Sadhana force him to love her when he does not even know the meaning of marriage. She is having some hopes for a normal married life but Alekh has a long way to go. They both need to adjust to this new equation.

^ I agree with u Anu.

I guess with the changing Aalekh, it seems as though both Sadi and Aalekh have to build up their relationship from scratch.

For Sadi its a new Aalekh whose needs and requirements have all changed, and for Aalekh Sadi does not really fit in the relationships he is comfortable with, so i guess he has to learn and then give the rightful place to Sadi.