I thought this thread was only about Ruhi and did not discuss Abhira. Since the comparison has come up, guess I can share my two cents worth. Agree with what you say, there is no comparison between two people who are as different as day and night. Abhira is a simple, straight forward and outspoken girl. With her, what you see is what you get. She is not devious and is not driven by self-interest. Despite not waxing eloquent about what family ties mean, which is what got Armaan attracted to Ruhi in the first place, Abhira has truly created a space for herself within the Poddar family. She has established relations with every single person in that household. She has questioned and opposed the family or specifically Kaveri’s way of doing things but she has done so openly.No going behind the back and doing anything. Even with regard to the case, she came out in the open and told them herself. The only fraud, if you want to call it that, she is perpetrating is the illusion of lifelong commitment when she proposed a one year deal herself. We saw how much the lie is wieighing on her conscience during the Holi episode. She is not manipulative in the least and wants to be truthful and honest in her interactions with all. Which is why she is in for the heartbreak of a lifetime when she learns the truth about Armaan and Ruhi’s past. She does not deserve this and I strongly feel for her on this.Originally posted by: Pinecone
Theres absolutely no comparison between Rubi vs Abhira
Ruhi knowingly married her lovers brother to stay near him. What crap is that?! She's beginning a new relationship on such horrible terms. She didn't disclose anything about having a past to Rohit either. Even if she didn't tell him it was Armaan, he should have been informed that she had a past atleast.
Abhira married Armaan because it was her moms dying wish. She knew about him having a past but Armaan has several times told her its over with his ex. He never brings up his ex in front of Abhira, rather makes it seem like he wants nothing to do with the past. Abhira therefore will only see it as a past relationship and if now he's giving his time, effort, commitment to her- she will start to have dreams of this materializing into something.
Abhira has no idea about his past or Ruhis. But she's only seeing it as a situation where her husband had a past but its over.. plain and simple. And if Armaan rejects her- she will leave ( unlike whatRuhi is doing). Thats how she's written.
She's a young girl who lost everything in one day. Married a guy with no idea what to expect and impulsively said- ok lets make it a deal because this was sprung on us suddenly and I don't want to be a bojh. Armaan said-ok but lets not talk of this shaadi as deal in front of family and discuss what to do later once you are actually independent. So shaadi isnt fake.
Abhira is getting attached to her lawfully wedded husband. Everytime their MUs increase, she concretely distances herself or tries to leave. But Armaan brings her back , manaos her, makes her move back into room and gives her signals when he says things like "meri patni hai" etc etc. she even asked him why she took him to his special place where he only takes family but he said she's important to him. So Abhira has tried to keep things in check but Armaan has given her signals that they can be real spouses. Thats why now she has natural progression to feeling upset at Ruhi Armaan proximity. She does not know their past
In contrast, Ruhi is someone who is motivated largely by self-interest. She won’t hesitate to throw anyone under the bus if it is in her interests. The fact that she never even thought for a moment about Rohit when she decided to go ahead with the marriage just so she could be under the same roof as Armaan is symptomatic of a troubled mind. No matter what Armaan said or did not say, Ruhi is an adult who should know right from wrong. The fact that she chose to distrust this man, who was the love of her life according to her, and jump into a marriage with a random person whom she knew nothing about shows how imbalanced she is. How do you determine that a man is the love of your life and then, based on a couple of phone calls, determine that he is a two-timer? This itself shows you have no real understanding of the man or the emotion that you claim to feel for him. You found a man who thought you were perfect and appeared besotted by you and bam, you decided he is your soulmate. And two days later, you judge him to be a cheat and decide to marry another man. Then, when you learn the truth, you want your soul mate to go and confess to his family about your love and he turns you down without a second thought. He wants you to keep up your commitment because he thinks you will be happy with his brother. While he had no business asking that, you go one step further and decide to marry his brother so you can live in the same house as your ex. How twisted is that? And like some great romantic hero, your ex tells you that he will love you for ever. Just two days ago, you thought he was a fraud and now you think he is going to live up to this promise. I mean really ? Nobody who is in complete possession of their faculties and is of sane mind, would make the kind of ridiculous decisions that Ruhi did in the space of a few days. Believe me, I am not exonerating Armaan. The minute he knew that Ruhi had agreed to marry his brother on the rebound, he should have taken Rohit aside and told him the whole sorry story and the sordid mess that it had all become. Instead he thought he was making some great sacrifice. He had no business asking what he did of Ruhi. I blame him for messing with Rohit’s life but, the only defence he has is that his actions were not motivated by self-interest but by some twisted notion of family and sacrifice. But, at the end of the day, Ruhi had the choice to walk away from it all and she didn’t. So sorry, I won’t blame Armaan for the mess that Ruhi’s life is but rather, I would blame her alone. The reasons can be several including childhood trauma but you cannot expect Armaan to take responsibility for her choices. How does it matter to Ruhi if Armaan remains a bachelor or marries someone else, once she herself is married? Armaan clearly has the habit of blurting out things when pushed to a corner. His telling Ruhi about Abhira and his marriage was one of those moments. He had to pacify Ruhi and make her believe that he was not the lowlife she thought him to be and so he told her the truth. Armaan is as burdened by complexes as Ruhi is and their marriage would have been the perfect recipe for disaster. Anyway this is not about Armaan and so let us leave him aside.
Going back to Abhira and Ruhi, you either overcome the circumstances you are presented with or you succumb to them. Abhira is a survivor and Ruhi is struggling. Sadly instead of fighting back, she is seeking refuge in delusions and illusions. At the end of the day, we alone are responsible for what we make of our lives. Nobody owes us anything. By not taking professional help and not dealing with her baggage, Ruhi is drowning in the vortex of her childhood abandonment issues and that is dictating the course of her life and decisions. It is tragic and she really needs help. If she doesn’t get the right help, she will destroy her own life and that of those around her as well!
P.S - Ruhi has displayed sly behaviour and, in all honesty, her feelings for Armaan are not quite platonic. That mating ritual dance, throwing herself on him in that hut, cuddling up to him and caressing his hand while he is sleeping, none of these are signs of platonic love. We may interpret her dialogue on beech ka raasta in multiple ways but her own behaviour has left it wide open to interpretation!
Unless they show Armaan's POV where he confesses that he is falling in love with Abhira or he tells Ruhi that he has started falling for Abhira we can not conclude with his 2 min lollypop scenes as that's only for online viewers. The post was about Ruhi. So Ruhi would be part of my comment. 
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