Abhira trust issues - Page 10

How will Akshara EVER trust this man again? Is aadmi mein ACTUALLY self-discipline naam ki cheez hi nahi hai. Abhimanyu is a highly emotional, highly volatile man jiske kaabo mein uska dimaagh nahi jo khud apne dimaagh ke kaaboo mein rehta hai. Understanding the difference is very crucial. Abhimanyu would burn the world for you BECAUSE HE FEELS LIKE IT. That's it. He runs on nothing but emotions and those emotions turn volatile at the drop of a hat! This is the man who left no stone unturned to marry her. ONE WEEK INTO THAT MARRIAGE??? called that marriage a mistake! Who ON EARTH does that? Repeatedly, rudely pushed her away and turned down any advances she made a week into their marriage not realizing how hard it is for a girl to make this transition. Yeh toh shaadi ke pehle do hafte hain. Then came the Khera thing and then the insulting divorces. 6 mahine bhi toh saath reh nahi sake. How is Akshara ever going to trust that he won't ridicule, hurt, call her names, call her a murderer, throw her out, abuse her verbally and mentally again? Woh bechaari miscarriage ke baad apne kamre mein aake rest karne ki koshish karrahi thi. A woman who couldn't EVEN STAND AND TOLD HIM THAT usko beizzat karke, talaaq deke -- papers toh cupboard mein hi rakhe huye the -- zaleel karke ghar se nikaal diya. Woh bandi ghar chorke, sab chorke, sheher chorke chali gayi aur EK SECOND ke liye he didn't think of what he'd done to her. He was standing in the hospital and crying for his mom and family to his dad. Was Akshu not his family? Had Manjiri done this you ACTUALLY THINK Abhimanyu's reaction would've even come anywhere close to this? Akshara ke liye itni nafrat that he treated her like an animal? Wouldn't even give her the courtesy of picking her phone?

If by some miracle Abhimanyu's changed kyunke realizations toh bohat hote hain. Abhi toh emotional hai guilty hai so now his emotions are on her side again. But by any miracle they ACTUALLY SHOW that he's actually become a man of his word, learned to see through the red haze of his emotions, become a stable level-headed person -- and when I say miracle I say Akshara should be able to see this in-person for a LOOONG PERIOD OF HER TIME. Let this man see her at her worst continuously and be the man he's trying to be and then we'll talk because who doesn't hit their lows in marriage? If this is your partner's reaction... And akshara's lows are literally her being a selfless person. Did he not know that about her?

THEN let him be thankful that after ALL HE'S DONE, after all the damage and trauma and abuse she was dealt, she's in his life again.

Originally posted by: Vanavil25

see I clearly said exaggerated in itv for drama...

Then You can't compare it with real life. Real life mei adjustment hota abhimanyu jaise admi se toh divorce bhi toh ho sakta hai .hypothetically Why should akshara put up with him and why would she trust him with her son? He didn't give her a single reason.

The point is not whether she told abhimanyu.after so much she "wanted " to tell him but he asked her to stop calling . Ye kya zabardasti hai ke woh apni baat Suna ke rahe ? Kyun bhai? Saara theka akshu ne liya tha joote bhi khaye phir pyar bhi jataye

Also, people talking about how open and happy she was before and how closed off, paranoid, and sad she seems now. YES LOOK AT THAT! This is what ABHIMANYU BIRLA has done to her! We talk about the trauma Arohi gave her?? TURNS OUT that was NOTHING compared to the trauma HE GAVE HER. And that too ek saal ke andar andar! Let's not romanticize this by saying he took her smile away he'll bring it back. Who on earth talks about someone's abuser like that?

Also, what people don't understand about volatility is that in normal relationships that turn ugly the switch is NOT instant. In fact resentment builds over a long time. The relationship is strained for a long time. You don't go from 0 to 100 in the blink of an eye! Abhimanyu DOES ALL THE TIME. This is why a romantic relationship with men like him is TOXIC. Unstable. And something you should avoid at all costs! Know some real life Abhimanyus and honestly his glorification is disturbing to see at times.

What Abhimanyu desperately needs is a long, drawn-out, good redemption. Please don't disrespect his character arc by suggesting he and Akshu can make up before he's had it.

Originally posted by: Agni_Jytsona

Log "aacha aadmi" usse taunt karne ke liye use karte hai. Jo ki sahi nahi haa. Abhinav sach main ek aacha insaan hai. Gen 3 ka sabse sesible character hai

Aur Akshara ne call kiya tha batane ke liye. Abhimanyu ne baat nahi sunni. Glati Abhimanyu ki hai

Usne Ashara ko waha hurt kiya jaha sabse zyada dard hota hai. Usses muderer kaha. Uske dil main itna daar bitha diya ki ab kuch bhi karne daarti hai woh

Galati abhimayu ki hai ki usne baat nahi suni lekin baat unsuni rehne nahi de sakte the itni badi thi/hai. Jab woh Abhimanyu se baat hide nahi rakhna chahti thi isiliye call attempt kiya tha toh itni badi baat ko disclose karne ke liye indirect route bhi le sakti thi. Iss baat ko uss time disclose kar dena itna bhi mushkil nahi tha. Logo ka life up side down ho jata hai jab pata chale ki unka baccha aanewala hai.

Agar uss waqt kisi bhi tarah se baat hide nahi rehti toh dono parties divorcee reh kar as a single parent bhi apne bacche ke bare mai soch sakte the. Jo do log ek dusre ke sath compatible nai ho woh dono sath na rahe aur baccha dono ka hai so dono ke yaha aata jata rahe like normal divorces mai hota hai.

Aisa koi zaruri nahi hota ki baccha aanewala hai toh maa-baap ko forcefully sath mai rehna he padega.Agarvkoibsath mai rehne ka suggestion bhi de toh apne uper hai ki divorce ke baad reconcile karna hai ki nahi karna hai.

Originally posted by: Krinya

I also have anger issues but there is a certain line which should not be crossed even In anger.

In today's times if a boy says "our relationship was a mistake" , "you are bad luck for my family" , call her a murderer , and divorce her , then this problem is not limited to "handling anger issues" .

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Maine abhinav ko taunt karne ke liye “acha admi” nahi likha tha. Muje woh thoda ghochu type lagta hai jo khud he acknowledge karta hai ki dekho mai acha admi hu. He is no doubt, but jab samne se acknowledge karta hai toh irritate ho jati hu. Isse zyada uske bare mai kuch nahi sochti. Aise bhi bichare ko jaldi he yeh 4th standard fail writers swargwasi kar denge. Yeh log aur kya dikha sakte hai!

Galati abhimayu ki hai ki usne baat nahi suni lekin baat unsuni rehne nahi de sakte the itni badi thi/hai. Jab woh Abhimanyu se baat hide nahi rakhna chahti thi isiliye call attempt kiya tha toh itni badi baat ko disclose karne ke liye indirect route bhi le sakti thi. Iss baat ko uss time disclose kar dena itna bhi mushkil nahi tha. Logo ka life up side down ho jata hai jab pata chale ki unka baccha aanewala hai.

Agar uss waqt kisi bhi tarah se baat hide nahi rehti toh dono parties divorcee reh kar as a single parent bhi apne bacche ke bare mai soch sakte the. Jo do log ek dusre ke sath compatible nai ho woh dono sath na rahe aur baccha dono ka hai so dono ke yaha aata jata rahe like normal divorces mai hota hai.

Aisa koi zaruri nahi hota ki baccha aanewala hai toh maa-baap ko forcefully sath mai rehna he padega .

Saara theka Akshara le rakha hai? Abhimanyu ne lhud kaha ki call mat karna. Baat usne nahi suni. Galti uski hai

Kyun baar baar zaleel hone ke liye jaaye wph uske pass?

Originally posted by: chaipaani

Waise also she changed the name of the father after seeing how when she was in coma for 4 days the only person taking care of her baby was Nav.

My only problem with Nav is that he is being played by Jay who is not doing a good job hence people are hating on him

Harshad is doing a great job conveying his characters emotions hence still getting the love.

I wish Nav was played by Karan Wahi type of actor and little rich(that's my personal opinion & desire)

I also don't like him ,or his acting ..he doesn't match parnalis looks. But I just can't stand akshu with abhimanyu either after what he's done to her. Frankly I was never a fan of harshad Chopra. These days with the birds nest on his head , he looks more atrocious . before also I felt he's overdoing it . I was never a fan of this roaring thing..a character works for me if he's well written , even if it's played by not so good actor so I'll.pick abhinav anyday over abhimanyu but writers and akshu wont

Originally posted by: chaipaani

Waise also she changed the name of the father after seeing how when she was in coma for 4 days the only person taking care of her baby was Nav.

My only problem with Nav is that he is being played by Jay who is not doing a good job hence people are hating on him

Harshad is doing a great job conveying his characters emotions hence still getting the love.

I wish Nav was played by Karan Wahi type of actor and little rich(that's my personal opinion & desire)

The only people who hate Jay/Abhinav are Abhira fans. Reason is - ABHIRA

Looks and acting are subjective. So that is your personal opinion. I can respect that

Personally, I think Jay is good-looking and a decent actor

Originally posted by: Krinya

I also don't like him ,or his acting ..he doesn't match parnalis looks. But I just can't stand akshu with abhimanyu either after what he's done to her. Frankly I was never a fan of harshad Chopra. These days with the birds nest on his head , he looks more atrocious . before also I felt he's overdoing it . I was never a fan of this roaring thing..a character works for me if he's well written , even if it's played by not so good actor so I'll.pick abhinav anyday over abhimanyu but writers and akshu wont

That's what I mean too exactly. The character Abhinav is good actually someone who actually if given a chance can heal Akshara who have history of ptsd, panic attacks.

Abhimanyu as character has traumatized her beyond repair that open hone se dar gayi hai.

I like Harshad's acting though.

And for all people aka Kabir Singh era fan who are still glorifying and justifying k Akshu galat and How Abhi was in trauma that day and all i have no words except bhai Kabir Singh ne bhi repent toh kra tha k mere gusse mein kitna khrb hogya sab.

The Great the i am the best Dr Ruhi k Poopy kab repent karnge.

Kehna chahti hun k kar na 6 saal hogye hum bhi thak gaye toh kar na 🥹

Originally posted by: Agni_Jytsona

Saara theka Akshara le rakha hai? Abhimanyu ne lhud kaha ki call mat karna. Baat usne nahi suni. Galti uski hai

Kyun baar baar zaleel hone ke liye jaaye wph uske pass?

Theka hamesha Akshara leti ayi hai, kabhi apne apne babies ke risk par forest mai kisi vacche ke piche ja kar toh kabhi apne babies ke risk par theka le kar goons ke paas ja kar 🤮Baar baar apne babies ke risk par he to Akshara ne theka liya tha during her pregnancy 🤮

Akshara ne jo theka le le kar babies ko baar baar risk mai daala tha uske liye I have no words🤮As a mother , mai kabhi iss baat ko accept nahi kar sakti ki koi apne babies ke risk par baharwalo ka theka le.

Jaha theka nahi lena chahiye tha waha babies ke risk par bhi theka liya fir mai toh only uss information ko disclose karne ka baat kar rahi hu jo information sirf aur sirf Akshara ke pass tha/hai.