I must say that it is one of the best posts, with a well defined roles for both genders. ⭐️Originally posted by: tournesol
You give two interesting examples on two different women. But I don't think homemakers can be entirely left out of the context Sonali had spoken in.
I think the soon-to-be married woman, who plans to rely on her partner for financial support, will be a homemaker tomorrow in her family (that includes her future kids), and the homemakers we see today were once married off by their families to a financially stable man. Maybe she was not working, or maybe she was working before marriage and she consciously made the decision of giving up her financial independence to be there for her family (and her future kids) full time.
Personally I am a strong advocate for financial independence for women. But it's not right to judge a woman as 'lazy' if she gives up her independence in an already male-dominated world. From the outside, we only see her depending on her partner's finances, but never consider what might have led her to that decision.
In a world where a woman gives up her job to be with her husband in a different city/country, the same is not expected from a man, even if she is earning more than him. A woman will be called 'lazy' for depending on her partner's finances and 'selfish' for being career driven. But will a working man be called 'lazy' for not sharing responsibilities inside house? No. Will he be called 'selfish' for leaving his sick kid to his partner (who might also be working) because he has something equally urgent at work? No.
We live in an unequal world which doesn't respect a woman for the choices she makes. And not many women have a family supportive enough where the woman can have a highly demanding career with her partner supporting her no matter what (including not blaming her for leaving behind their sick kid for an urgent work commitment).
I just think the usage of the word 'lazy' was a bit harsh. Yes, every women should definitely be independent, although sometimes circumstances are not always favorable for her to assert her independence.
Undoubtedly, every woman needs to be financially independent, but when given the option to choose between their work, financial independence or their family's comfort, most women choose the latter. Well said.
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