I really didn’t want to highlight something negative but I couldn’t help but raise this.
Sairat is going down the hill and I have just accepted it. I can crib how much ever I want but doesn’t look like the makers want to show anything nice or is planning for an interesting twist. There is a lot of scope but they have chosen to go this way.
About Virat going away from Sai, I understand that Virat was hurt when he decided to. Some of his actions while he is hurt is justified and understandable but some are not. He is a human after all and makes mistakes. I too get annoyed with some actions of his and got irritated with what he did yesterday when Pakhi taunted Sai.
When Virat was asking Samrat to return at the Ashram, he gave up really soon and I know many were even asking how can a brother give up so soon. I really didn’t pay much of an attention because it looked like they wanted to show Sai doing the honours. It didn’t make sense for them to let her handle it. We do know that Sai is a nice person, she does things for others, she would have liked to help Virat and also bring Samrat back for the family members but even then they should have showed Virat trying his best. I had ignored back then.
I had also ignored when Virat gave up when Sai didn’t reciprocate his feelings attributing it as his hurt. I was trying to look at as him to have lost his patience, to have lost hopes. People do give up sometimes and it is nothing wrong or nothing to comment about. Everyone of us face this at some point of our life. We stay patient for a really really long time and sometimes lose hope at times we shouldn’t be or when we could have made it work. We can err in our judgement.
But his dialogue today about him going away and he cannot give time to Sai was confusing. I can understand he is hurt that she keeps misunderstanding him, wants to stay away because he cannot stay with her and yet maintain distance or wants to go away so that he gives space to Sai and also get away from this for a while like taking a break. It can be decided to even try to see if creating distance helps in Sai realising her feelings or for him too to get a grip of himself. I have now lost the reason as why Virat is even going away. Him saying he can’t give time to Sai and he will go away from her doesn’t make any sense. He isn’t taking any efforts to set things right. We all know that he has done quite a lot for both Sai and this relationship but giving up on a relationship without it never even actually began doesn’t make sense. It is not like there is no history. His past has been the main reason and Sai has directly told him and asked him about it too. He has also told a few things to her but it is clear that she is not convinced that he doesn’t have any feelings for Pakhi. He can be hurt that she had misunderstood him but he is also not trying to clear the misunderstanding. It is high time that he thinks that he should clarify certain things, has to clear the misunderstanding and then see if Sai still doesn’t understand him. I could understand his inability to express, him staying silent many times, him taking a step back but not anymore. He is lost now. He is wallowing in his own emotions.
Many felt that Virat taunted Sai when Pakhi taunted her because Sai is not able to reciprocate his feelings, but I am not able to get myself to believe that to be the reason.
He was doing it for various reasons like him feeling embarrassed that he was joining them all for Pooja when he had already declared that he would be leaving.
It was all said with an attitude as if his decision won’t change and he had to stay back giving chances for people to speak or make fun of him.
It was also because he is hurt that Sai is not able to understand what he feels for her. If only he had thought that it was an opportunity for him to spend more time with his family especially during the festival time and also that his family was anyway not happy with him leaving like how Sai pointed out. He couldn’t see anything positive in it and is still so lost in his heartbreak. Ideally he need not be thinking so much. They are all his people and that is why he has not even hesitated to even express his hurt or displeasure to Sai in front of them.
Is Virat not supposed to be happy that Samrat has returned? Is he not supposed to be happy that Samrat and Pakhi are giving a chance to this relationship, it is not like he didn’t believe that Pakhi was lying. It would have atleast made sense if he had not believed Pakhi but he seems to have even believed her. Then why should he be acting this gloomy? I do know people who can act this way and cannot hide their hurt or pain even for the sake of others. They can sometimes just kill the joy. Even if I think that he is hurt, can he really not think that it is the first festival that the family is celebrating after Samrat has returned? Can he not think that he should make it a a happy environment since the whole family was away from their son for an year? Is he not supposed to think that he should try and mend his relationship with Samrat?
Many have always found him to be getting drowned in his own misery and I have understood him many times in the past, but this time I really don’t understand.
The main reason that I even created this post was when I watched the scene where Samrat refused to join hands with Virat to become Govinda. He just gave up and stood there. He just stood there hurt that his brother wasn’t trying to understand him. He stood there in hurt that their relationship is no more like it used to be. He didn’t even try to convince Samrat. He didn’t even try to cheer up and try to lighten the situation. Instead people had to convince him to join. This is really disappointing.
For once even if I think that he is giving Samrat space, then would he be acting gloomy? When someone gives space to the other person that is also done in a positive and hopeful way. But Virat has just given up.
I liked how Ashwini told him that while brooding over things that one doesn’t have, they won’t be able to cherish or appreciate things they have. Virat is heartbroken due to the strain in his and Samrat’s relationship and also due to his and Sai’s relationship. But in all this he is failing to look at the brighter side.
He is not trying to use this as an opportunity to fix things with Samrat too. Sai has not realised her feelings for this long and he had also told Pakhi that he would never make her feel bad even if she is not able to reciprocate his feelings then why couldn’t he implement it when the situation needed him to? He himself didn’t even know that what he felt for Pakhi was just an infatuation until he fell in love with Sai, then why does he even expect that Sai realise her feelings and why should it happen within a set timeline. Not everyone needs to understand it sooner. She is very young and his yet to see many things in her life. Why cannot he try to think it from her perspective? Why can’t he think that may be she needs help in realising her feelings or think that she needs time to realise her feelings? Why should he think that the time they have spent is long enough and she should realise it by now? Why can’t he think what is stopping her from accepting their relationship?
I am trying to understand his hurt but should he let that affect him so much that he can’t even take part in the festivals at home happily especially when his brother has returned after an year? He has come to know that he was the reason for his brother to leave then shouldn’t he be making up for all the time that the family and his brother had lost in the past 1 year.
It should be him who should try to cheer up Samrat. He didn’t even think what Samrat must be going through now. He didn’t think that even Samrat would be unhappy and must be heartbroken. He didn’t think in what turmoil Samrat must be in especially when his brother knows that his wife has feelings for his brother and had met the same brother to discuss about her life.
I do know that he is self absorbed. He cannot think about others position or emotion and gets lost in his own emotions. He had made many things to be about him in the past too. Like during the Ladakh fight, he played a victim asking both the ladies to cut his head. After Sai returned from GC, he had even asked her to not talk about it without thinking once how she would be feeling and that he cannot expect it from her. He will continue to be in misery if he makes everything to be about him and doesn’t try to look at things from other’s perspective. He has to try to understand others for his own good. He will be able to find a solution only if he stops to wallow in his own emotions.
He should learn how to stay happy even when he is not happy for the sake of others. One has rights to express their hurt and need not be hiding their hurt but emotions needs to be kept in check atleast for the sake of others and depending on the environment.
I really wish to see a Virat who is positive, who is confident and who tries to fix things and not give up. I wish to see a Virat who looks at things objectively. I want to see a Virat who doesn’t get too absorbed in his own emotions that he gives up on things and doesn’t fight for them. He has to realise that everything is in his hands. He can fix his relationship with two most important people of his life with a right attitude.
He has to raise his spirits and appreciate what he has.
I request to not view it as a bashing post or make it a bashing post. I have just shared my observation and my views.
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