Virat should change his attitude - Page 3

Originally posted by: laksh

I agree Asmi. This has been his character trait and has been really annoying. It can’t continue like this always.

It didn’t make sense for him to say that she shouldn’t have run away. Was he apologising or justifying? People were saying it was an issue with the dialogues but no, there are people like that. Some people are like that.

Even when Samrat was missing, Mansi bua joined many occasions graciously. She was also sad, heartbroken and it will be understandable even if she sulks like this. This guy lacks perspective and I have just replied to another member.

@bold Exactly and rather than feeling guilty, he is feeling bad for himself all the time that people misunderstand him. I don’t deny that he is getting misunderstood but not the entire thing is a misunderstanding.

Does he really think that his hurt and his position is more worse than Samrat’s? He has not even given a thought about how even Samrat would be upset with everything. Nothing has become alright in his life yet. This is not the end of the world. He has a family who loves him and always supports him whether he is right or not. They didn’t even question him when Samrat shared that he left the house because his own brother hurt him? Does he even realise the support his family has been extending in this bad time of his? They all question Sai but not him even now and she is trying to lighten up everyone’s mood, trying to lift everyone’s spirits whereas he is sulking.

Oh yes and the fact that when he ran after her, he did not want to talk, he wanted answers..KHAIR..

Exactly no one in the family , not even his Aayi has ever reprimanded him for what he had/has with Pakhi..infact not even Samrat really..Sai has always given him space with Pakhi...Infact Sai was criticized and ridiculed more for telling the family about Pakhi's intentions than Virat and Pakhi combined...His family, his Aayi , his sister, his brother have in minutes forgiven him for the crimes he committed, other family members dont even call it a crime.... And he keeps on wallowing self pity.. I cant understand it.. He is hurt Sai is not understanding him , not feeling his love, calls him no one one day and then pati the next day..But what have others done to him actually...Going by his logic, Sai should always be wallowing in self pity and would never be happy around him , since the day she entered this house, since she is abused and disregarded on a daily basis...

Like you said, Mansi Bua is the best example of living for others above your pain, smiling for family..everyone does that and he values no one's happiness over his pain...Atleast it looks like that..

Originally posted by: Tapdance

Ha, even I'm confused at the monologues given to him. Too conflicting and confusing for me. But Laksh has quoted a nice explanation for it in the previous page. I still don't understand what he really hopes to achieve through his actions though. He's probably just too righteous and thinks whatever decisions he makes are for the greater good for all which again was his biggest mistake originally starting with the Vaada.

His monologues are spinning bigger jalebis now😆

All his righteousness is in his head, he hardly follows it ..

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Oh yes and the fact that when he ran after her, he did not want to talk, he wanted answers..KHAIR..

Exactly no one in the family , not even his Aayi has ever reprimanded him for what he had/has with Pakhi..infact not even Samrat really..Sai has always given him space with Pakhi...Infact Sai was criticized and ridiculed more for telling the family about Pakhi's intentions than Virat and Pakhi combined...His family, his Aayi , his sister, his brother have in minutes forgiven him for the crimes he committed, other family members dont even call it a crime.... And he keeps on wallowing self pity.. I cant understand it.. He is hurt Sai is not understanding him , not feeling his love, calls him no one one day and then pati the next day..But what have others done to him actually...Going by his logic, Sai should always be wallowing in self pity and would never be happy around him , since the day she entered this house, since she is abused and disregarded on a daily basis...

Like you said, Mansi Bua is the best example of living for others above your pain, smiling for family..everyone does that and he values no one's happiness over his pain...Atleast it looks like that..

His mom has hardly said anything to him. He is a true Raja beta in that way. I like how understanding Ashwini can be and how much she loves him but she has criticised and taunted Pakhi but not him. Initially it made sense but when she saw how her son was also wrong in a few things, she couldn’t reprimand him but never failed to reprimand Pakhi.

I was quite disappointed with Ashwini especially after the ousting track where she didn’t question him when she saw him feeling bad and crying. I understand that she would feel bad for him but how did she not even question him after he had revealed the truth about Omi. Shouldn’t she have blasted him the night or the next day morning but she was telling that she knows that he wouldn’t have slept.

Anyway whatever position she has in the house, would she have let this happen to Virat?

@bold It comes across that way. The main problem is that he is so lost in himself that he is failing to look at others. Doesn’t seem like he doesn’t value their happiness, he does value it but when there is a setback in his and Sai’s relationship, he cannot think straight. He cannot think about anyone else other than himself. It is all to do with a fact that he wants to be loved and his yearning has now turned into hurt, impatience and desperation that it has clouded his thoughts to an extent that he can’t think anything beyond that.

Originally posted by: laksh

His mom has hardly said anything to him. He is a true Raja beta in that way. I like how understanding Ashwini can be and how much she loves him but she has criticised and taunted Pakhi but not him. Initially it made sense but when she saw how her son was also wrong in a few things, she couldn’t reprimand him but never failed to reprimand Pakhi.

I was quite disappointed with Ashwini especially after the ousting track where she didn’t question him when she saw him feeling bad and crying. I understand that she would feel bad for him but how did she not even question him after he had revealed the truth about Omi. Shouldn’t she have blasted him the night or the next day morning but she was telling that she knows that he wouldn’t have slept.

Anyway whatever position she has in the house, would she have let this happen to Virat?

@bold It comes across that way. The main problem is that he is so lost in himself that he is failing to look at others. Doesn’t seem like he doesn’t value their happiness, he does value it but when there is a setback in his and Sai’s relationship, he cannot think straight. He cannot think about anyone else other than himself. It is all to do with a fact that he wants to be loved and his yearning has now turned into hurt, impatience and desperation that it has clouded his thoughts to an extent that he can’t think anything beyond that.

Ashwini has just once reprimanded him, after Sai's accident..Even that was not much..It took Sai to almost die to reprimand her Raja Beta...I lost hopes in Ashwini when she had "that" talk with Sai in the hospital in that condition...No one not Virat not Ashwini were worried about how she was..People focus on the person getting well first, waha she had to think why Virat did that...or she had to consider Virat's first confession of wanting a married life with her...And she has to register that also 👏

@boldSo i just get a question looking at him...nowadays.. He is reeling from the pain of Sai not being his..Sai not loving him, imagining a love less life.. But once they confess, have their conjugal bliss and Sai is "his" in entirety and then when they have differences , would he value her so much? How would he be then?

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

Ashwini has just once reprimanded him, after Sai's accident..Even that was not much..It took Sai to almost die to reprimand her Raja Beta...I lost hopes in Ashwini when she had "that" talk with Sai in the hospital in that condition...No one not Virat not Ashwini were worried about how she was..People focus on the person getting well first, waha she had to think why Virat did that...or she had to consider Virat's first confession of wanting a married life with her...And she has to register that also 👏

@boldSo i just get a question looking at him...nowadays.. He is reeling from the pain of Sai not being his..Sai not loving him, imagining a love less life.. But once they confess, have their conjugal bliss and Sai is "his" in entirety and then when they have differences , would he value her so much? How would he be then?

That only time will tell. As I had mentioned in another post, Virat’s main test is how he handles situations when parameters such as family, Pakhi, setbacks are all in picture. It is not just Virat, almost every married couple goes through a rough patch if they don’t work out how to achieve a balance between family, spouse and career. Love, care, trust and respect is very important in relationships. Virat’s nature is going to be challenging for Sai to deal with and we all know that the same is true with Sai too. They both will have to respect and value each other for it to run smooth.

Originally posted by: laksh

That only time will tell. As I had mentioned in another post, Virat’s main test is how he handles situations when parameters such as family, Pakhi, setbacks are all in picture. It is not just Virat, almost every married couple goes through a rough patch if they don’t work out how to achieve a balance between family, spouse and career. Love, care, trust and respect is very important in relationships. Virat’s nature is going to be challenging for Sai to deal with and we all know that the same is true with Sai too. They both will have to respect and value each other for it to run smooth.

Yes both of them are difficult to be with, one because of lack of communication and anger issues and other because of being very brash and impulsive...It might end up into good things, but disappearing for hours to get a surprise for the family is an impulsive behaviour and Virat will have to bear the brunt of it as a husband..But then again, I remember as college student one would behave in that way at times...So again I have to see if its just age playing or her nature...Virat has serious anger issues and in his anger he has always insulted and let others insult his wife...