What Was The Point of Divorce Here?

As far as I understand, the purpose of separation is so that a couple in which one or both parties are not happy living together can live apart, and lead their own lives free from each other's constant presence.

The purpose of divorce is to formalise this separation, and share out rights to custody, properties, etc. under the supervision of the court, and to allow either party to (legally) marry someone else if they so wish.

When problems occur in a marriage, some couples decide to simply live separately, as they fear the stigma of a formal divorce, or because they are in full agreement about how to deal handle properties, money, children, etc., so see no need for legal interference, and neither party is interested in marrying anyone else any time soon.

But here, in this show- for the first time- we are seeing a couple who have got divorced, but for some reason, they are not yet separated. In fact, even one party's second marriage couldn't make this couple want to live apart.

My question is, what was even the point of getting divorced if this was what they were going to do?

Because both Anupama and Vanraj seem happy to live under one roof with each other, and neither of them really wanted to marry anyone else (let's be real, we all know Vanraj had zero interest in marrying Kavya, it was only Kavya, and then in the last minute Anupama who pushed for that wedding to happen). All of the children are adults, or very nearly there, so custody/child support is not an issue. And despite all the inconsistencies, one thing Anupama has always maintained that she wants no alimony, and has no interest in acquiring property rights.

So why exactly was Anupama insisting for divorce so much? Does anyone here actually get her logic at this point?

Because I definitely don't.

But when she divorced she was clear she is not going to stay back. It was bapuji who emotionally blackmailed her to stay back that also when she was almost leaving. While taking divorce she was clear she has to leave the house and had also mentally prepared herself. Thats the reason in the resort also she started staying seperately as soon as the divorce happened.

Her mistake is that she gave into the emotional blackmail. She should have stayed firm on leaving like she stayed firm on divorcing. But we cannot say she didn't have logic in taking divorce if she wanted to stay under same roof with Vanraj, this scenario was never contemplated by her.

That is what I'm wondering as well. Why is she still under the Shah family roof that even not just with her ex husband also with her sautan. What is this shit?? If they want Anupama then they should firmly ask Vanraj and Kavya to leave the house.

This show has lost the plot! If they wanted Anupama to stay, they should have asked Vanraj Kavya to leave as Vanraj was the one who choose to have an affair.

Originally posted by: neo7

But when she divorced she was clear she is not going to stay back. It was bapuji who emotionally blackmailed her to stay back that also when she was almost leaving. While taking divorce she was clear she has to leave the house and had also mentally prepared herself. Thats the reason in the resort also she started staying seperately as soon as the divorce happened.

Her mistake is that she gave into the emotional blackmail. She should have stayed firm on leaving like she stayed firm on divorcing. But we cannot say she didn't have logic in taking divorce if she wanted to stay under same roof with Vanraj, this scenario was never contemplated by her.

Yes I accept that staying there wasn't her first choice, but why did Anu yield to this ridiculous request in the first place?

And how is so happy/comfortable living like this, making comments on Kavya's cooking, clothes, etc. to boot? It's looking horrible honestly, I could tell the show was going in a regressive kind of direction for many weeks now, but I never thought it would get this bad.

Originally posted by: lkd48

This show has lost the plot! If they wanted Anupama to stay, they should have asked Vanraj Kavya to leave as Vanraj was the one who choose to have an affair.

Exactly!

If Bapuji truly loved Anu as his daughter, then that is what he would have done.

Originally posted by: Rein123

That is what I'm wondering as well. Why is she still under the Shah family roof that even not just with her ex husband also with her sautan. What is this shit?? If they want Anupama then they should firmly ask Vanraj and Kavya to leave the house.

I fully agree with every word you put here.

Wanting to stay with Baa-Bapuji and her kids is fine but doing so while VanYa also live there is so beyond ridiculous.

It's absurd enough that Bapuji would ask Anu to do this in the first place, but it's all the more shocking that the rest of the family are. People like Baa, Dolly, Pankhi, Toshu who feared divorce in their family due to what society will say, are happy with husband, wife and ex wife all living in one house post divorce.

Originally posted by: Anjalika01

I fully agree with every word you put here.

Wanting to stay with Baa-Bapuji and her kids is fine but doing so while VanYa also live there is so beyond ridiculous.

It's absurd enough that Bapuji would ask Anu to do this in the first place, but it's all the more shocking that the rest of the family are. People like Baa, Dolly, Pankhi, Toshu who feared divorce in their family due to what society will say, are happy with husband, wife and ex wife all living in one house post divorce.

It is ridiculous and beyond normal. That totally defeats the purpose of her divorcing Vanraj in the first place. If she wanted to see his face along with Kavya's on a daily basis then why did she file for divorce at all? She should have just let that game of Pati, Patni aur woh to continue. How can a woman who claims to have self respect actually agree to this shitty arrangement? Her house is hardly away from the Shah household, if she wanted to see her kids or they wanted to see her, they could just pay each other a visit. And doesn't she care about her own family, her own mother, brother and nephew, or is she among those who think Maayka is a stranger family. Why the hell is she entertaining the Shah family and their requests at all???

Originally posted by: Anjalika01

Yes I accept that staying there wasn't her first choice, but why did Anu yield to this ridiculous request in the first place?

And how is so happy/comfortable living like this, making comments on Kavya's cooking, clothes, etc. to boot? It's looking horrible honestly, I could tell the show was going in a regressive kind of direction for many weeks now, but I never thought it would get this bad.

I agree she should have not given in to the emotional blackmail.

Also her interfering in matters relating to Kavya are wrong, let Baa and Vanraj handle that.

But I don't think it was going regreesive kind for many weeks, bcoz we saw divorce happen, we saw anupama staying separately at resort, we also saw how anupamaa was staying away from all VanYa marriage drama until Kavya threatened to send her kids and baa to jail. Kavya doesn't want to cook its fine, but then she is literally ordering why breakfast was not kept for her when she herself told the earlier day to Anu that stop making food for her husband and kavya told she eats only healthy food. You cannot go on ordering why breakfast is not prepared for her, did she bothered to prepare breakfast for everyone, she just cared for ordering food for her and V.

Post Anu moving back to Shah house, just for the sake of drama, makers are making it as Anupamaa vs Kavya. Hope they realise that viewers are not liking this and stop further butchering of Anupamaa's character.

Originally posted by: Rein123

It is ridiculous and beyond normal. That totally defeats the purpose of her divorcing Vanraj in the first place. If she wanted to see his face along with Kavya's on a daily basis then why did she file for divorce at all? She should have just let that game of Pati, Patni aur woh to continue. How can a woman who claims to have self respect actually agree to this shitty arrangement? Her house is hardly away from the Shah household, if she wanted to see her kids or they wanted to see her, they could just pay each other a visit. And doesn't she care about her own family, her own mother, brother and nephew, or is she among those who think Maayka is a stranger family. Why the hell is she entertaining the Shah family and their requests at all???

This!!

The most hilarious/tragic part in all this is that Vanraj actually didn't even want to divorce Anu, he tried to stop the divorce by hook or by crook, in any way he could think of (from begging forgiveness to emotional blackmail to literally running away).

It was Anu who was pushing for divorce through all this, and I actually admired/supported her stand in this issue back then...

But now it just looks like her insistence on divorce, and support for VanYa's wedding (which Vanraj himself didn't even want) was just a weird game she played to mess with VanYa's heads, and make everyone think she has moved on from Vanraj, while she secretly still hopes to be with him 🤢.