Originally posted by: 404_NotFound
Why did he encourage all her calls and talks? I have no doubt that he had no wrong intentions. I have given my views on this as a reply to lina's post.
I don’t think he encouraged her but he didn’t discourage her either because as per him she was already going through a lot and was among people she hardly knew . He considered her as his best friend (he truly believed it ) and didn’t want to ignore her .
I agree, a better way to put it. He didn't discourage her.
Hmm, one aspect I am made to think of after your reply. He wouldn't want her to think he was ignoring her. Kind of makes sense though I am not entirely happy 😂😂, I am not in his position anyway.
I understand that he called her while coming back, to extend support to his family, why should he be calling her? Best friend? I am sorry, I don't agree with you. They are no where close to even friends. I understand he offered his friendship so that at any point of time, when she is in trouble or needs someone, he will be there for her. But he need not be the only one, he should have asked her to stay strong, should have ensured his family support Pakhi. What makes him think that only he can give her the needed support? What stopped him from thinking as why Pakhi is not expecting support from her parents but instead is crying in every call that I need you, I need you here, I need my best friend?
Audiences don’t believe that they were best friends but Virat considered her as one . There is no standard defined of a best friend . He didn’t consider he is the only one who could provide her the support otherwise he would have left everything and returned to Nagpur immediately. He wanted to do his part of supporting her
I am still trying to understand how he considers her as one. A lot make fun of their love, i would say that people can or might fall in love too in that short period of time but can never become best friends atleast.
But I always thought that the friendship was mainly formed because it was like a promise saying you have me if you need anything.
People will bash me if i use this word promise 😂😂 , but in this aspect he really meant it.
@bold right, somethink to think about 🤔
But he never did anything whenever she kept telling she needs him, she needs him with her in Nagpur, not able to take it, feels lonely 🤷♀️
He was put in a tight spot and he wasn't direct when he could have been. But again it was over phone and he probably didn't want to be harsh or say anything that might hurt her when she already was having problems. He is also not a person who can ever be blunt.
Sometimes being frank and direct is the only way to draw lines and remind ex about the current status of relationship.
I agree with the last line too 👍
Come on, she is your ex, are you not supposed to get alarmed? Is it not unusual for a girl to expect her ex's support when she has loving parents and a friend in the name of Neha?
I don’t know if we can say ex cannot be friends . It all depends on the individuals . I know a family where the lady is still in touch with her ex husband and he was her doctor and a big support when she fell sick .She had her family but she didn’t shy away from taking her ex help . Her current husband parties at his house with his wife and kids . The ex husband adores his ex wife’s kids . Obviously they are not Indians and our Indian thinking might be different.
I too believe that ex can be friends. But again as long as you are confident that they have no feelings for you or when you know for sure they have moved on or even if you doubt they have feelings for you, they see it only as a part and in present they are only looking for friendship and nothing else.
I understand what you have said about ex extending support, it is normal, comes with trust, confidence which is attained over a period of time.
He had feelings for her, but whenever he spoke to her, he spoke "only" as a friend, but how can he assume the same for her?
She never moved on, was clearly visible whenever she spoke, she had feelings for him and in that case, it is/wasn't right to extend support to her even as a friend.
In this case it is as if he was unintentionally encouraging her to remain attached to him.
It might be unintentional but it was his duty as a brother and as a friend of Pakhi ( he had promised to be) to put some conscious efforts from his side to draw a line, to ensure she doesn't remain attached or get attached anymore to him and to not lean on him when she has others in her life. This is how people should deal with ex and is also expected out of them.
The most important reason being the time, it wasn't too long since they part ways and it is only natural to have feelings for each other and that is exactly why he was supposed to discourage her.
The ex who you are talking about or whom we see in and around us, anywhere in the world (even in India I believe) are able to behave or move comfortably only because both the parties have moved on. Even if one doesn't move on and stay single, have taken enough time to get detached, and hold no emotional attachment too.
Even if he had started to see her as only his friend and not as an ex, they had part ways only then and she cried to him that she can only love him and no one else. Her husband goes on MIA, did he not once think that may be she is harbouring some feelings for him and that is why she is leaning on him and is expecting his support?
He knew she had feelings Infact even he had feelings for her but he thought those feelings will go away with time and she is only looking for a friend. This is the mistake Virat did . He never understood Pakhi’s expectations from him . He assumed a lot
@bold I see, I think I know what you are saying.
@italics sadly he is still assuming, failing to read her. How can he not see what she wants, it is right in front of him, the way she treats Sai with hostility, can he not see that it is jealousy?
He cannot see Sai's jealousy because he thinks she doesn't like him, but Pakhi? Is she not his ex? How can he not join the dots?
He is ignoring them all. Can he not understand her advances? He is making a big mistake by not drawing a line with her.
There were enough posts bashing him, so I didn't create one about Virat's people reading skills, especially Pakhi 😂😂. I dropped the plan because it will all be misunderstood and his character will be misunderstood even more.
