Sai was wrong - Page 5

Originally posted by: methebest

I too agree with you. I too have the same view. I wouldn't allow an 18 year old in to a professor's house solely for lunch and the abrupt reasons given by Sai.

I was just trying to point out the hypocrisy. They see a malintent in a man they don't know when he invites Sai alone, but they see no malintent in Pakhi's behavior when she is nuts about not being able to go alone with Virat? I was trying to point out that they have the brain to see it, but with Pakhi its okay!!

You're right. But, Chakram Niwasis have a soft corner for Pakhi since she's their favourite and all this while they have seen anything wrong in her, so naturally they feel there is no problem if she goes with Virat. But, Virat never wanted to go with Pakhi alone and if he has problem with Sai going for lunch at her professor's house then too he's right. And, to top it Sai didn't even bother to confide in him.

Originally posted by: fatssrilanka

You're right. But, Chakram Niwasis have a soft corner for Pakhi since she's their favourite and all this while they have seen anything wrong in her, so naturally they feel there is no problem if she goes with Virat. But, Virat never wanted to go with Pakhi alone and if he has problem with Sai going for lunch at her professor's house then too he's right. And, to top it Sai didn't even bother to confide in him.

Yes, she is their favorite bahu, but isn't it abnormal that no one even for a second thought that why was Pakhi so hysterical if Sai joins? Why is it so important for her to go alone with Virat? Why was she abusing Virat's wife for joining them on the trip? I never said Virat wanted to go alone with Pakhi, but him allowing Pakhi to lash out at his wife and not understand Pakhi's body language, words and clear emotions is out of belief.

I do agree that Sai should explain better about going to a man's house alone, but the same explanation Virat owes her when she asked " mera aap dono ke sath jana galat hai problem hai, per aap dono ka akele jana ... problem nahi hai?" Sai should confide in him for her own good because that way she could have avoided confrontation, but last night fight could have been the reason she didn't want to tell him anything, but we don't know what CVs plan at that end. I don't like to assume that Sai was thinking this or Virat was thinking that, but I prefer to comment on what I see and hear on screen. Lets see where CVs take us!!

Originally posted by: methebest

Yes, she is their favorite bahu, but isn't it abnormal that no one even for a second thought that why was Pakhi so hysterical if Sai joins? Why is it so important for her to go alone with Virat? Why was she abusing Virat's wife for joining them on the trip? I never said Virat wanted to go alone with Pakhi, but him allowing Pakhi to lash out at his wife and not understand Pakhi's body language, words and clear emotions is out of belief.

I do agree that Sai should explain better about going to a man's house alone, but the same explanation Virat owes her when she asked " mera aap dono ke sath jana galat hai problem hai, per aap dono ka akele jana ... problem nahi hai?" Sai should confide in him for her own good because that way she could have avoided confrontation, but last night fight could have been the reason she didn't want to tell him anything, but we don't know what CVs plan at that end. I don't like to assume that Sai was thinking this or Virat was thinking that, but I prefer to comment on what I see and hear on screen. Lets see where CVs take us!!

Chakram Niwasis don't find anything odd in Pakhi's behaviour because they are blindfoldef towards her, but yes I Virat's behaviour quite strange or maybe he's giving her the benefit of doubt. But, I hope he makes 2 and 2 together and starts figuring out about Saralekha's behaviour soon clears the mess that he has created.

Yes she was wrong. It's quite weird to go to a professor's house for lunch that too alone. Then she also answered in a jalebi way to whatever they asked. 😳

Originally posted by: Bana

I have 2 daughters. One is a young adult, the other a teen. Both just around Sai’s age and with much more big city exposure than Gadchirolichi mulgi. If one of them said she has been invited by her male teacher/professor whom she has known for a few weeks, for lunch alone in his house, & further refuses to divulge his name, like hell I will allow her to go. I will very likely say “taange tod doongi” a la Kaku 😜

Pls set aside your biases & knowledge of Sai’s character and think... with all the stalking & MMS and drugging and other crimes against women, it is ridiculous to expect that any man who cares for u even as a friend will allow u to go. We as viewers know Dr Pulkit is Devi’s man, but how can Sai be sure, from what little she knows, that he is not a stalker or molester?

Secondly, how many of u socialise with your teachers & professors? Isn’t it highly irregular for a professor to invite just one student (gender apart) without her family to his home for lunch? That too, on a few weeks’ acquaintance. How many of u will say “jaa simran jee le apni lunch” if your daughter/ sister / bestie got such an invite?

Thirdly, however wicked Chavan Niwasis may be, it is now a roof over Sai’s head, a home for her, not a hotel. There are people there who feed her, take care of her comforts & expenses & care for her. She cannot treat ot like a hotel, coming & going as she pleases without being answerable to anyone. When we live in a home & with a family, we have to respect the norms of keeping folks informed. It is extremely impertinent not to do so. Her problem is, as long as she knows in her mind that she is well intentioned, she doesnt see a need to observe these norms. But societies & families dont work like that. It is the unwritten rules & norms of behaviour that keep these institutions going.

All this said, Virat is well within reason to question Sai, stop her, scold her & even give her the silent treatment on her return. But not not not to deny her food. That is tantamount to physical abuse.

Sai should have denied lunch at home and suggested lunch on campus canteen instead.

Chavans were just in their usual bitchy self. Nothing more. But Virat did have a point today. He was behaving like any other responsible husband would do. There are so many crimes against women going on. And Virat being a police officer has first hand experience of such cases. So it is completely understandable that he was being extra cautious about his wife's safety. We as viewers know that Pulkit's intentions are not wrong. But Virat has no way of knowing this. So he just reacted the way anyone else would do. Sai should have given a better excuse than lunch. She cannot expect Virat to not react after the way she explained things.

Originally posted by: shagun_sarun

VIrat just held her hand, there was no twisting. I don't understand. Am I missing something here?

Why is everyone mad for Virat holding Sai's hand to stop her?

I understand people getting mad for precap. No food, is extreme but why are people complaining about holding her hand?

Am I missing some BTS, where he twist her hand or something?

No I think people are expecting the KD thing of arm twisting to happen here so eveeryone is already getting worked up, but somehow I don't feel they will make virat do that, but we will see tomorrow's episode to find out, but I am hoping it won't happen.

From a realistic point of view, Sai going alone to a literal stranger’s house is wrong. Even a stranger might advise any girl against doing that and to be cautious of that guy going forward who invites her alone. In reality even if he was a good guy, then the wise advice would be let the family meet the guy first. Alas reality and ITV are millions of years away, so I will just state my point of view as to why I didn’t find anything wrong with Sai’s behavior.

Firstly this is not the first time Sai hasn’t done that, once to the DIG’s office for virat’s job where time was of paramount to solve the issue before virat lost his job. Can you imagine all the drama that would have followed if she actually said where she was going and why to that family? The second time was also for virat, where she could genuinely see how much virat was feeling bad and missing pakhi. That time I believe virat himself forbid her to do anything in that matter, I don’t exactly remember but he said something like that. This time the reason is for Devi tai, one person who genuinely loves her. Yet the question arises why did she behave the way she did when he was genuinely concerned for her safety. In my opinion the huge difference was the fact that this time she saw him from the opposite side, from the enemy camp, which doesn’t miss a single chance to insult her. When I mean the other side, I don’t mean the torture and taunts. I mean the fact that after the huge revelation she did, all the reaction she got from virat was one of indifference. He even failed to acknowledge that he had registered her complaints, but adding to injury he pretended like nothing even happened when he brought tea for her. Virat may feel whatever he wants, but Sai has no clue about that. On top of it he called her the one thing that she hates the most, he called her a liar, when virat himself knows that is so not true. He called her the one thing that she has repeatedly claimed she isn’t in all the fights that have taken place so far.

Unlike men, women cannot easily forget a fight, especially with their spouse and particularly when they are absolutely right. They need the reassurance that their complaints have been registered and resolved. This is true even in real life. Oftentimes women have this tendency to sulk around the house until the husband or the person they have the issue with notices it and addresses it. The fact that virat did neither address nor resolve has made him join the enemy camp for Sai. I felt that Sai’s attitude of indifference was reasonable. She addressed the biggest problem in their marriage and expected virat to at least acknowledge it, which he failed. Anyone in her position would feel “if you don’t care for the most important issue in our life, why pretend as if you care for me.” As long as virat doesn’t address the fight or the issue in hand, he will come about as fake and hypocritical to Sai. Granted she didn’t mention anything to Ashwini too, but what would have been Ashwini’s advice, either not to go or to maybe take the one person she doesn’t even want to talk to right now, virat.

Maybe she could have lied, but even then this drama would have taken place. I for one am glad she didn’t, never been a fan of sugarcoating. If someone can’t handle honesty or truth, then it’s their problem. Ending with one of my favorite dialogues from GOT...

“When enough people make false promises, words stop meaning anything. Then there are no more answers, only better and better lies.

I hope no one in real life has to experience this. The feeling of being alone and that no one actually gets you.

Virat gets her only after she explains or someone explains her situation.

Ashwini tries her best but her loyalties will be divided between her son and daughter-in-law. She has never been seen confronting Virat about PP .

Sai has to prove to everyone her intentions to be accepted. There is no one like her aaba who gets her. That is an isolating feeling.

No I don’t think Sai was entirely wrong ...she could have handled things better but look who she is dealing with ??

1) Chauvans didn’t give a shit about Sai or her safety. They just want to put her down.

2) Virat ...I’m sick of this guy. He is acting like he OWNS Sai. Saying she won’t get food ? Give me a frigging break. This guys a chauvinistic as* wanting to ride two boats at once. I get he was concerned but that concern quickly turned into I’m your husband you do as I say or else u will get punished. Virat is absolute crap

3) Sai is her own person. She can do as she pleases. The only thing I will say is she could have asked Virat to drive her there and explain things in the car. But even if she did do that, Virat and Sai wouldn’t even make it to the car before hearing 100 more taunts