Lessons in patriachy - Page 3

come to my place and see..meraey pati kaey liya mein ek khana serve karni ki hotel hoon.if some one comes home,we should say "please come in".we should serve them water,food,without asking any questions..if we dont do that it means disrespect.. what ever goes wrong happens in the family,its because of the daughter in law.. all he rules,rituals for woman only..if i ask anyone questions,it means i am a fool and immatured or i am coming from another planet🤪

for my own pitha shree..patni shoyld obey her pati..should adjust amd accept all the flaws and do her duties..should shut the 🤬even if husband and kids are wrong..shoyldnt question them,figjt with them or argie with them...my duty is only to look after them

I have never kept any vrath for my pati dev and i wont.. agar they dont love,respect or do anything for us,why the hell should woman starve? yes i do poojas but not sathya savithiri kind..i should have born in 2050 and mera pati ka thinking 1950 ka hey.. he always scolds that i am not geling with people,torally in my own world..

i hate to sorround myself with people who are fake,manipulative and liers...

many times i see myself in sai😆..no one likes me as i dont do the chamchagiri..yes i am dumb ...

shaadi kaey pehle papa control karthaey aur shaadi kaey baadh pati..

kabhi kabhi mein apnaey aap ko ashwini kaey roop mein bhi dekthi hoo...i am literally scared for my future bahus.. boys ko mend kaisaey karna hey? someone please tell..they are their papas kids... ya will boys change? everyone say that men are close to their mom! but i dont see anything in ashwini virat relationship...

This society have to change a lot is constructive and postive way..

loving amupama show now...

Originally posted by: prs_725

I felt like it was more along the lines of Sai asking questions and retorting w new questions on Ashwini's beliefs. Unfortunately, many many people think like Ashwini and to her thought process, Sai remarked and questioned those "old" beliefs. It was like having a conversation between "purane khayalat"and "naye" to get people to see the other side and perspective via Sai. So ashwini was the samaj and Sai was questioning the samaj. to me it was beautifully done and such a wonderful message they sent to viewers via Sai. Although, not saying ashwini is right and that mindset is too sour for my taste "get dinner for ur husband" "look pretty for your husband"

you know yehaan inkaey dosth kaey patni ask opinion on their dress to their husband..i totally get pissed off... they always want their husband to select dresses for them..

This is the only department my husband doesnt interfere..to be frank he is modern only on dress thong,but thoughts on other issues date back to 1950.

Originally posted by: prs_725

I felt like it was more along the lines of Sai asking questions and retorting w new questions on Ashwini's beliefs. Unfortunately, many manypeople think like Ashwini and to her thought process, Sai remarked and questioned those "old" beliefs. It was like having a conversation between "purane khayalat"and "naye" to get people to see the other side and perspective via Sai. So ashwini was the samaj and Sai was questioning the samaj. to me it was beautifully done and such a wonderful message they sent to viewers via Sai. Although, not saying ashwini is right and that mindset is too sour for my taste "get dinner for ur husband" "look pretty for your husband"

why should we dress for our husband? to charm them? are we made only to satisfy their pleasures..i am sorry..i hate people who look at woman as a atm machine,birth machine and just a piece of flesh🤬.

Originally posted by: jane_austen

All your points were spot on. Bravo 👏!!!. How dare the CVs try to drill such a message to young girls? 😡 Have seen many educated women get brainwashed into submission by the same nonsense of 'women are stronger, more caring'.

emotional manipulation on woman in the name of love,marriage etc etc... media and serials are enough to fool woman emotionally that physical man handling and verbal abuse of men is normal,because they love her🤢.and husband will be like that only😡

my sincere advice or request to unmarried woman in the forum..wake up girls,society is fooling us..shaadi karo but dont fall emptionally weak.be smart,brave and clever too else cannot survive this so called marriage life..Have some savings for yourself,go to job and dont disclose eveytwhing thing to your life partner..

be practical...

Originally posted by: chinnu_kaku

for my own pitha shree..patni shoyld obey her pati..should adjust amd accept all the flaws and do her duties..should shut the 🤬even if husband and kids are wrong..shoyldnt question them,figjt with them or argie with them...my duty is only to look after them

I have never kept any vrath for my pati dev and i wont.. agar they dont love,respect or do anything for us,why the hell should woman starve? yes i do poojas but not sathya savithiri kind..i should have born in 2050 and mera pati ka thinking 1950 ka hey.. he always scolds that i am not geling with people,torally in my own world..

i hate to sorround myself with people who are fake,manipulative and liers...

many times i see myself in sai😆..no one likes me as i dont do the chamchagiri..yes i am dumb ...

shaadi kaey pehle papa control karthaey aur shaadi kaey baadh pati..

kabhi kabhi mein apnaey aap ko ashwini kaey roop mein bhi dekthi hoo...i am literally scared for my future bahus.. boys ko mend kaisaey karna hey? someone please tell..they are their papas kids... ya will boys change? everyone say that men are close to their mom! but i dont see anything in ashwini virat relationship...

This society have to change a lot is constructive and postive way..

loving amupama show now...

First off, big hug to you.

I have boys too. And I consider it a huge responsibility to give them values that will help them to evolve beyond the societal pressures. That's how the next generation will change for the better.

Our girls are brought up to speak up, be independent, and boys are still stuck in the raja beta mode. Boys have a lot of catching up to do.

Girls like Sai ... will bring about a change. Mothers like Ashwini ..it's great that she communicates with Sai, explains everything very patiently, but at some point she should also be able to see the flaws in Virat. He is not perfect himself. I hope we get to see that part of Ashwini too.

Agree!👏

They just glorified all these traditions which are the result of age long patriarchy in our society in the name of 'strength'. Its not about whether women can do it, its about 'why' they should do it.

Unpopular opinion: Aai saying Sai Virat Chavan wasn't a music to my ears. For me she'll always be Sai Joshi not Sai Virat Chavan or anything else just like Virat will always be Virat Chavan not Virat Joshi.

Completely agree with your post.

Well written👏

Originally posted by: preethik

Unfortunately ITV is not for sending any social message. They are only showing what people want to see. If the drama in the CN drops I’m sure even the trps will drop which the makers will never let happen.

I have seen some nice serials either shut down or show unbelievable drama.

Torture is exaggerated in this show to create drama (for trp). That's fine. How are they going to lose audience by having Ashwini telling Sai to pick her battles (instead of giving shitty gyaan) and also giving an earful to Virat. The drama will still be there to satiate the masses. What is the need to propagate regressive ideas?

Originally posted by: jane_austen

Torture is exaggerated in this show to create drama (for trp). That's fine. How are they going to lose audience by having Ashwini telling Sai to pick her battles (instead of giving shitty gyaan) and also giving an earful to Virat. The drama will still be there to satiate the masses. What is the need to propagate regressive ideas?

Ashwini & Sai viewpoints I have already mentioned as their perspectives are different. Being a traditional bahu with no education & no identity as such Ashwini has mostly maintained peace by toeing the chakram line. She will give advice only from her perspective.

I have a greater problem when an educated person like Virat does nothing when people call Sai a junglee mulgi etc.

As for regressive ideas ITV is all about regressive ideas. The fact that Virat married Sai for her protection in society, the premise of the show, is wrong. But here we are, you & me discussing about it.😀