Would Dev and Maya still be together? I KANK I - Page 5

Originally posted by: happygirl123

Actually I don't get why people hate the movie so.

There is a chance they would survive cause the reason that tore their marriage was cause the personalities and wants from their life and of their spouses were different. They could withstand each other's nonsense.

(i.e: Maya is shown carrying Dev's bag and she seems happy doing it. They met to talk and discuss things. Dev didn't pressurize her or push himself on her for sex or intimacy till it seemed she equally wanted it as well)

I felt it actually portrayed flawed characters with vices like how normal people in real life are.

Dev's injury made him a resentful, jealous and insecure man and generally he was a short-tempered and impatient man. It was wrong of him to treat Rhea and his son the way he did but I do agree that Rhea too at times wasn't sympathetic towards his misery or insecurities. I think they lacked communication. Both had egos not willing to let go. Even Dev's mother told Rhea she has gone ahead and left Dev behind which she replies why is it a woman always told to sacrifice and be on par with the man. I guess she chose career over her marriage. One had to give in or the marriage was bound to fall apart.

As for Maya, everyone says that Rishi loved and her and did everything to keep the romance alive. But Maya did not feel sexually attracted to him and I don't blame her. Its not something she could have control. They were friends and didn't give dating a go neither were they sexually active before marriage I presume so she discovered all this after marriage. Like she told Dev what if she finds love after marriage. She kinda 'settled' for Rishi without truly loving him passionately. Many marriages fail due to a couple's sex life being unfulfilled. Rishi should have given her space to figure herself out too. Did Rishi think maybe she was asexual or other possibilities.

Bold: And Rhea was right. It's the Indian society's mindset to always blame the woman. Why should Rhea "give in" just because she's a woman? It shouldn't be the unwritten rule that you should worship your hubby even if he treats you like shite.

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

Bold: And Rhea was right. It's the Indian society's mindset to always blame the woman. Why should Rhea "give in" just because she's a woman? It shouldn't be the unwritten rule that you should worship your hubby even if he treats you like shite.

Honestly, in a marriage, both have to compromise and bow down.. Thats how marriage works.. Jab ek kamzor ho tou dusre ko usse samhalna hota hai.. That's what companionship is all about.. It doesn't have to be about men or women.. I would have said the same had the roles been reversed too..

Dev, after his accident needed mental support which clearly he wasn't given, not by his wife, not by his mother.. That's what made him bitter.. I most certainly don't blame Rhea for Dev cheating but I do think ke failed to give him the mental strength she needed when he was at his lowest

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

Honestly, in a marriage, both have to compromise and bow down.. Thats how marriage works.. Jab ek kamzor ho tou dusre ko usse samhalna hota hai.. That's what companionship is all about.. It doesn't have to be about men or women.. I would have said the same had the roles been reversed too..

Dev, after his accident needed mental support which clearly he wasn't given, not by his wife, not by his mother.. That's what made him bitter.. I most certainly don't blame Rhea for Dev cheating but I do think ke failed to give him the mental strength she needed when he was at his lowest

How do we know she didn't give him or rather try to? Also, she was busy working her ass off. She didn't have time to play the doting wife, or else Dev's sorry bum would be out on the streets.

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

How do we know she didn't give him or rather try to? Also, she was busy working her ass off. She didn't have time to play the doting wife, or else Dev's sorry bum would be out on the streets.

Not neccesarily.. Dev's sorry bum managed to survive just fine for three years after parting ways with Rhea.. He would have survived even then had he managed to get over his disability and losing out on his dream.. everyone can balance between working and being a good partner.. Its all about striking the right balance and both Dev and Rhea failed in that

Bold; that's why I said I don't blame just Rhea but his mother too.. Dev needed counselling, period..

How do we know? Well then how do we know Dev didn't try to share his viewpoint with Rhea in the beginning and then gave up when she didn't understand?😆 There never was any insinuation in the movie.. Dev was always bitter about his disability.. That clearly shows no one gave him the strength and confidence to get over it

Originally posted by: Mahisa22

Bold: And Rhea was right. It's the Indian society's mindset to always blame the woman. Why should Rhea "give in" just because she's a woman? It shouldn't be the unwritten rule that you should worship your hubby even if he treats you like shite.

Exactly. They lived in NYC right? Its one of the most expensive places in the world. Imagine the cost of running a household with 4 members and only one of them is working.

Its simple, had Rhea not been so career oriented they'd have been living a life of compromise, possibly on the streets or would've gone back to India. NYC is a brutal place.

Maya could've been a teacher and not ambitious because she had a wealthy husband. Because New York means you have to hustle to live the dreams...no one has time for emotions. Its Mumbai x 100.

Originally posted by: Ashley.Tisdale

Exactly. They lived in NYC right? Its one of the most expensive places in the world. Imagine the cost of running a household with 4 members and only one of them is working.

Its simple, had Rhea not been so career oriented they'd have been living a life of compromise, possibly on the streets or would've gone back to India. NYC is a brutal place.

Maya could've been a teacher and not ambitious because she had a wealthy husband. Because New York means you have to hustle to live the dreams...no one has time for emotions. Its Mumbai x 100.

But Maya did continue to be a teacher even when she parted with her wealthy husband

Dev did earn himself a living after parting with his wife

Its not like these people were shown incapable of supporting themselves

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

Not neccesarily.. Dev's sorry bum managed to survive just fine for three years after parting ways with Rhea.. He would have survived even then had he managed to get over his disability and losing out on his dream.. everyone can balance between working and being a good partner.. Its all about striking the right balance and both Dev and Rhea failed in that

Bold; that's why I said I don't blame just Rhea but his mother too.. Dev needed counselling, period..

How do we know? Well then how do we know Dev didn't try to share his viewpoint with Rhea in the beginning and then gave up when she didn't understand?😆 There never was any insinuation in the movie.. Dev was always bitter about his disability.. That clearly shows no one gave him the strength and confidence to get over it

So why didn't HE opt for therapy? He was a grown-ass educated man, not some kid who needs to be babied. Also, he remained an asshole even when he earned something while being married to Rhea.

Originally posted by: happygirl123

Actually I don't get why people hate the movie so.

There is a chance they would survive cause the reason that tore their marriage was cause the personalities and wants from their life and of their spouses were different. They could withstand each other's nonsense.

(i.e: Maya is shown carrying Dev's bag and she seems happy doing it. They met to talk and discuss things. Dev didn't pressurize her or push himself on her for sex or intimacy till it seemed she equally wanted it as well)

I felt it actually portrayed flawed characters with vices like how normal people in real life are.

Dev's injury made him a resentful, jealous and insecure man and generally he was a short-tempered and impatient man. It was wrong of him to treat Rhea and his son the way he did but I do agree that Rhea too at times wasn't sympathetic towards his misery or insecurities. I think they lacked communication. Both had egos not willing to let go. Even Dev's mother told Rhea she has gone ahead and left Dev behind which she replies why is it a woman always told to sacrifice and be on par with the man. I guess she chose career over her marriage. One had to give in or the marriage was bound to fall apart.

As for Maya, everyone says that Rishi loved and her and did everything to keep the romance alive. But Maya did not feel sexually attracted to him and I don't blame her. Its not something she could have control. They were friends and didn't give dating a go neither were they sexually active before marriage I presume so she discovered all this after marriage. Like she told Dev what if she finds love after marriage. She kinda 'settled' for Rishi without truly loving him passionately. Many marriages fail due to a couple's sex life being unfulfilled. Rishi should have given her space to figure herself out too. Did Rishi think maybe she was asexual or other possibilities.

Nobody ever said they needed to be stuck to their unhappy marriages. Its the cheating part that makes the movie distasteful.Any justification for the cheating ? That must be also Rhea and Rishi’s fault.

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

But Maya did continue to be a teacher even when she parted with her wealthy husband

Dev did earn himself a living after parting with his wife

Its not like these people were shown incapable of supporting themselves

Not incapable. Its okayish for them individually...they might've had individual studios or something. But as a family NYC is damn expensive. Every parent wants to give their child a good upbringing. So more then Dev, Rhea did it for the entire family.

I don't understand why Dev gets questioned for being jobless in the movie. He had to take care of their kid because Rhea was busy 24/7 in her career. She gave priority to her job over her family. If that's her choice then Dev too has a choice if he wants to work or not. Why only women are supposed to have a choice on whether they want to work or not? Men too have the same rights.