Member Topic: How many of you had an arranged marriage? - Page 6

I m not married but have seen the best and worst of both around me

At that end it matters how someone deals with the situation and how much respect one has for other

And also people not ready for comprising should not expect others to compromise.

Originally posted by: Sarika12

Arranged...but wish I never got married...😔

Sad..love and marriage are very tricky business..

Originally posted by: colossial2015

Red flags

1. He would never look at me in my eyes while speaking. He used to be very romantic earlier on calls before wedding was fixed.

2. He preferred sleeping on the day when our wedding was getting fixed.

3. His mother and sisters were extremely pushy and clingy.

4. His entire family wanted me to seduce him.

5. He knew about gay circle very well and people called him gay.

6. He always used get angry whenever I tried to talk to him.

7. His family had death and hospitalizations in the same year. In hindus we wait for year before any wedding and festival celebration after someone dies. But his family wanted immediate wedding.

6. His entire family wanted to spy on me through social media.

7. Most important clue was his weekend activities. He used to leave with all his newly married friends to weekend gateways. No one invited their spouses. There he used to meet his partner a distant cousin. His so called friend's wives gave me a slight clue about this. I am an ex- hotelier and I do have connections everywhere so I could snoop around.

8. When my parents questioned him once, all his lies fell out and everything got over. My parents ended everything that day

After our breakup, he immediately married another girl who is suffering with him.

Wow...I’m so sorry to hear you had to go through this...thankfully you understood before the wedding...my college mate got married to this guy, who was already living with his male partner in USA. She was in India and he Would always cite immigration issues to call her. She finally got to know after a year. She divorced him and he was an asshole to suggest to her not to do so because what willsociety tell her....what Will she do n live etc...she is living a successful independent life currently and unmarried. the nerve of some people. If you are gay, please don’t spoil girls’ lives by marrying them.

A close friend of mine had an arranged marriage. The guy’s family and her family were close family friends but they didn’t used to interact much, nor did they ever date before marriage due to cultural/religious reasons. Now imagine in full filmy style, when her dadi was on her deathbed, she did a classic “I want to see you both married before I die.” She has 3 elder siblings but ended up being the first to marry because of dadi se kiya hua vaada. It’s been a few years and she could not be more miserable and to her own admission has said she has given up. They have a little girl and he doesn’t spend time with her much. Maybe takes her grocery shopping, buys her a teddy every now and then. He’ll come home from work and be like “yaar sambhalo isko, kaam se thak kar aaya hoon”, even though they both work full time jobs. He didn’t even enter the hospital when she gave birth because he didn’t want to be grossed out or whatever. Whenever we talk to her about the possibility of a separation, she brings up her mum’s health condition and not wanting to stress her out. No idea what other advice to give in this case.

Arranged for me, through the classifedsTimes of India. The first guy, I saw and married. We have a wonderful marriage touch wood but I do feel people need to choose their own life partners. As a parent, I would rather not have that kind of responsibility.

Yeh parents ne facebook profile (parents got it from a common friend) dikhaake chhod diya, getting to know each other for 8-9 months on phone/vid chat etc., then in person few more months, then decided to bring families into picture to finalize on the dates as families knew we were talking anyways.

Isko kya bolte hai. Khichdi types. So yeah.

So many people here in the UK now go for open marriages or marriage for the sake of it while maintaining their closet life.

I might be considered backward or orthodox or religious but open marriage is beyond my understanding. You rather stay single and have fun.

Originally posted by: K.Ahm

So many people here in the UK now go for open marriages or marriage for the sake of it while maintaining their closet life.

I might be considered backward or orthodox or religious but open marriage is beyond my understanding. You rather stay single and have fun.

True..marriage =loyalty..if you can't do that then stay single and play the field..why pretend and bother to put on a show?

Originally posted by: Veni-Vidi-Vici

Sad..love and marriage are very tricky business..

True...guess only few r lucky...

Originally posted by: K.Ahm

So many people here in the UK now go for open marriages or marriage for the sake of it while maintaining their closet life.

I might be considered backward or orthodox or religious but open marriage is beyond my understanding. You rather stay single and have fun.

I know what you mean. But if you think, most of this crowd would have parents to answer to. Which is sad. This is a way to calm them and maintain peace at home. As long as the partners are not kept in dark before marriage, it's all good.

I doubt how many of these people have no family (which is sad of another level) and still do this. I dont know much so I am asking.