Member Topic: How many of you had an arranged marriage? - Page 4

It is a long story. Don't want to disclose it here.

Originally posted by: colossial2015

What happened?

Do not disclose any personal information.

Originally posted by: Veni-Vidi-Vici

Poor girl..wish she walks out on him..nothing against gays but fooling a heterosexual girl into marrying them is heartless behavior..should be punished

This girl is in naive. She loves him. His parents should have been punished.

Originally posted by: colossial2015

So your marriage was wild.

So how is Mrs. Maroon in person?

She’s probably the only person on planet earth who can control my behavior 😆 ❤️

With just one look 👼

Originally posted by: SugaAgustD

It is a long story. Don't want to disclose it here.

Ok.

Always believe there is someone made for you. I know this sounds like a filmy dialogue but its true.

Arranged. Mine was funny circumstances. My family was modest and we grew up in small town conservative where all relatives were close by and so had a huge extended family and outings was going to weddings and funerals of extended family or same caste people.

I am quite dark skinned. My dad's family is very dark and they used to joke that my great grandfather was so dark that even the palms of his hands were black. My mum's family was fair/light skinned , but poor and hence the marriage happened.

My second cousin's wedding was arranged too, but she was in love with a good looking guy who was a salesman who was there from another state. Somehow they suppressed it and arranged her wedding. But two days before the wedding, she ran away to the other state. If it was same state, they would send goondas and bring her back-it was considered a very shameful thing.

For some reason, the groom family was also very ashamed as they had made the arrangements, sent the invites and everyone is coming. Quickly they talked with my extended family and father and instead they arranged me as I was the only one available. Now those days mind you, we still had to give dowry -at least in my caste. No way we could have afforded such a match-he was educated, no sisters in family(that was important, as those days daughter in law had to take care of all the sister deliveries, and maternal uncle had to do so many functions he had to do for sisters children in my caste.) Also he was very decent looking, unlike me-who was dark but quite homely to boot. I was 18 and agreed-in those days the best I could have hoped for was marry some shop keeper or some one running a small business and live in joint family in our town. Most of my cousins at my level all ended up that way. If at all, my dear husband was forced. We were all from same community.

it went well, IT wave hit, we went abroad, after raising kids and youngest hit 7, I went to institution and learnt software-and they placed me and manged to survive and am working too.

We have a nice relationship too-he is happy-though in the beginning very unhappy as I guess looks wise I am no way his equal-but thank God those days looks alone was not everything. I take care of house, kids, finances and got a job too-so we are fine and have grown to love each other.

It is funny, I talk to people where I live from India who grew up in big cities, they have no idea how it is in rural/small town India. Probably why modern movies suck-all made by people growing up in Juhu and Bandra.

Originally posted by: colossial2015

This girl is in naive. She loves him. His parents should have been punished.

True..I bet they have no remorse for destroying someone's life..anything is permissible for maintaining so called izzat..bloody people...they certainly don't have a conscience..if their bahu falls for someone then they will scream haaye tauba ladki toh kulta nikli...

Originally posted by: Maroonporsche

She’s probably the only person on planet earth who can control my behavior 😆 ❤️

With just one look 👼

So she is perfect for perfect for you. 🤣

Originally posted by: desertsun

Arranged. Mine was funny circumstances. My family was modest and we grew up in small town conservative where all relatives were close by and so had a huge extended family and outings was going to weddings and funerals of extended family or same caste people.

I am quite dark skinned. My dad's family is very dark and they used to joke that my great grandfather was so dark that even the palms of his hands were black. My mum's family was fair/light skinned , but poor and hence the marriage happened.

My second cousin's wedding was arranged too, but she was in love with a good looking guy who was a salesman who was there from another state. Somehow they suppressed it and arranged her wedding. But two days before the wedding, she ran away to the other state. If it was same state, they would send goondas and bring her back-it was considered a very shameful thing.

For some reason, the groom family was also very ashamed as they had made the arrangements, sent the invites and everyone is coming. Quickly they talked with my extended family and father and instead they arranged me as I was the only one available. Now those days mind you, we still had to give dowry -at least in my caste. No way we could have afforded such a match-he was educated, no sisters in family(that was important, as those days daughter in law had to take care of all the sister deliveries, and maternal uncle had to do so many functions he had to do for sisters children in my caste.) Also he was very decent looking, unlike me-who was dark but quite homely to boot. I was 18 and agreed-in those days the best I could have hoped for was marry some shop keeper or some one running a small business and live in joint family in our town. Most of my cousins at my level all ended up that way. If at all, my dear husband was forced. We were all from same community.

it went well, IT wave hit, we went abroad, after raising kids and youngest hit 7, I went to institution and learnt software-and they placed me and manged to survive and am working too.

We have a nice relationship too-he is happy-though in the beginning very unhappy as I guess looks wise I am no way his equal-but thank God those days looks alone was not everything. I take care of house, kids, finances and got a job too-so we are fine and have grown to love each other.

It is funny, I talk to people where I live from India who grew up in big cities, they have no idea how it is in rural/small town India. Probably why modern movies suck-all made by people growing up in Juhu and Bandra.

Wow

You have filmy marriage story.

I am so happy it ended so well. 😊

Originally posted by: atmaofchameli

Yeah idk about others but you definitely shocked the shite out of me. LOL. You were the last person I expected would get married like that

It wasn’t just marriage. It was doing it in Pakistan. I never really spent much time there. But from Feb 2018 - November 2019 I took 7 trips there

It was like A phenomenon.

Originally posted by: Veni-Vidi-Vici

True..I bet they have no remorse for destroying someone's life..anything is permissible for maintaining so called izzat..bloody people...they certainly don't have a conscience..if their bahu falls for someone then they will scream haaye tauba ladki toh kulta nikli...

true typical Indian in laws.