YRHPK Re-runs// Discussion Thread 1 (update ep16 &17) - Page 92

As abir gets to know she not only rejected kuhu but selected mishti he pales not sure what to say, after this info we dont see abir opening his mouth he just looks at what meenu n kunal talk...

firstly lets see kunals two important replies..

"apne jo kiya mereliye kiya par jaise apne kiya usse mai agree nahi karta" 👏

Finally comes kunals decision which was well balanced n top notch As a son he does needs meenu's approval n marry the girl she agrees too its in his hands to make her agree to his choice thats other thing but also she shouldnt decide for him the final decision should be his...

"Maa main ussi ladki se shaadi karungi jisse aap karwana chayengi, par main apko bina puche life mai koi decision nahi lunga, but apko bhi mera life ka itna bada decision mujhse bina puche nahi lena chahiye tha maa"

AS naanu n kunal supports kuhu n her feeling meenu says not kuhu but kunal is her responsibility... and gives the lame example of job interview n rejecting/selecting them based on their quality...

meenu's pov "Everyone has to face rejection in their life"...

But lets see the difference which actually lies in kunal n abirs statement itself meenu rejecting kuhu is not the problem but the way she rejected is not right and also a job n rishta rejection can never be the same... when you are rejected in one interview you prepare yourself for next n makes you more strong as you go for more interview but in rishta as you face rejection you loose confidence, people start questioning you why you were rejected by previous family which doesnt happen in job interview... agar rishta toot tha hai uski saath bahut kuch toot tha hai and being a girl she faces more humiliation, problems in society no one is gonna ask you why you were rejected in a job interview but when rishta is rejected it becomes a topic of gossip and they make the girl fall weak with all their talks.... this is the harsh reality of our society...

meenu herself is a best example on how society treats people rejected her husband ran away that is also a kind of rejection n she faces the brunt of it even today they still talk behind her back... still she doesnt hesitate to do the same with other people...

Maheshwari's worried about kuhu n bm sends mishti to kuhu... mishti reaches there n kuhu gets angry seeing her... varsha comes there n takes kuhu... here all four characters are right n wrong... some of my thoughts... will talk about each character in separate post...

Character analysis or more precisely things i like n didnt like of all four... 😆

BM: I get she n everyone feels the sisters have good relationship so she sends mishti to kuhu but then however close they are the rishta rejection happened in name of mishti n by the flashback she n mishti talked about its clear kuhu didnt like even mishti name in kuhu book as a kid now such a big thing happened n sending mishti to her was not a good idea she should've gone being an elder kuhu needs their support now not the one who is unknowingly the reason for her heartbreak its better to keep mishti away from kuhu at that point... its good for both kuhu n mishti...

firstly the different perspective of live of both kuhu n mishti

"Life koi competition nahi hai, isme haar jeet nahi hoti hai, sirf dukh sukh hota hai" #fact 👏

for kuhu its all about winning over as we can see even now its all about competition between her n mishti... she feels like its her way of gaining what she wants, people will start caring for her, look at her if she wins its all about the perspective and its only with mishti with others she doesnt have this attitude... this is a family trait i can say even nannu has this quality seeing life as a competition....

Mishti: She was worried about kuhu n wanted to support kuhu, she goes there n consoles kuhu n i loved that she even heard to what all kuhu said even though she is not responsible for any of the things she was blamed of being an elder sister she did fulfill her responsibility well n only started giving back to kuhu when she crossed her line... i really appreciate mishti for this quality she is not rude with kuhu until she crosses her line... she doesnt deserve to hear all this even which is not her mistake n the comparison of mishti n naman was worse n also varsha expecting her to behave mature n ignore kuhu not realizing even mish has feeling like she said recently mature hona bhi ek punishment hai... that is what happens with mishti....

Coming to what i didnt like... The family doesnt but she knew the reality of sisters equation she knew kuhu is not gonna like her coming she should have given the time n space kuhu needed and when someone is worried n in their own misery you shouldnt share your worry "tumse zyada dhuk mujhe hai" the words you use makes a hell lot of difference... knowing kuhu how she will react this was not appropriate for mish to say...

Kuhu: She understands mishti is worried for her, she is in her own misery but she also knew mishti is not at fault for what happened, but the fault is of families not mishti... her emotions were on point in this the way she feels, the way family sees her n her hurt n pain bcoz of that... but then taking out her frustration of family on mishti n trying to hurt her emotions was not right... and constantly reminding mishti of something she wants to forget "naman", her family was not right...

"kisine mujhe nahi pocha ki mai apna birthday kaise celebrate karungi lekin sab tujhe pooch rahi thi taki tum apni family naa miss kare"

"mere life mai yehi ek kona tha jo sirf mera tha"

"Main roti hu tho voh mera tantrum hota hai lekin jab tu roti hai tho voh tera dard"

"kuhu ki life mai sab achha hai tho uspe kyu dyan de"

This is what family made her feel, its all in the way of handling... they treated kuhu as immature rather than trying to know or correcting her... and sharing i feel kuhu doesnt like to share things with mishti mainly bcoz of the way she heard why she has to share with mishti else she can easily share things with ketu or anyone... the reason that bm or meenu recently gave is bcoz of her past experience mishti needs extra attention its like asking kuhu to compromise which is rightfully hers for bichari mishti (this is how she is projected infront of kuhu by others not mishti)... this is the reason why the sisters equation became like this if left as such they would've been normal but trying to make kuhu get along with mish by making her sympathize is what triggered kuhu... even mishti's care and love for her gets over shadowed bcoz of the negative perspective she has bcoz of her own emotional suffering which made her see the sharing as "mishti chenli"...

this is just my understanding but if you have more thoughts more than welcome as i'm myself confused on this sisters equation..

Varsha: I liked how she gives extra attention n care to kuhu but then she doesnt see the other side of the coin in situations... like now she asked mishti to behave like elder sister that was not wrong but then she should've handled it more smooth way n mostly treating mishti to be extremely mature n treating kuhu as immature was not at all right... same happened during kuhu pag phere she never tried to knew what happened before bm n she came into room... even during kuku divorce when kuhu blamed mishti she stopped her from blaming but never tried to understand her daughters emotions... at a time she is only ready to blame/chid the one who she feels is at fault rather than trying to know both the sides of the coin..

And the main fault they just expect the sisters to get along without trying to know what is the actual issue and why they are not trying to get along whats the problem, where it all started, they just hear out n ready to blame one but never tried to really know the back story... mishti is mature so she has to adjust n kuhu has to leave her immaturity but they fail to understand neither mishti needs to be mature nor is kuhu immature...

maamu smartly manages when meenu asks about the drama happening before they came.. haan maamu too has smartness like meenu

but meenu is a player she traps him in his own words n doesnt say what happened in maheshwari house

"jab rishtey ki baat nahi banti hai tho log baate banana shuru karte hai" #hypocrisy this is what abinal n naanu tried to say but here she doesnt care about kunal too all this is well planned to keep kunal away from all this so that no one messes with his mind again for rishta...

here comes meenu's ultimate pov "Ghar mai aisi bahu aani chahiye jo dikhayi tho de par sunai naa de" #RobotBahu in abirs words...

One thing i appreciate meenu shares all her plans/thoughts with parul until she doesnt question her...

"Ghar mai sab apni man ki karne lage tho ghar bikar jaayega, ghar tab tak ghar rehtha hai jab tak power kisi ek ki haath mai ho"

Actually what meenu said is right but not entirely when the deciding person is only one in a house things are smooth in a house... but every person should have equal rights to voice out their opinion... maheshwaris are the best example there deciding person is bp/bm but everyone have equal right to voice out their opinion n they discuss with everyone present before deciding anything like how first even though varsha didnt say but after that made her point and entire family together made the decision... that is what we call a ghar with a single person with power yet an actual ghar... this is what abir wants to establish here too but then maa beta have made it a game bcoz they knew how the other is gonna react... best example is the recent parul maasi getting her rights what happened was not wrong but the way where most of them were obvious was not right... maasi does needs this recognition n meenu needs to understand this but before that it should've been a family discussion before announcing it publicly....

"abir ko abh bilkul samaj mai aayega ki beta chahe kitna bada kyu na hojaye maa ki sammne bachha hi rehtha hai"

this is true meenu you are more dangerous n vicious than abir thinks he needs to be extra cautious n needs to work more to match upto your level..

awww the one who always cares about abir n understands him without any condition Jugnu... Nandu panda see its you

Abir in memories of mishti... here there are two things he is worried/sad about the breaking of budding feeling/friendship with mishti n also he understood how difficult it will be for mishti who worried about kuhu rishta now herself being a reason/threat to that rishta unknowingly...

"un logon ki ghar mai kya ho raha hoga"

"Ghar aisa hota hai jahan chod ek ko lage tho dard sab ko mehsoos hota hai, humare ghar jaise nahi jahan sab log apni apni takleef ki saath jeete rehthe hai"

These two conveys how abir sees an actual ghar as... he feels each persons pain not only his own or his own people.. ghar is not simple a place but something which gives you peace, happiness, a shoulder to cry everything thats why he mentions mishti as his ghar... thats why he sees even maheshwari as his own family as his own ghar and tries to feel their pain too... In rjv they dont consider the pain the others go through mainly meenu bcoz of her own selfishness the feelings of kuhu was neglected n no one questioned that bcoz she is not a part of the ghar according to them n they can all live with their worries without sharing or caring about the other...

PS: Tried decoding this statement

Drooling time 😉

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Originally posted by: ruhi19

MAH are less drama ppl but drama unki picha hi nahi chodti... jab baat kuhu mki kushiyon ki hain tho they will keep everything aside and this is just the first time... we will see this in upcoming epi more...

this is were they fail no one brings drama on self unlike rjv but then they never deal with it they just want to look pass it like they didnt try to know about naanu drink spiking after mishku denied they didnt even ask to them after that who did it, they still didnt try talking with sisters why they dont get along they only force them to get along its it what we are angry on AbiNal about trying to get the sisters together rather than knowing the route cause when its not their responsibility we expect from them but ist it maheshwaris responsibility to look after it, its not how parents should be they just want temporary solution to everything thats why the kids of that house dont share their feeling with them mostly one bcoz they will be worried or they will be ignored or wanted to looked pass it... they gave the best parenting both girls n nannu have best qualities strong, independent, have a broader look at life but the emotional side they failed thats why all kids are messed up in one or other way...