Originally posted by: AreYaar
Babita is fundamentally very self-absorbed and Mini has in a way spoilt her by constantly coddling her emotions.....this is why Babita started taking her for granted and expected her daughter to always fall in line with whatever she was feeling and wanting.....this is why she fears losing this to Ashok too. I must say, even as Babita realized that she went too far in anger, it was obvious that she feels she can easily puchkaaro Mini and manaao her.....she still doesn't realize that she has pushed her daughter too far now......some words you cannot come back from. And some lessons are learnt the very harsh way......isse pehle Babita ne jo bhi project tode, she never had to pay such a heavy price...the ultimate price....losing her own beloved daughter....which is why she didn't learn her lesson about not doing things in egotistical impulses.....but now she may once she loses Mini.
Today's scene again showed how emotionally stunted Babita is.......even if she realizes something is wrong, her first reaction is panic and then she tries to put on some bravado to cover the panic but you can actually sense her desperation underneath.....she struggles with deep set fears and when she realizes she's done something wrong, she can't cope with the possibility that it may be more damage than can be fixed. This is what I gathered from the bit when she was stuttering ki main Maa hoon, Mini meri bacchi hai, gudiya hai, main manaa lungi.....sad case hai. Babita in a sense is eternally trapped inside her mind.
Yes mini has spoilt her. I always saw this coming. you can coddle someone but not so much that the person dosent realise when things are going too far. Mini put too much of Babita in her life. put her too much above her and everyone else. It is ok to be selfless but its not a good idea to get absorbed with someone so much that nothing exists beyond that person. You sometimes need to take a stand for yourself and let the person know that he/she wont be allowed to treat you that way. That is why once things are breaking up with babita she wants to leave everyone and go away because she is not able to handle it. She cannot handle other relations and cannot stay or come back for them.
HS is also blamed for spoiling babita . As if mini wasnt enough, he saying that aaj se ghar me aap ki chalegi gave babita a new sense of dominance over everyone. The meek scared babita before divorce was much better than this empowered babita who has become regressive than before
Babita is very much emotionally stunted. Even when HS was explaining about his hurt related to his father yesterday she had a blank expression she never understood him. HS frustration was so apparent ki woh kisko samjhane ki koshish kar raha hai & ultimately blamed himself that he should have stepped up to understand minis needs.
Mini-wise....the FBs as she's angrily packing her suitcase shows how much she's fed up of both her parents now.....the adults got so caught up in their own drama and tug of war over Mini that ultimately it's gotten to her also.....I sensed a lot of anger and self-loathing in her in that moment.....the words ringing in her ear...."apne baap ki beti".....Ashok Khurana once told her she can never escape the reality of her blood bond with him.....and now her own mom saying it to her ripped open a whole new gash on Mini's psyche that will likely fester for years now.
True mini never wanted to be Ashoks beti. he was still biological father to her but she always felt ashamed for being his biological daughter. She has said this also few times. Babita used the very same thing to hurt her badly by saying that she is after all ashoks beti.
Maybe if mini HS would have wholeheartedly accepted each other as father daughter she could have taken more pride in being called HS daughter. It would have freed her of ashok one day. Todays scene showed that but HS never spoke up. If only he had said what was in his mind.
She's literally been in the same outfit since last Friday....lol even HS finally got to change in the precap....but she's still stuck in the same clothes.....maybe Monday's epi will bring a change of clothes as morning dawns for her leaving.
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