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Originally posted by: dipali13

Hi nice to know your true fear. I am single mom with 20 years old son one thing to tell you I never ever doubt my son for so cold society period. here for me babes is totally wrong, she listen to kammo and khatri time and again and angry on mini actually it should be other way around she have to listen to mini and HS,NB and fight with mr. and mrs. khatri if single mother don't trues her kids then think about kids mental situation they lost there father now mother also and the feeling they don't have anyone to call family is scary for them. I am totally disagree with babes here.

Its not just about so called society.. Babita was troubled by mini Micky even before Kammo said anything.. she sensed the dysfunctionality in the whole equation

And actually trust is good but blind trust is not.. and Mini has already betrayed Babita's trust to be honest when she climbed down the balcony to meet Micky.. only Babita does not know that

Single parent child or not, every kid needs to be told when they are venturing into troubled areas and Mini is clearly walking on thin ice

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Posting From another thread

Babita’s emotional progression needs to happen now. I hope this happens now. I truly hope so. Babita needs to stop feeling guilty of anything... Of desiring HS, of marrying for love, of prioritizing HS etc etc. Lets actually see Babita’s emotional growth and her healing HS from his childhood trauma. Please cvs 🙏

I am glad Mini opened up about her feeling to her friends too. This was much needed. Also, let Babita and Mini please have a heart to heart conversation with each other so they understand boundaries and expectations of each other. This ma-beti need to communicate more than ever now, without HS, without Khuranas, like they used to before.

As for HS, I am glad he’s voicing out his feelings openly. I am glad he’s getting mad at Babita for hurting him and not hiding behind “is ghar mein koi nahi royega”.

As for Hannie, I have no idea where this is going. They clearly love each other a lot, but maybe need more efforts from each side to finally accept each other as Father-Daughter.

I hope from now he applies his no more tears policy only when it make sense

Originally posted by: inlieu

He was talking about number 1 but she missed his point, again

Yeah she jumped to point no. 2 and she did ask him about why he claimed Mini to be his daughter in the puja, and he said to reassure Babita and for her happiness. Babita didn’t force him to say that. Why would he say that now?

Writers are just contradicting themselves. Pehle they made HS say to Mini “tu first hai” and now he’s claiming to Babita that he did that just for Babita. Matlab kehna kya chahte ho? 🤔

Originally posted by: zehreeli.kheer

Hannuman was wrong about a lot of things today

Babita did nit always have an attraction for him.. clearly he forgot the danda.. attraction was the last thing on Babita's mind and heart till her divorce

Making Mini feel at home does not mean she can invite anyone to stay over

Babita was not there when he called himself Mini's father in hospital from his perspective. unless of course he was trying to impress Lala at that point

Hospital scene said it all.

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Yeah she jumped to point no. 2 and she did ask him about why he claimed Mini to be his daughter in the puja, and he said to reassure Babita and for her happiness. Babita didn’t force him to say that. Why would he say that now?

Writers are just contradicting themselves. Pehle they made HS say to Mini “tu first hai” and now he’s claiming to Babita that he did that just for Babita. Matlab kehna kya chahte ho? 🤔

He's being made to look like a dishonest person but it's not working.

Originally posted by: najma123

Because the wedding with all the jazz and shit left a sour taste in all their mouths.

Not only that, without any labels they were acting kind of "normal" but having the labels for their relationships seems to have them raised their expectations of each other and also made them a lot more self-conscious...

Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

But all in all, HS did say that he claimed to be Mini’s father for Babita’s khushi and to reassure her. Why would he say that? 😕

Because Babita seems to need tags for every relationship...

They have been trying to show Hanuman not really being a father to Mini since wedding.. his return to normalcy immediately after wedding was baffling.. so was his attitude post wedding till he did not know the CD truth.. there was no restlessness, no eagerness of talking to Mini.. all he cared about was Babita so ya.. this I called myself Mini's father to appease you is not really surprising

Originally posted by: _Reka_

Because Babita seems to need tags for every relationship...

Not really true.. it was not Babita who rushed into this wedding.. it was Mini and everyone else who pushed her to confess her feelings

She wanting a father for her daughter is understandable.. Hanuman could have explained her that he does not need to be called father to fulfill father's duties.. that wasn't really a difficult conversation

Originally posted by: deepzz

I was sitting in a group of my female relatives and we were discussing general college romance. Suddenly ladies of elder generation (30-40 age) started saying proudly that they didn't fell in the trap of love...and when we I pointed out that they have husband to fall in love with...they denied the feelings of love. I was shocked. Later, when I asked my mom privately about this she said for women in our society, love/feeling for man (even to ur own husband) are considered taboo just like sex. We women are suppose to control our feelings, our desires and it is expected from us that we shouldn't voice them before our husband also. For men, there is little lineancy. He can speak about them but only to his wife in private and cannot even display affection or love in front of other family members. That's why earlier in the day, the women panchayat were gladly declaring that after their kids reached certain age (teenage for kids and women 30-35) both husband and wife started sleeping in different rooms because they don't wanted to be judged by society for having love for ur spouse after a certain age. Men and women are only expected to get married, have kids and then fulfill their responsibilities/duties towards kids,family and society. There is no place for display of love and no sex too.

So what I understood is 'acknowledgment of romantic feelings towards ur own husband' is a big thing for Babita. Hopefully she will understand that time has changed and it is good to have and share her romantic feelings with her husband even after reaching a certain age.

Thank you so much for this, it explains quite a lot abt Babita... It must be a real inner conflict for her to be newlywed, even in a love marriage, and too old to display any romantic feelings according to society. This might feed into her insecurities big time.