Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi
That scene was in no way the solution to all problems. It was just an initiative from HS' side, most importantly only a apology and a rather important, fundamental one.
Yes, such incidents do happen, and you're bound to remember it again and again and its like a knot in your life, something that reminds you constantly about the bad that had happened. But then that's life. I don't think any relationship is perfect from start to end and complete, unblemished. Breach of trusts do happen and to say that it won't ever be like before is also, somewhere wrong. You gotta move ahead in forward spirals and such things only strengthen the bonds. What I want is HS should give more insight into his own insecurities that Mini might put to rest hopefully.
I needed more emphasis when he said that he didn't know if he'll ever be her father. It just got washed away in everything he said, hell, we don't even know if Mini noticed that!
I think this topic has been purposefully left to be addressed later.
I too think this will be tackled later in. There's a lot of unspoken angst and doubt on either side. He made no mention of his hurt that she didn't think he was her father. He just addressed the issue of trust, which is a good starting point. There's just so much going on under the surface and the fact that he alluded to his fear and low self-confidence made it clear that we'll get something on that at some point. We've discussed his insecurities regarding Minnie at length here, especially how even after marrying Babita, the legal validation wasn't enough. I don't think he will bring this up with Minnie but at some point this will come to bite them both.
It also shows that's it's all fine to call each other baap beti, but in practice it's not so easy. Even if they've seen a lot of things about each other, they still have a lot to learn. She has to learn to become a daughter and he a father. It will take time since they have met only several months ago, where their focus was different. As I keep saying, HS is now going to focus on Minnie at the micro level.
I wanted to add that yes, trust issues can fester but I also know from experience that when there is unconditional love on both sides, it overcomes such issues. You just don't take them to heart and let it go because your love for the other person is above it, especially in parent-child relationships.
There must be many incidents where parents don't trust their children and vice versa. They don't stop having a relationship. The difference is that sharing the same DNA psychologically binds people and in a way encourages/persuades them to let things go. Other times it is just out of compulsion because they are your family and you can't get away from them.
When it comes to dil ke rishte, they are bonds we choose to form and maintain, and while there is no compulsion to maintain them if distrust or other issues come up, it is even more interesting to see how people decide to move forward, in spite of not having blood ties. Only the genuine ones hold on, and you choose to let go of your pain because indeed the bond is more important than your ego or your hurt, especially when the other person asks for forgiveness and is genuinely remorseful.
I am curious to see what would happen in HS and Minnie's case.
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