Shy... - Page 3

I used to have the same problem... i used to think, y am i so shy? y cant i too b able to just state what i want to..? But i have another problem.. my voice is VERY low in volume and ppl are like, can u speak a lil louder?😆
I realised, v're probably shy bcoz its our nature, and their is nothing wrong in being shy. But what adds to it, disabling u to put across ur opinion, is tat we bother abt what the others might think abt us... for this, i just wanna say this, those who mind, dont matter, and those who matter dont mind😃. Just dont bother!
i'm still shy, but i can talk to ppl wen i want to and i can put across my views, though my voice is still low in volume😆. I am like, known by all the students of my school and i do mingle with my juniors and seniors(ex... coz i'm in my last school year) and u can say, i am quite known arnd most students of my school, but i am still shy. I kno.. it sounds contradictory😆.
My best friend is THE LOUDEST and talkative person arnd... she stood for the elections and came second and my other frnd, he too took part in elections and lost by 2 votes. it is wierd tat the most popular ppl at skl are my best frnds... and i accepted them, not becoz of wat they are, but who they are just as i accepted them. We've vowed to remain the best of frnds no matter wat till beyond eternity! Its probably bcoz of them, tat i came out of my shell; they made me realise tat u shudnt bother abt wat ppl might think abt u. they said, we love u the way u are... neva change! not every1 can be shy; but u have to learn to say wats in ur mind... and i did.😳 I wanna tell u the same thing, consider urself lucky, coz not many have it in their nature to be quiet... but try and talk wen u feel u shud.. there r many ppl out there who need a person like u...
I am still shy and quiet and have no regrets abt it, coz tats me!!
Just wanna tellya, its ok in being shy, but not ok if ur not speakin wat u want to becoz others might get diff opinion. You can speak ur mind out, and be urself(shy/quiet) at the same time! Like i said, those who mind dont matter and those who matter dont mind!! If they dont like the way u r, dont bother, it just shows u whoz ur real frnd and whoz not. All the best😳

i hav de same problem 😆...ma dad wuz forcin me 2 join de debate team buh i dun go 2 de meetinx 😆 😆

Originally posted by: Mini786

Welll...
Had a speech giving in debate...
And I think i did pretty good!
I was nervous up there...but being nervous is a good thing as my debate teacher said.
He said that I connected well with my audience.
And I didn't really care what anyone thought...I was just glad it was over..
I think that is a step up....

👏 way to go!

And kudos to the friend who forced you to join the debating thing! She's a good friend! :D

But i think that being shy has a lot to do with our fears of being judged. We fear of being judged, so we don't even try to say or do anything. To interact with other people and not friends, means that you have to step out of your comfort zone. Some people tackle that by being overly loud, some, by being shy.

The only way to overcome it, is to suppress that annoying voice in your head. To not listen to it. When you meet someone new, make an effort to talk about anything. Also, think about it, the other person you're talking to is also out of their comfort zone and is also SCARED to death about how you will judge them.

So just get out there and speak! If someone doesn't like that, well then they can go have a cry somewhere! It's their misfortune that they missed out on getting to know you! Not yours! lol

And as for speaking in front of people...debating is a great start! But also, if you're really scared, speak to the wall BEHIND the ppl. It's a great way to cover up...so you're making "eye contact"....but not really 😆. I used to use that trick before.

P.S the speaking to the wall trick only works when your presenting in front of a class or an audience...not when you're speaking to a couple of people! hehe

Ionno why, but im the exact opposite. Im not as shy as i used to be... So now im like super crazy & random with people i meet..but on the internet, im soo shy...lolz...

well, like I guess you should start being more free like talking with your friends, openly ... like stating your opinions more openly without being scared ... and just be yourself... 😊

YAY i topped the 4th page

Originally posted by: Mini786

Welll...
Had a speech giving in debate...
And I think i did pretty good!
I was nervous up there...but being nervous is a good thing as my debate teacher said.
He said that I connected well with my audience.
And I didn't really care what anyone thought...I was just glad it was over..
I think that is a step up....

ohh dats gud👏dats d 1st step....go on like dis....b frank 2evry1....specially ur frnds....as i sed b4......u wil b grr8 sun😉😊