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@Mini786

Dazzler

Posted: 17 years ago

Hey guys..

I'm a veerry wierd person!
I'm really shy, I mean when I talk to a person online or on IF, I'm not shy, I can b myself!
But when I meet people, at school and other places, I am SOO shy! They don't know the real me and base their judgements on that! I don't wanna be shy, Really, I try soo hard to b able to talk infornt of a person, and b me, but that doesnt happen, all I do is smile like an idiot!
And when I talk infront of a bigger audience i guess you can say, My voice starts shaking!! How do I stop that!
I reallly need some advice how not to b shy.. I'm currently taking a debate class [Cuz I was forced by my friend] and not doing so well because of the whole I can't tlak infront of someone. I need advice for educational reasons and also social reasons...
Help if you can plese! 😳

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Krishna

@snowflake0555

Stunner

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Posted: 17 years ago

OMG I have the same exact problem as you! I'm like really shy, but when I tell my friends on IF that, they just laugh and go "Krishna and shy? Yeah Right!" b/c I guess online I'm like really hyper & outgoing but in real life I'm the exact opposite. I'm like the quitest out of all my friends and while they keep on talking I'm always the one who is quiet & listening. And even though I'm not shy online, I am really shy in school esp. and even around family members that I don't regularly live with. (Cousins, Masi, Mama, Mami, etc etc) In school whenever I have to present a project in front of the whole class or read/explain something to the whole entire class, I get so nervous. I start to shake and my heart beats like crazy and I don't know what to do.😕 There are some types of people that I can talk with and not feel that scared and shy. I don't know why but everytime I talk to like these geeky/nerdy girls & guys I can actually talk to them without being shy. Maybe it's b/c they wouldn't really judge me and they don't talk a lot either. Whatever the reason...I don't know, haha. But I'm not SUPER SUPER SUPER shy, I talk when I feel like it, but not a lot so I guess I'm more shyer then normal? Yeah, even like you, I try to be more outgoing and try to stop being shy but I can't help it...So I know how you feel too.

Sorry I probably didn't help you but I just had to type all that and get it out. ^^ 😆 So umm...can someone help us? lol.😆

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Posted: 17 years ago

Umm haha no im in tuhis dilemma too, haha...but i have got better,

I am the same, Hyper and Chatty on I-F etc, but in real i used to be sooooo quiet, in parents evening they used to tell my mum Saira needs to put her hand up more in class, we know she knows the answer but is so quiet, then my mum goes 🤣 are we talking abt the same gal, as i used to b kinda loud at home. It depended on who i was with like in friends i am both hyper at time and quiet at other times. 😳 I used to be so quiet but last few years i have kinda changed more confident, lolss....like i used to also hate giving presentations and stuff.

Amongst people i knew i was myself but when meeting new people i never knew wat to say so i never said anything and wen goin abroad as i never used to talk much i wuld get mistaken 4 being moody instead of just a quiet girl, as there every1 used to talk lots.

But i dunno how now i am more talktative, i guess you just come out your sheel, so when meeting new people, talk a little...n as time goes on u become more friendly and talkative....worked 4 me....just u grow into it and mre confident, lolss so i happily can hold a convo with a complete stranger in real.

Some people can naturally talk 4 hours and others will never be able to, so don't push yourself to try , if it happnes then it will happen naturally...

As with debates, you can make one point - and that shows the teacher you are making an effort to contribute as it goes on you will find yourself havig more to say 😳

In debates and skl stuff we tend not to speak out as we dont want to be laughed at, but trut me no one does laugh- we just assume that they will, 😳

I dunno if i helped or not, but key is to just be your self and relax in the enviroment.

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Shanthy Rajan

@usha_pooja

Dazzler

Posted: 17 years ago

I used to be proper quiet and never had many friends. But, now i talk a lot and made several friends.

My advise is to build confidence on yourself and just talk and talk and keep on talking. 😆

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Pooja

@Angeleyes 2

Rocker

Posted: 17 years ago

Sometimes u can't change that, its probaly ur nature.

Alot of people are loud and it kinda gets annoyn, I think u should let it go, after a time(as u get older) u will see that things will change.

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manpreet

@fairy-land

Inactive

Posted: 17 years ago

Sometimes, your probably shy because maybe you have trouble speaking with others. Try talking with your friends,and then work your way up.

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-Pinky-

@-Pinky-

Inactive

Posted: 17 years ago

u wont be shy if ur comfortable around people.
one way to be more comfortable is to meet them often, start with small convos. after a few meetings u will be urself around them.
u can also pretend that the other person is your best friend, it works 😆

at school, there's nothing to be shy about.
take a deep breathe n go for it!
they are ur peers who u spend around 7 hours with .. y would would they laugh 😳 plus they are not even listening half of the time.. just day dreaming, trust me😆

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lima

@x-lima96-x

Inactive

Posted: 17 years ago

Well...Hmmm...mahak think 2 urself dat da ppl ur talkin 2 are sooooo little (little like ants) and think ur da queen u got all da power u could control everythin (like u do in disney section) and most probely ur shyness will go away!
Hope i Helped

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Sunaina

@coolkitty_23

Inactive

Posted: 17 years ago

Mini, its okay to be shy, but when you have realised that your shyness is getting in your way of getting the most out of life, then there are things you can do..
firstly you need to make yourself ready for something...DO NOT FEEL EMBARRASED..bcoz thats the most important thing about shyness, you are shy bcoz you feel if you talk infront of someone, they would laugh at you and you would be embarrased, but you can get over it by being proactive about it...say you are debating, and you feel you cant speak infront of a whole bunch of people, firstly, when you go up to talk..tell yourself this ..they are no better than you are..calm down, get a grip of how your audicence is, once you know that, just forget that you are talking before a 100 ppl or just to one person, just let yourself out..talk like you would chat, and dont focus your attention on one particular person..try to look at different directions and you will see that once you have started talking, you will finish it without any trouble..but before any debate or recital or anything, talk to yourself in your room, as if you are addressing a group of ppl, or talking to a particular person, prepare yourself for all possible consequnces, ALL possibles..and most of all, DON'T worry what people think about you, because, you know what, they are thinking EXACTLY the same, as to what you are thinking about them..so just relax yourself, be prepared for anything, and if someone happens to be mean enough to laugh at you..give them back..by just laughing with them..trust me, they will be so confused..you have no idea..laughing on the face of your opponent when they r being mean and rude to you..is the best way you can get out of a sticky situation, without having to go nasty like them...but every now n then..give them back with a sweet tooth..it always works!
So dont be afraid of your shyness..you have to accept it as a part of you and use it to your best ability...you dont wanna be the talkative queen of the school neither the shy queen...you have to find your ground in between and you can do that with practice..tell yourself, YOU CAN DO IT and go for it..initially it might be difficult, but once you have done it a couple of times..you will get netter at it...Good luck...
"Practice makes anything perfect, even man " 😉

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lima

@x-lima96-x

Inactive

Posted: 17 years ago

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Originally posted by: coolkitty_23
Mini, its okay to be shy, but when you have realised that your shyness is getting in your way of getting the most out of life, then there are things you can do..
firstly you need to make yourself ready for something...DO NOT FEEL EMBARRASED..bcoz thats the most important thing about shyness, you are shy bcoz you feel if you talk infront of someone, they would laugh at you and you would be embarrased, but you can get over it by being proactive about it...say you are debating, and you feel you cant speak infront of a whole bunch of people, firstly, when you go up to talk..tell yourself this ..they are no better than you are..calm down, get a grip of how your audicence is, once you know that, just forget that you are talking before a 100 ppl or just to one person, just let yourself out..talk like you would chat, and dont focus your attention on one particular person..try to look at different directions and you will see that once you have started talking, you will finish it without any trouble..but before any debate or recital or anything, talk to yourself in your room, as if you are addressing a group of ppl, or talking to a particular person, prepare yourself for all possible consequnces, ALL possibles..and most of all, DON'T worry what people think about you, because, you know what, they are thinking EXACTLY the same, as to what you are thinking about them..so just relax yourself, be prepared for anything, and if someone happens to be mean enough to laugh at you..give them back..by just laughing with them..trust me, they will be so confused..you have no idea..laughing on the face of your opponent when they r being mean and rude to you..is the best way you can get out of a sticky situation, without having to go nasty like them...but every now n then..give them back with a sweet tooth..it always works!
So dont be afraid of your shyness..you have to accept it as a part of you and use it to your best ability...you dont wanna be the talkative queen of the school neither the shy queen...you have to find your ground in between and you can do that with practice..tell yourself, YOU CAN DO IT and go for it..initially it might be difficult, but once you have done it a couple of times..you will get netter at it...Good luck...
"Practice makes anything perfect, even man " 😉

Wow u have explained very well👏

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