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Posted: 6 years ago
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First of all, we were discussing the other day that Mickey and Mini are good as FRIENDS due to the great compatibility they share.

Never did I mention or anyone else mention him being her BF.

Secondly, I had made it very clear that IF AT ALL they'll date, Mickey should very honorably part ways with Preet first. And yes, they do look out of place and forced. I also criticized Mickey for dating Preet out of nowhere, after being behind Mini for so long. Yes he's a casanova.

Thirdly, saying things like getting married early doesn't even make sense. It's ridiculous.

Babita and HS will be the last set of parents marrying Mini off at freaking 18 years of age. I absolutely disliked how our discussions are being discussed via this post.

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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: Nature-Happiness

I am sorry, but I disagree with deefy89...

Who said that boyfriends are needed for teenagers. There are many better ways of having a better life. Unnecessarily having that love factor in your life as a teen, does not mean that the person is totally smart. No denying if you have friends who are boys, there is nothing wrong. But, this love thing at this age is something I hate. Unnecessarily spoiling your life, spoiling your career, spoiling your relations (read relations and not relationship). You must learn to control your emotions for sometime. After you have achieved something in life you can do anything you want to. There is no stopping. But, at this age it can lead to many complications. And if that limit is crossed, then even God cant save you...

I did not say that bfs are needed, I said that an interest in the opposite sex at 18 is NATURAL hence they would be depicting reality if they showed this. That is not to say that the relationship should result in marriage, as 18 is too young for marriage. Having a bf or gf is not going to spoil your life u less a person let’s it. This is where parental education and boundaries would need to come in. Having a bf doesn’t have to mean “love” as so many of you seem to equate it to.

The point I was trying to make is that showing her interest in a guy (not to the point of her being married off) but still showing her not losing interest in all of the dreams she’s had regarding her career, would be a nice thing to see. Perhaps it’s a cultural difference but I see no issue with having a bf at 18. In fact, pretending that ppl don’t have these feelings of attraction at this age by calling them “ too young” leads them to do it anyways but do it in secret, which can be more harmful in the long run. If u read forums like reddit, Quora etc you’d see guys/girls this age very much engaging in relationships (not serious ones) but doing it on the sly and being too afraid to tell their parents, because there’s more emphasis based on “what ppl will say and think” and “reputation” rather than personal happiness.

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Posted: 6 years ago
#13

Originally posted by: guddi01

I don't get why do we need to see a love interest for Mini, let her finish her Studies and do her further Education and her Travel Photography Course and Travel the world. Even HS has said to her follow your dreams and don't give up.

Who is saying we need it?????? And in any case how do having a bf and pursuing and achieving one's dreams, completing one''s studies, traveling the world, etc. contradict one other???

I do not want Babita to encourage this as Mini is still young and I hope that she is bright enough to see the parallel with her own life married at a early age and all ambitions ruined for the sake of puppy love etc.

Minnie will decide for herself. She is a strong, well balanced, intelligent young girl and even more mature than Babita for that matter. And where is the parallel???? They are two totally different beings with totally different upbringing and realities. And what's having a bf to do with getting married at 18????????????????????????????????????????????????? And why will ambitions be ruined??? And who decides if it's true love or puppy love????

Mickey from the beginning is shown as a fickle minded Boy going out with different girls at the same time is not good. Than after chasing Mini and getting nowhere decides to becomes boyfriend with Preeti. Does that not say anything at all about his Character towards girls. I would not want someone like that for my Daughters.

That's your decision for your daughters. Mickey is a young chap, still exploring himself. I don;t want to be judgmental about him. Even a casanova as you term him can truly fall in love isn't it? In any case he has been a true friend to Minnie and she really depends on him for help and advice and he has always stood by her and not supported her when she was going wrong as in looking for a new place to live in, etc. and he has always tried to make her look at different perspectives before jumping to a conclusion. That to me is a true friend. So even if we are being judgmental, Mickey is not a creep by any angle.

He is from a Conservative Punjabi farming family and he has no interests in Studying etc and I can see that if they paired them up another Babita in the making, which is not good as what will Mini have learned a Husband like her Father and She like her Mother looking after her in laws etc.

How do you know he has no interest in studying? In any case he is supposed to be a computer geek and very good with new technology stuff. Why are you fixated on marriage, in-laws, etc? Minnie is just 17 going on 18 for God's sake!!

This would mean taking your Friend's Boyfriend is a not done at all. This is not musical chairs that you change partners without thinking of your best friend feelings etc. In fact I would go as far has to say that Pretti is more suited for Mickey and fitting in with his family and serving the inlaws etc as she more docile and wants to get married etc and would fit in with them. Where as Mini is Bold and out spoken and has dreams which would not sit well with his Family.

You contradict yourself. Preeti is only as old as Minnie. Why such double standards? And why on earth would Minnie take her friend's boyfriend? May be they will break up, who knows????????? They are just kids after all.

I don't get how some will justify it by saying Mickey and Preeti don't look good together. Really this is crazy. Going as far as to say that a childhood friend is not good but a boy of a few months is a better friend really. Oh my.

Whaaaat??? You judge friendship by the amount of time spent with a person. How many years versus just a few months?? What about compatibility, sharing of ideas, same world view, etc.? Who does Minnie confide in? Mickey or Preeti? Who does she turn to immediately when she needs help? Mickey or Preeti?

In Friendship you can have a good friend who is a Girl or a Boy.

But I cannot get over this Mentality that when a Girl turns 16 years or so than she has to have a boyfriend no wonder there are so many issues regarding this harassment of young girls is crazy and many ruined young girls life's without z bright future etc.

No one is saying they HAVE TO have a boyfriend or girlfriend but they are teenagers and it's natural for them to be attracted to the opposite sex and these days at least in big cities like Delhi, Mumbai, etc., kids of that age do have bfs or gfs. No one knows if it's for keeps or not. It's normal. And no it's not going to make them neglect everything else. Kids these days are extremely smart, aware, pretty grown up and know their priorities and know how to balance things. They are very different from how we were.

And than on the other hand we worry about what will people say but ok for young girls to have boyfriends instead of studying and making something of there life's is crazy. Will people not talk than as well.

Is this for real. Please don't show this as there is already a big problem regarding this chasing of young girls with fatal results. Let us show that Girls too can have ambitions and reach for the stars without going the typical route girl reaches 16 to 18 years meets a boy and gets married while they are still children themselves without any ambitions in life and reaching for the stars is something that all Girls should be allowed to do instead of going the typical Marriage route of Marriage the minute they hit there teens is very sad and having children while they are still children themselves.

So sad.

I find this post really regressive. In fact the topic discussed here has nothing to do with girls' emancipation at all!!

I really don't understand what the problem is!!

And I fail to understand why you immediately think of marriage, shackles, etc.

This is the 21st century hello!

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Posted: 6 years ago
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Mini can date at the age of 17 and not get married until 27, or even later. Her life her choice. Just because you start dating or love someone, doesn’t mean that you need to get married right away. Especially Mini is just a teenager, she needs to explore herself first, fall in love, have a heartbreak, learn from it, focus on her career. Aisa nahi hai ki ladka ladki ek dusre ko pyar karte hain at the age of 18, and they immediately need to get married. People need to get over this mindset that pyar huya = immediate shadi.

They can date, fall in love, focus on each other’s carrier and become independent, maybe travel together, live-in, and get married when they feel it’s the right time for them to get married

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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: deefy89

I did not say that bfs are needed, I said that an interest in the opposite sex at 18 is NATURAL hence they would be depicting reality if they showed this. That is not to say that the relationship should result in marriage, as 18 is too young for marriage. Having a bf or gf is not going to spoil your life u less a person let’s it. This is where parental education and boundaries would need to come in. Having a bf doesn’t have to mean “love” as so many of you seem to equate it to.

The point I was trying to make is that showing her interest in a guy (not to the point of her being married off) but still showing her not losing interest in all of the dreams she’s had regarding her career, would be a nice thing to see. Perhaps it’s a cultural difference but I see no issue with having a bf at 18. In fact, pretending that ppl don’t have these feelings of attraction at this age by calling them “ too young” leads them to do it anyways but do it in secret, which can be more harmful in the long run. If u read forums like reddit, Quora etc you’d see guys/girls this age very much engaging in relationships (not serious ones) but doing it on the sly and being too afraid to tell their parents, because there’s more emphasis based on “what ppl will say and think” and “reputation” rather than personal happiness.

Agree with every word. I guess my post also says more or less the same things. In fact I had wanted to add your last point about how youngsters end up doing it on the sly in any case which in fact ends up giving rise to all the issues the poster has mentioned such as ambitions studies taking a back seat, etc.

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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Mini can date at the age of 17 and not get married until 27, or even later. Her life her choice. Just because you start dating or love someone, doesn’t mean that you need to get married right away. Especially Mini is just a teenager, she needs to explore herself first, fall in love, have a heartbreak, learn from it, focus on her career. Aisa nahi hai ki ladka ladki ek dusre ko pyar karte hain at the age of 18, and they immediately need to get married. People need to get over this mindset that pyar huya = immediate shadi.

They can date, fall in love, focus on each other’s carrier and become independent, maybe travel together, live-in, and get married when they feel it’s the right time for them to get married

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Totally agree

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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: Padmajaan

Agree with every word. I guess my post also says more or less the same things. In fact I had wanted to add your last point about how youngsters end up doing it on the sly in any case which in fact ends up giving rise to all the issues the poster has mentioned such as ambitions studies taking a back seat, etc.

Exactly and parents don’t even realise the double lives that their kids lead. It would be nice, seeing as they’re showing babita and mini as breaking the usual bounds of mother daughter relationship and being “friends”, if they can show an open relationship (not just one sided like in babitas this case). It’s shocking to see some of the things young ppl do to feed their very natural curiosity, but have to hide because of this constant pressure of stigma they’ve got to carry.

There’s a saying about how strict parents bring up the best liars. I think it couldn’t be truer.

Way back when who’d have thought they’d show a tv show in India about a woman divorcing and then remarrying whilst having a 18 yo kid. Similarly I don’t think it’s too far fetched to show a 18 yo having a bf (not a serious relationship) and being successful in her career

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Posted: 6 years ago
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Originally posted by: LoveInAutumn26

Mini can date at the age of 17 and not get married until 27, or even later. Her life her choice. Just because you start dating or love someone, doesn’t mean that you need to get married right away. Especially Mini is just a teenager, she needs to explore herself first, fall in love, have a heartbreak, learn from it, focus on her career. Aisa nahi hai ki ladka ladki ek dusre ko pyar karte hain at the age of 18, and they immediately need to get married. People need to get over this mindset that pyar huya = immediate shadi.

They can date, fall in love, focus on each other’s carrier and become independent, maybe travel together, live-in, and get married when they feel it’s the right time for them to get married

I don’t think people are mentally ready for this kind of female empowerment just yet (which I disagree with)

All that mentioned adds to our experience and makes us smarter so we are less likely to be a 35 yo babita and more likely to be independent and in control of our own lives. Having a bf does not mean immediate marriage.

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Posted: 6 years ago
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Very nicely penned down.

I'll come up with my inputs soon :)

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Posted: 6 years ago
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So I just went through your post and I find it sensible.

The way story has always been about mother and daughter, it would be really soon for mini to get into love angle. She has been a person who has been portrayed strong. There are so many things going on in their lives and love has never been Mini's interest.

So if out of nowhere they shall start Minni Mickey angle, it would look really weird. Regarding Preet, I feel they can give closure to them and continue with Mini Mickey. But I dont think Mini is kind of girl who will forget all these and move forward with him.

I am with you in this context. Let there be other stuffs in story than adding only love angle. I guess it was not supposed to be a love story as writer said herself. So I wish keep this in mind.

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