Is Mauli unrealistic? - Page 2

Only issue I have with your post is, the third point. Yes, Nandini has often said it's her mistake but I don't see her doing anything for that. She tried to leave the city but Kunal stopped. Then both of them didn't bother telling Mauli. After Mauli begged her to return Kunal, she did that, yes. But thing is, her leaving, according to the show makers is something mahaan. That's what irks me. I get ki Kunal is not some wallet to be returned, then why does Nandini giving him back make her mahaan. She essentially has no rights on him, he is his own person.

This show makes Nandini out to be some angel. That Dua shit with dida. Then Kunal saying, she's the same woman who tried to sacrifice her love for you. That's bullshit. She destroyed someones family and now returning the same family, how does it even make sense. Now you'll say woman's life doesn't revolve around men. But it does involve them here. And won't a woman feel anything when she's cheated on? You build a relationship with love and when it's broken it does hurt.

Sorry to intervene.

But one point caught my eye. The reaction of Mauli to Rajdeep and of Nandini to Kunal.

Mauli didnot let Nandini leave with rajdeep because he was a rapist and that would be horrible on her part since abuse is a terrible thing anyone can undergo. She reacted to him in the way she should have reacted in that position for her friend who she considered a family.

Now, Nandini let Kunal cheat, even when she should have told Mauli about his advances, but she didn't since Kunal was good to her and she was in love with him.

Does being in love with a man means he shouldn't be objected to what he was doing wrong?

Nandini had a chance to free herself from Kunal's persuasion but she fell weak and it didn't take her much, just a baba's word.

No where is cheating equal to physical abuse but is it not equal to emotional abuse.

Just because cheating is not equal to rape, does that mean cheating is fine on anyone's part and stands less intense. Seriously?

Does that mean cheating like that in marriage is trivial while rape is not.

You don't want to compare cheating and rape but you are trying to justify Nandini's action in the situation on the same comparison about how rajdeep was a rapist but Kunal wasn't.

That may make Kunal a better human on broad level but doesn't make him anu better in relationships.

Even rajdeep says, I am kameena and continues doing horrible things, should he be taken sane and not a psycopath and a sadist.

Even Kunal-Nandini say they are wrong but still continue to do that. What does that make them on the same lines of behavioral and psychological analysis.

If a man is cheating on your best friend then the apt decision is to let the friend know about it immediately no matter how great the man has been behaving with you.

The rule says. Never cheat your sisters for a man who is playing both. At one time, Kunal indeed was playing with both and she knew it and even saw it. Kunal didnot dare tell Mauli until she found out herself nd aparenty she was fine.

Why are you even trying to trivialize cheating here if Rape and domestic abuse shouldn't be trivialized in the first place.

Each of them has grave consequences on the victim on one or the other level. Even if they are not equal in intensity, none is better than the other. Both are horrible on their own. I have literally heard people in real life sharing their horrific exeriences of having been raped, abused, beaten and cheated. None of them are better. They are all horrible.

Kunal not being a rapist doesn't make him a great husband to be idolized since he gladly cheated on his wife and didn't even dare tell her the truth. Kunal here was the perpetrator and Nandini became one when she said yes to him.

It would have been a different story if Kunal already had a failed marriage and then Nandini found support in him. He cheated right in front of her and she did nothing to stop his advances when she clearly had the chance. Nandini lost it for me the day she said YES. It was her conscious decision to give in to Kunal nd not a force on her. That day she chose man over a friend even when she had suffered in hands of a man. In most cases, such an abuse make women resent man in every form, especially the stranger man. Kunal was very much a stranger to her even he saved her countless times. She literally put him on the top, even when she was treated same by each of Kunal's family members. Mauli was the channel between the Kunal and her and she literally overlooked the human channel. And she was not just a mutual friend, she was the wife and her best friend for 20 years and that makes the while difference which clicks on a competely different level to any human mind, especially one who understands commitment. Friendship like that is precious and isn't a casual one. Imagine one's sister cheating with her husband. That's terrible on every level even if the sister had a terrible past to suffer. It doesn't make this any less grave.

Saying that I know I am doing wrong and still not doing anything to make it stop is a sign of sociopathy by clinical terms and definition of psychology. You can refer it anywhere.

Most of the cheating offences are counselled under that.

Even when they know the divorce is near the situation is vulnerable and still they don't have decency to wait for it.

Kunal has never beean a saint and any better but Nandini too hadn't been any better in this particular mess. None is justified in this, even Nandini's horrible past doesn't have a say in iy since both the situation are completely unrelated. Only if rajdeep wasn't brougjt again and again as a plot device to unite them, the affair was a completely different thing.

Rajdeep is a psycopath and sadist when it comes to Kunal and especially Nandini. Kunal-Nandini are sociopaths when it comes to Mauli. Any psychologist would give the same analysis on studying their behavior and actions.

There can be and cannot be reasons for such kind of behavior but psychology cann't ignore the results of that behavior and that makes a huge difference.