I sympathise with Pooja to an extent - Mera Sab Kuch - Page 2

Pooja falling out of love is not a problem here. That can happens. That's the reason for many divorces as well. But as you have promptly said the way she handled things were not good for her or the people around her.

Her reasons and her feelings were shown wonderfully, she fell out of love with him and was frustrated at his immaturity and childishness. yes Adi was a good friend but he wasnt a "good husband However that does not condone cheating in any way shape or form.

I think some what the same .
If love is found second time it's not a sin but hiding that fact and staying in first relationship is totally wrong .
Be clear in what u want
Riding 2 horses at a time is hurtful and dangerous.
Communication is basic rule in a marriage.
If Adi was not perfect communication would have worked .
Relationship are not pix perfect a couple needs to build brick by brick .

If u think the second person makes u happy go ahead but communication with first person that's hubby is more important.

Pooja is no where close 2 maturity, if she was a mature then sbe would had not created an illusion that i m a perfect wife but adi is not giving me luv. No where in diary pooja mentioned that she tried 2 communicate with adi, infact why would d lady communicate with Adi when she already found luv.

Thanks Ananya for this post. A much needed one. Interesting to know how so many of us hv different opinions regarding the same situation. For every one who is going to ask how can u sympathise with Pooja? Nobody is sympathizing or saying she is right. All we are saying is there is nothing like Black or white .Things are not Always RIGHT or WRONG. There cud b something in between.

Originally posted by: ssnehaaa

Thanks Ananya for this post. A much needed one. Interesting to know how so many of us hv different opinions regarding the same situation. For every one who is going to ask how can u sympathise with Pooja? Nobody is sympathizing or saying she is right. All we are saying is there is nothing like Black or white .Things are not Always RIGHT or WRONG. There cud b something in between.

We are not saying Pooja is right but we can understand why it happened.

I even mentioned in another thread regarding this...

Aditya loved Pooja but he was not in love with her and every wife needs love .

Some people in this forum are saying that just bcz he dint go for poet recitation ,she started having affair🤪

This is not about poem or football. It's about being with each other, taking interest in what your partner likes etc. Adi was shown like a selfish 3 year kid. If he wants to watch football he wud take Poo with him but if she wants to go somewhere, then he wouldn't accompany her bcz he isn't interested in it .Why shud Pooja put in all efforts and Adi wil play video games??

Isn't marriage about commitment and efforts from both sides?

Generally in India people feel If your husband is not abusive, and is friendly n nice and doesn't hit u, then it's ok to be with him happily .There is something called EMOTIONAL intimacy. Every girl dreams of marrying a man who wud sweep her off her feet. Jo uske liye chaand Taare Tod aayega .Who would loved her madly . That madness and Junoon was not there in Adi poo marraige.

Aditya loved her but HE was Not in Love with her.

You make sense girl...see infidelity exists for several reasons...fewfor lack in physical pleasures,few lack mental connectivity..few.are insensitive souls who just roamround like dogs...here in Pooja's case was different...I feeling Pooja was interested in harsh as he would have been the good listener.they would have had a better mature compatibility than what Pooja and ADI had...I just want to know ADI and Zoya's state before judging Pooja and Harsh..I don't find anything wrong with Zoya.,may be again she is lacking the maturity which ADI would have expected at that point of time...