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I might be in the minority here, but I can understand what Pooja was going through. For someone, who loved her Best Friend and Husband, who considered him as her "Sab Kuch", breaking that relationship would require a legitimate reason. I know many of you are saying that her justification doesn't make sense and all of that. but I really feel it does make sense. And besides, they just began the flashbacks, there is a lot more to be uncovered. However, being an independent, young and educated person myself, I know I cannot live with a guy like Adi in that state (Pooja's Adi, not the current Adi). It's not because he is immature or that he is a pilot so he is always away. It's because there is a difference between being best friends and husband-wife. You can definitely be best friends and a couple at the same time. In fact, if that works out well, there couldn't be a better marriage! But it's imperative to have a balance between the two, which clearly severely lacked in Pooja and Adi's relationship. If I was in her place, I would have definitely spoken to him and tried to solve the problem instead of running away from it. Because you need to share your problems, compromise and work hard for relationships to work. If someone meant that much to me, I would never even think of giving up on that relationship.
Mostly, relationships are more successful if they are based on friendship. However, Bepannaah shows the story of a couple whose relationship wasn't successful because it was based too much on friendship.
There is no reason in the world that justifies infidelity. And the same goes in this case. Pooja made two big mistakes and they were
- Communication - The three most important things in a relationship are trust, honesty and communication. She didn't try communicating with Adi what her problem was (As per the story till now). She could have atleast tried to make him understand her feelings and expectations for their relationship. She should have held her stand in front of him instead of being the one to always compromise and give in, just because she didn't want to hurt his feelings.
- Cheating - I understand what led her to lose faith and love in her marriage. It is okay that she found love outside her marriage because she couldn't find love within. But, cheating is never the answer to that. I understand she didn't want to hurt Adi and their family's feelings... but cheating and having an extra marital affair makes it worse because that will hurt them more. She should have ended her marriage in a dignified manner with a divorce and then enter into a relationship with whoever she wanted. This would have changed the way people view her now.
However, I genuinely feel bad for her. Her way of handling the problem was the main problem. I am not justifying her affair, I never will. All I am saying is that, it is okay for a person to fall out of love. Real life is no fairytale. One doesn't have control over their feelings.
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