Empathy, where art thou? - Page 5

Originally posted by: malikakas

I thought empathy was demonstrated when Suman understood how hurt Shravan was. But I also understand her inability to confront the issue. If I put myself in her place, I don't think she really knows what to do.

You said somewhere that you initially identified more with Sumo than Shravan... for me its become the opposite. Initially I understood Shravan more than Sumo. But in the wedding episodes I've really come to empathize with Sumo.

Its not that I don't empathize with Shravan anymore its just that I don't see him empathizing with Sumo's predicament. First of all he knows he was incredibly condescending the way he first offered her the PCT papers. After everything that happened he knows that she had good reason to not take his help. Lately his entire complaint has been about Sumo's inability to take help from anyone proving his father's doubt correct. Given that bias he has the ability to understand there was likely more to the story with her taking Aditya's help. But instead of finding out the truth, he let his own jealousy and insecurity blow up their relationship. Understandable but a mistake nonetheless.

Whereas Sumo, despite the tremendous pressure she has been under in this arc, has still cared for Shravan's emotions. The things he said in the PCT were incredibly hurtful, even then she had no desire to hurt him purposefully and she still gave him the benefit of the doubt of how hurt Shravan was. But she's in a terrible situation. Adi, Nirmala, Nanu, Ramnath and Shravan have given her very little choice in how she reacts. The whole story started with her trying to distance in herself from Shravan after Ramnath's blackmail. But she still had some faith that their relationship could withstand the pressure. But with how Shravan reacted, it would be hard for her to believe that anymore. If she goes to Shravan will he listen to her? Will he listen to her without having to explain the Ramnath thing?

I agree with you completely... Sumo is acting so stupid. 😡

Yes, Shravan is upset, but what do you expect, Suman? Sumo dismisses him at every turn, won't listen when he wants to share his feelings with her, is hurt when she puts someone else over Shravan (her best friend) and expects Shravan to be totally cool. Are you kidding me? 🤢

I know Sumo is in a tight spot, but she is not helping anyone by keeping secrets from Shravan. I feel sorry for her but I don't like the way she is keeping so much from him when all these secrets affect his life so significantly.

Shravan already feels betrayed. The least Suman can do is tell him what the situation is and why she agreed to marry Aditya. He deserves an explanation if not as her significant other then at least as her friend. Shravan is being too hard on her but her not trying to resolve issues are not helping matters. Imagine his hurt when he finds out what Ramnath did and who Aditya is to his sorry excuse of a mother (Nirmala). Sumo keeps hiding things and when things go wrong and Shravan has a painful outburst, she is the one who is wronged instead of Shravan? Wah! Chori pe seena zori !!!😕


As you said, where is Suman's sense of empathy and sympathy? I wonder.
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Originally posted by: QUIRKY333

@chick - i will have to disagree with you on this.

you think this news will not rattle shravan any more? the mother who forgot to nurture him, showered his share of love on someone else's son - how will that not affect an abandoned son? and its not like nirmala left because of any fault of shravan! he was/is a victim of parental discord and has lost out on something as big as a mother's love - for reasons better known to the mother. remember during one of the interim tracks he told sumo that he wished his mother was dead - as atleast he would have known why she could never come back to him, even if she wanted? to me the last part is very significant - even if she wanted.

his mother conveniently moved on (prima facie) - as is sumo - and to the same person - this should spiral him out of control!

also, as for suman - it should not matter if she has control over him - but in her head, she should be dreading the consequences of the information on her once best friend (And apparent love of her life) - i do not see that - and that is disturbing.