And she has spoken and how. If it took Box to write about this then I don't know what to say.
I have loved Manik and Nandini, MaNan and the show. Yes through them I knew Parth and Niti. Of the two , I maybe accused of being biased towards Niti for the longest, which I am sure her Stans will not agree, now. But the fact of the matter is for me it was about their excellent work for the show.
Before I start, Parth and Niti , get tremendous hate, name calling on sns. In no ways it;s justified and I will encourage their stans/fans to look and introspect in their own groups and see who spews venom for any one of them. Regulate All.
I agree with Box, we fans , i will include myself, tend to be emotionally vested. Some of us are horrible when we mud-sling each other and , even you, actors for your work and personal choices. Wrong . Absolutely , wrong. Personally I find , even the way fans , comment on celebs's random "hellos" , pics and cry if you guys take a break from sns .But that is just me, i understand , emotions.
Fan-Celeb relationship is complicated and it needs introspection and a sense of responsibility from both ends.
Yes, fans are not obliged to send you gifts, invest their time and emotions in you but then thats what you yourself quantify as "love" and appreciate their support. In many ways there is enabling too. I don't blame you. Your career is based on brand equity , having these fans and the viewership pull. Hence there is a need for fan accountability and a Celeb accountability.
I was appalled when one of your cast members on social media while defending your Mentor/Guide/Current Boss , called your work as "inappropriate pleasure" .
As a woman, I was disgusted , wondered how you felt and fought for you , agitated then. But guess that doesn't matter. I was also appalled when other cast members would troll your scenes and your work jokingly , they called themselves your friends ,but then there was that. There was another co-star, who took to sns and trolled your scenes in the most crass manner. Sigh. Some of the bashers/haters who were fans of other actors tried maligning your work .
These fans, the ones who loved and cherished your work, reacted. Some of us fought for the integrity of your work.
But then, they now realized it was never your Employer ( BBC-Myleeta , who by the way you wanted us to ask for JDJ) , your co-workers who trashed your work in media, were responsible for making you suffer through tough times.
Making you work uncomfortable scenes was not them but the Fans and their love.
As a fan, I apologize, because I took your iv where you mentioned how you were bringing reality to indian tv and there is nothing that you have done which our generation hasn't already experienced and the object was to cater strictly a very professional portrayal of our times. I was proud , i applauded and I was assured.
Yet here we are, hearing about your sacrifice of self-respect, integrity, comfort , working in a torturous environment , going against your family's sensibilities for "Fan love". I feel guilty and sad.
I would not live with the tag that as a fan you made compromises on your principles and comfort . Because as a fan , i have no right to dictate on your professional and personal choices . I can agree/disagree but there is no way , i can influence the decisions you take.
I don't understand, are we suppose to revere the person who gave you the break , I don't understand how he plays out in our equation.
He might be someone great for you, but unfortunately, I won\t feel "comfortable" watching his shows- hence my choice and my voice. My love for your work is limited to that.
But if we don't influence your personal live. Or your professional life. How did we end up being the ones you chose to accuse for being the reason why you did what you had to for the show. The insinuations that you were made to do something that you considered cheap or was uncomfortable because of us , fans, extremes, moderates ..any which one. Why Niti?
You mentioned how these fans didn't bash'/criticize the choices made by other co-actors who are working for your current boss? Well, maybe you would have wondered why your pile of gifts was more than them . Or maybe why you trended and have a much bigger fanbase than them. Or how much the show skewed towards your character and your arc because of fans loving you more than them. I never saw you point out the differentiation then. But alas, Niti, fans invested in you, they cheered for you.Not them , because of your work.
Also, the person you are working now, is your Choice. Nobody has a right to question it, yes there will be opinion , but nothing can influence you. Also, if you choose to work with an actor who you were not comfortable in the past or had issues. it is neither his or the fans fault. But your choice. Please, self-respect , first.
Your grudge against unfavorable treatment is a management issue. As your fans, we cannot do much there, perhaps , take it up with Myleeta or even the ex-mtv head, your current boss , who was largely part of the show when it started. Why did he partake in this differentiation. I feel strongly about this and I will stand with you, if you take the fight to them. I must say, you should ask your Boss why he had this differentiation?
No girl should compromise her comfort level for anyone especially for fan love. Or for anyone. If you could say no to them and make so many important decisions in your life without considering them then what stopped then?
A fan , I might not be of you, MaNan - Yes.
How am I suppose to appreciate your work or your ethics when you say you were uncomfortable doing those scenes? How do that reflect on your own thought process about your work. You think what you did was cheap? Crass, vulgar- is that your impression of your own work then why did you partake in it?
But as a woman , I feel disturbed, please - Learn to say No . Like you do for all your other choices.
Veer Hanuman
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