When is No a NO ?

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Forget about Fan wars, but when a girl says NO, why don't men understand it means NO.

It does not mean Yes, maybe, later etc ...

Do we Girls have no mind, no choice of our own ?

Do our supposed "true love" have no respect for our decisions ?

Walking in a Girl's room at 2 in the night and locking the door from inside, is it not violating someone's privacy at all ?

Threatening to kill yourself to force a girl to come and meet you, there is nothing wrong with this ?

... Lots of posts have already been made on this. But i am appalled at how makers have chosen to show lakshya's "love" ... I in fact was looking forward to a love triangle but this is just violative and disgusting. Whatever this is, this is not love

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--Anna--

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Posted: 9 years ago

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And then we wonder why India is a country of rapes and acid attacks! 🤪

I am appalled by the thought of girls in the forum. As a girl, and a married woman, If I am saying NO, I mean it is a big fat NO. Sorry to burst the bubble of all the teenage girls - but there is nothing romantic about saying NO and thinking that it is a yes. It is wrong and that is where all the problems of obsession and craziness stems from.

When I say NO, my husband knows it is a NO. My ex did not and he was such a pain for a while. Assuming that a girl ki NO mein uski Haan chuppi hai is the silliest excuse by silliest of men. Don't support it at all.

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Cogito_Ergo_Sum

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Well said bips.

I wrote this on a thread the other day too. NO means just NO. Not a maybe or try again later/harder. Lucky is clearly degenerating into harassing stalker territory, which is ok as long as the behavior is shown to be appalling, unacceptable and repulsive. It just can't be termed love of any kind.

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Cogito_Ergo_Sum

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Posted: 9 years ago

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BTW how are your exams going. You've been missing for a while 😊

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Thank you guys ... its not about swalak or swasan ... i just hate this mentality "Ladki ki Naa mein uski Haan Hai"

This as you rightly said leads to stalkerish situations ...

He threatens to kill himself, she goes to meet him and he assumes that she loves him

She gets kidnapped and is terrified, she hugs him for comfort and he will think she loves him

This is just freaking disgusting. NO MEANS NO. We have brains and we use them too. When we say no, it is not an invitation to harass us

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sonal

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Bang on post dear

I m a girl

N being a girl i dont think if m saying no toh it means a yes

A no means a no

N i dont know about past love n all but the truth is swara is married to sanskaar n not lux whatever the circumstances were but still they got married n now she is in her sasuraal n maheswari r her in-laws n i dont think they will feel happy agar unhe pta chale ki at 2:30 lux ji n swara r together n that too in a room

Come on yaar i know we r living in a free country india is a developing country n all but still there r some rules

There is a line between being open minded n cheap

Lux's act was plain disgusting...whatever the reason is but now she is someone else's wife

N i dont think there is any justification for this

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bips

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Originally posted by: CogitoErgoSum
BTW how are your exams going. You've been missing for a while 😊

Just got over. So i am back. Did not go well at all. I wish i drank alcohol. I want to get tunn! .. but i hate the taste. 😛

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TVaddictz

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Posted: 9 years ago

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We can't blame the makers for showing such regressive things,can we? 😕

TV is supposed to cater to the so - called rural people and TRP " AUNTIES " afterall .

But what appalls me is when I log into online forums and see so-called EDUCATED people defending such heinous acts against women , who eventually are women themselves 👎🏼

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Sree

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Posted: 9 years ago

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True ... but earlier when Swara said no he walked away why can't he just do that now??? I'm trying to figure out what type of love is this, I mean he is stalking her, harassing her, forcing and god knows what not... There is no love triangle here... she is not confused or anything when she said i don't love you any more... somebody needs to make him understand that a "No" never means "yes" it always means "NO"

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sonal

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Posted: 9 years ago

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Originally posted by: Sree8410
True ... but earlier when Swara said no he walked away why can't he just do that now??? I'm trying to figure out what type of love is this, I mean he is stalking her, harassing her, forcing and god knows what not... There is no love triangle here... she is not confused or anything when she said i don't love you any more... somebody needs to make him understand that a "No" never means "yes" it always means "NO"

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Because now he is feeling insecure

Did u notice...yesterday when swara was trying to give an explanation to sanskaar lux turned n saw them

So he is just insecure n just because of his insecurities he is hurting swara n sanskaar both

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