Originally posted by: charminggenie
Anandi should have been a hero , inspiration but sadly she is not even a true representation of a mere human. I detest this need to put FLs on a pedestal but somewhere Anandi had to be inspirational because of the social message attached to the story. Sadly she couldn't be any of it , her words kept getting diluted and she became a white blank canvas who doesn't even have basic human traits- no wants, no desires, no emotions .. nothing. She is told to be this Mary Sue who is given the right words to mug and sprout . Kinda like our politicians , those ones that never inspire but keep sprouting a mugged up speech without backing it with actions.
Young Anandi was ambitious , eager and thought of herself too. Her marriage was an internalized concept. I kept waiting to see her struggle, her slow realization about the wrong which she was subjected too. But they chickened out..rather than making her the face of child marriage and it's ill effects ,they glorified it by making the Singhs' all white and Jagya took the brunt..because he apparently strayed . See that was the turning point. Jagya broke out from his environment and his perspective changed, very understandable given he was also raised with different experiences but then what perturbed was Anandi here, she saw, heard and was given the reality about her scam marriage and yet her fight was never made for her own freedom. It became about Jagya's cheating and not about the horrors of child marriage. How the young kids can outgrow the phase and want different things in life.
She probably would have resigned herself in that haveli even without a divorce which was propelled by others not her own want- see thats how they nullified Anandi, the only time when her basic desire and fight should be there for herself ..they made it all about Singhs'. How do they even go scout-free, she lived on their pity, guilt or what.
I would have loved her to move out, go to her poor parents , lived with them, fought for her own independent identity which is not marred by some badi haveli or a collector sahib. But Alas.
She should have been progressive, financially independent and exploring world and situations but because saas bahu drama sell they kept her in the BV. Made it abut Gauri vs Anandi . Pathetic.
I hated her marriage with Shiv. Simple because here is a girl who should be reeling from the trauma of child marriage and her own skepticism about marriage . There should have been more self-awareness about who she wanted, conversations about basic things like life, ambitious , goals, fears. nada they made it emotionally manipulative with Anandi doing it for her mom, dadisa and the whole khaadan . She wasn't ready for marriage at all.. why couldn't she convince her mother , fight for her wants and space. She just had a bad bad marriage breakdown , was started to live her life and again pushed in an arrangement where honestly how they fell in love, why and the space was missing. He was the tailor made Prince Charming, dadisa wished and viola shaadi. Wow how inspirational, no lesson learnt no thought about the past and what she needs in her marriage, no self-realization.
Worse she was shipped to another place, where again it was saas-bahu with added drama of a SIL . Just what Anandi always needed.
They kept her profession so hollow that one can eye roll at all her social service antics.
She went from being BH's canvass for angst to Singhs' smokescreen for their angst. Who was Anandi?
Worse, after her husband's death, she again returns back to the haveli where her ex-husband lives with his present wife. Holy hell, where is the integrity. Reasons or explanations- dadisa ke liye.
She made decisions for others based on her skewed information and perception . Weirdly then her 'I" is reflected.
How ridiculous was the way she lost her kid..again giving benefit of the doubt..how does this woman goes around living so normally, indifferent , not panicking every minute for that kid .
A social worker is persistent , engaging..uneducated women needs pursuing to change their things, but she gives up on Mangala and doesn\t even react at all .
She comes across a rich haveli wali who does social service for timepass, has no job , hasn't struggled at all. And is afraid to change and live out alone and carve an identity independent for herself.
An argument presented again and again.. oh well she lived for others, worked for others ..goodness etc. Well so did the Tulsis, Kekta bahus .. whats the difference , infact worse she never took charge of any thing. Dadisa didn't change for her , she was a culprit who till date tries to downplay her guilt . Saanchi- umm token lip service. what about her parents , her kids ( such an indifference there)
At some point in life, if you cannot voice your OWN emotions, desires , wants and carve out an identity for yourself or be self-aware. You are not brave .
Rest of the token goodness and lip service is an escape from your own problems and issues.
Anandi is just that.. a label and stale.
Oh but she is a leader .. very real one at that. We have seen her type in various political parties ,wear a saree , mug up a speech and go talk the talk. đ
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