Originally posted by taramira
Khaali rich or poor se nahi hota...feelings se hota hai. If you have nurtured someone with love and care right from the beginning, worried for them, stayed up for them...you are more heavily invested in them emotionally. II is caring by nature but what she feels for SHRAVU she can't feel for NANDU, at least not now until she has spent considerable time with him. Then it is also about feeling entitled to love. She hasn't even accepted DUDes family as he very own fully how will she claim haq on NANDU. It will come slowly and steadily. In regards to her own kids, I am sure SAM will feel for RBs and II's kids what II feels for SHRAVU.
Arey these relationship are so complicated and unfortunately peopl are constantly judging everyone else purely by their actions and without any empathy...trying to understand what the other person might be feeling. That's why attempts are made especially by bahus to be extra nice to everyone on the in laws side lest they are judged negatively.
II is ONE IN A BILLION fortunate Shru. TRULY Appa can hate Bhallas all he wants I dont give a rip
But I mean, she does what she wants, she has no responsibility, they dont expect sar par pallu, they dont expect chores, they dont take her money, her sister in alws have their own dramas happening so they dont bother her AT ALL. Her father in law is a peach. Most father in laws whose wife passes on are usually gentle giants... he is no different. Its women who are complete bitches
Ya feminists can clobber me I dont give a rip
In Tamil we say "Oru ponnoda vazhkaya kedukarde oru penn daan"
Only a woman destroys another woman's life. It happens frequently in joint family settings
Coming back, II is free to pursue a career, a family, help her parents financially, is allowed to be shallow and only shop or sleep or go to spas. Its a dream come tru for any middle class girl
Most spend 3 hours on a chartered bus and have cook two meals from scratch and haggle with hawkers and fill up water in pots of every sizes to fight water shortage, and run to the medical shop at 11 PM to buy "goodnight" to fight mosquitoes
II IS GODDAMN LUCKY!!