Yash told Gurp she is too blunt?

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@cola_gul

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Posted: 15 years ago

#11

hey, im kinda in the middle with the whole situation...but i do think that that w/e yashs mom is doing is right for her son. I mean being a mother she should have a say in who her future bahu will be and who will come and live with them in thier house. I think i somewhat respect yashs moms opinions because shes standing up for what she thinks is right before its too late..i mean she obv. knows that gurpreet wouldnt fit in...(cos shes lived with her for over a month now) ...and before the two keep moving ahead in thier relationship...the mom she let yash know heropinons about gurpreet shich she did. The only thing that i wouldnt agree with yashs mom on was how the day yash came over with he groceries..she didnt let him properly talk to gurp. i think hte three shuda had a convo.

But anyways..i do think gurpreet is an amzing girl...but i dont think she would fit into yashs house....theres proally someone else for her. :)

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Posted: 15 years ago

#12

Originally posted by: patelbrijesh14

I say that there are always two sides to look at. Being viewers we can only see one side. Based on what we have seen so far, they are trying to show both ladies being adamant with their point of views. But I would like to point out that Gurpreet could be a type of person who might not initiate a conversation with someone if that someone doesn't seem approachable. As far as I remember, Yash's mom wasn't very fond of Gurpreet since the first or second week. If someone isn't approachable, it's hard to initiate anything with that person. I think Gurpreet was quite serious about her relationship with Yash and she also knew that his mom doesn't like her, which was shown during their second date. Their second date seemed to have taken their relationship to a bit more to a serious level and that is the time when you wanna get to know the guy''s family. But it was late since Yash's mom disliked her even before that date.

About respecting elders, I agree that it is part of our culture. Having lived in Canada, I have seen how elders are treated here. And I am proud of the fact that our culture gives a different pedestal to our elders. But I believe respecting someone and expressing your opinions are two different things. As a human being, I believe that even a elder could be wrong about some situations and as an adult we have to take a stand for something we believe in. I didn't agree when Yash's mom just got up after she had her say during their discussion about their future. They were gathered to have a discussion. A discussion means hearing both sides. But Yash's mom seemed to be there just to order her get out of her son's life. Indians tend to have this illusion that elders no matter what, are always correct and whether they are wrong or right, should be followed without any discussion. That is something I don't agree with. And that seems to be Yash's mom's problem as well. I understand that may be Gurpreet might have said her side in a different manner. But to some extend she is correct to stand up for herself. Just try and put yourself in her situation. You have gotten to know a guy for many weeks now and all of sudden, mom just erects a big wall between her and Yash. Anyone in her situation would be hurt and angry. And as humans, anger come out one way or another.

So all in all, I think they both should have taken a step forward instead of taking it back especially Yash's mom. Just my 2 cents. 😛
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jasmine_anih

@jasmine_anih

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Posted: 15 years ago

#13

I am not a big fan of either Gurpreet, Yash's mom, or even Yash. I do agree with the post that Gurpreet probably did not make an effort the right impression on Yash's mom. And Yash's mom does have a right to express her view of a daughter in law.

But the first thing is what the mom's have pointed out, your son has been talking to Gurpreet for days on end and you did not say anything then.

Now when he says he has a preference for her you have a problem, or was she looking for a problem. Here is an example Nandita and Gurpreet both ate chicken, and Yash's mom still recommended Nandita. But she said I did not like Gurpreet eating chicken, it was an issue.

I think Yash's mom is a good example of those passive aggressive women who will never out right express distaste but act passively to express their anger. I have lived with both roomates, and an MIL who are passive aggressive. They do not handle conflict well and drag out small issues to an impass. They do not forgive or forget, they fester. One day they are happy, one day they are petty.

If Yash's mom had listened to Gurpreet and tried to handle the conflict and said yes my son has an opinion and I will let him decide and said no in private earlier it would have been fine, but she walk away mid sentence. I think Yash's mom and gurpreet are a good example of mother in laws and daughter inlaws everywhere.

To my point the promo does look bad, but you do not know what level of patience or frustartion gurpreet lives with and the mentors are there to creat drama

I think by the way Rajveer's parents are really smooth, the are not creating conflict with priyanka ..they are pushing Vrinda. You can tell RajVeer's dad does not like Pri at all. But there is diplomacy.

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Amita10

@Amita10

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Posted: 15 years ago

#14

Rajbeer dad did not say that he doesn't like priyanka, but he just want raj to know other girls too and at the end if rajbeer thinks priyanka is the one he wants to be with then they don't have any problem.

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Isha

@Aashi3

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Posted: 15 years ago

#15

😡😡

Originally posted by: nitu123
1 thing i must tel u....u r a wonderful writer 👏👏

last week i 's feeling sorry 4 d gal BUT wen i saw how she sed "rrey yeh kya baat hui...apni baat kahi aur chaley gaye ...?" 2 yash's mom...d "feeling sorry 4 her" vanished frm my mind in dat very sec. 😊... i mean how can u say/talk like dat wid ur elders 😕 ?? & gur ses she likes her son 🤔....bout 2moros precap...dont even want 2 comment bout dat 😳....

i kno yash's mom 's also behaving weird in some point like wen she 's not telling d exact reason 2 why she dislikes Gur....but den also i found my ans...she didn't want 2 point out d negative points of gur so dat ppl dont reject her only 4 dose negative points 😔

but now look @ gur....wat d heck is she doing 😕?? spoiling her own image wid her own hands by behaving like a disrespectful,rude gal infrnt of d whole world 😲 !! is being blunt means 2 b disrespectful,rude 2 ur elders 😕?? she her-self's showing her negative points 2 d world...so i dont think yash's mom needs 2 point out nefing nemore 😳

I felt like slapping Yash when he said she's too blunt..wasn't he the one who said he likes her because of how she is? bold..chanchal..blah blah blah? This guy is confused..his mother is a hitler..the dad is joru ka ghulam..i pity their family. What bond does the mother keep talking about? A bond is created when both sides understand each other and value the understanding..as yash said in the beginning..there are many things his mom hasn't understood..and when the question was asked that what if he likes gurpreet and he wants to marry her but his mom doesn't agree, what will he do? He said he won't get married..does anyone remember that? Everyone should look at themselves before pointing fingers at others. If you put yourself in her shoes..i don't think you would be against her. Yash's mom is rude and stubborn..and if she gets a seedhi saadhi bahu..she's gonna eat the poor girl alive. As i have said before..respect is EARNED..not just given because the person is an elder. I don't blame Gur..because the lady is not willing to listen..she says w/e she wants to say and expects everyone to follow..who does she think she is? Giving orders like that? Ma ho ghi apni bete ke liye..bakion ko apna hukam kyun chala rahi hai? And part of the reason why she behaves like that is because she has no daughter of her own..too bad for her. She doesn't point out Gur's flaws not because she's concerned about her well-being but because she doesn't have realistic reasons for her irrational actions. 😡 There's a limit for everything..after that you just can't take shit like that. If Gur doesn't know how to talk to her..it's because the lady has no manners and doesn't know how to talk to potential DIL either.

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Nishita123

@Nishita123

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Posted: 15 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: axeion
True Perfangel,

Mommy Y always said she doesn't like Gurpreet but she never wanted to tell the specific reasons on National TV. She was never rude to her. Totally agree with ur words.

hello axeion,
Mommy Yash has given reasons....and that too on National TV.........and I must say this one was of the most hillarous reason she gave 😆 She said subah uth ke Gurpreet chillati hai ke mujhe bhukh lagi hai , mujhe bhukh lagi hai......... 😆
I mean come on, is that a reason for rejection ?? even her sons must be doing same sometime, I mean its soooo normal........ 😊

Other thing, she gave reason that Gurpreet will not be able to handle guests !!! Now how does Momma Y know that ?? Chalo maan liya, they live together now so she has some idea of Gurpreet's personality but Giving such reasons on a National TV is good ??

And Momma Y was definately rude to Gurpreet while GP was sitting with Yashdeep and Momma Y asked Pooja to come and sit and asked GP to leave !!!

Momma Yash has all the rights to decide which girl is good or which girl is not. But I did not like the way she treated GP. I am not saying GP is the most idel girl as well , and she was bit rude too, but Momma Yash is older and she should have handled this situation more carefully or mature way, IMHO.

Momma Yash could have explained her son in the beginning of the show only that I am going to live with these girls so wait for my shortlist rather than you choose girl for yourself , If she wanted.

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Isha

@Aashi3

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Posted: 15 years ago

#17

Thank you nishita. Right on girl. 👍🏼

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Nishita123

@Nishita123

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Posted: 15 years ago

#18

I think Momma Yash's main issue is Gurpreet didnt goto Momma Yash in the beginning and talk to her.......just like how other girls went to her and talk to her !!!
Everyone is different , some are introvert / some take time........

If she didnt go, why Momma Yash didnt goto her and talk to her when she knew that her son is intrested in GP.......But I feel Momma Yash's ego comes in the picture here........and she didnt like the fact that when all the girls were interacting with her, Gurpreet didnt go to her and talk to her !!! Momma Yash wants someone jo seedha unke charno mein jaa ke gire :))

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Isha

@Aashi3

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Posted: 15 years ago

#19

Originally posted by: Nishita123
I think Momma Yash's main issue is Gurpreet didnt goto Momma Yash in the beginning and talk to her.......just like how other girls went to her and talk to her !!!
Everyone is different , some are introvert / some take time........

If she didnt go, why Momma Yash didnt goto her and talk to her when she knew that her son is intrested in GP.......But I feel Momma Yash's ego comes in the picture here........and she didnt like the fact that when all the girls were interacting with her, Gurpreet didnt go to her and talk to her !!! Momma Yash wants someone jo seedha unke charno mein jaa ke gire :))

lol i gotta agree with each and every word of yours. She should go back home and her husband should make her feel loved in order for her to understand the emotions between Gur-Yash.